I feel just awful!

[6_Time_Momma]

Last night at work, I saw one of my aides--who I have worked with for over a year-- do something for which I had to report her to the Director of Nursing (who I ended up calling a 4 in the morning over this, poor thing). I so did not want to have to do that. I had to tell her to clock out and go home and that the DON would call her later in the day. The aide didn't mean to do it, but it was unacceptable nonetheless.

I have been thinking about this all day long. I finally broke down and called the DON back and asked her what happened. Basically, she told me the aide met with her and the CEO of the nursing home and they ended up giving her the option of resigning voluntarily. (Unspoken what the other option was, but I'm sure you can guess)

I feel so incredibly bad. I know it was the right thing to do to report it. I know my first thoughts have to be for the residents, but it sure doesn't make me feel any better that someone lost their job because of me.

I am so very upset. I have been crying off and on over this. *sigh*

 

[LoraJ]

They didn't lose their job because of you.They lost it because of what they did. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

 

[wvrevy]

They didn't lose their job because of you.They lost it because of what they did. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

Exactly what I was about to say. Not knowing what they did, I can't say that I would have done any different. Nor should you.

 

[disneymom3]

That is hard. Just know you did what you had to do. She made the choice and obviously it was a bad enough choice to get her fired. Very difficult situation for you, though. Hang in there.

 

[piglet too]

They didn't lose their job because of you.They lost it because of what they did. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

Hope you feel better about it soon.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I would be happy to have you on staff at DH's grandmother's nursing home. You know you did the right thing. Nursing home residents need someone on their side, not someone hiding the truth to protect "friends".

 

[WDWHound]

I don't know what she did, but I am certain you did the right thing. You hold your patients lives in your hands, and those patients are blessed because you chose to act in their interest, rather than taking the easy way out.

 

[Sandy22]

They didn't lose their job because of you.They lost it because of what they did.

Exactly! That person is solely responsible to his/her job loss. I'm sure if the residents were in a position to thank you, they would!

 

[Rajah]

 

[Ariel Wanna-be]

They didn't lose their job because of you.They lost it because of what they did. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

ITA.

 

[roseprincess]

You did the right thing.
I used to work as an RN at nursing homes back in the 90's. It seemed like the nice nursing homes I worked at, the DONwas more on the side of the aide/aides instead of the nurses.
Too much politics with the RNs, DONs, and nursng home administrators.
Too much politics for me. Glad I am a SAHM now and not worry about the nurses aides complaining about their assignments and some of the backstabbing that went on with the RNs themselves.

Rosemarie

 

[beattyfamily]

I'm sor sorry you are going through this. You did what you had to do. I hope you feel better soon.

 

[Microcell]

Think of it this way: I worked as a manager of a home for adults with developmental disabilities, and there was a night staff who became volitile with me, and would cuss me out and just behave strangely. We talked with HR and though he had done dismissal worthy things that I reported and tried to write him up for, he was allowed to keep his job without any reprocussions. Other staff and I had a bad feeling about him, and kept a watch out for anything. I even dropped in on him to make sure he was not doing anything.

Management did not support me, and of course, he abused a person we served. He was caught in the act. He was quitely let go and the police were not called.

I would concentrate on how good your company is and that when someone does something wrong, you are a manditory reporter. Please take that seriously.

 

[experiment626mom]

Bless you for doing the right thing. Many people no matter where they work would have turned a blind eye and would not have wanted to get involved.

Go have some chocolate!!

 

[Disney Debbie]

I didn't realize you worked in a NH! My company is VERY involved in the NH industry - we sell everything but raw food to several here in GA.

You did the right thing. If you felt that strongly - and obviously mgmt did too - that she did the wrong thing - then you were duty bound to report it. My DH's grandmother was in a nursing home for 10 years - you could sure tell the difference in the ones that cared and the ones that didn't. It's up to us to look after the innocent and the infirm. Hopefully the aide has learned a valuable lesson.

 

[jipsy]

So what did she do that was so bad?

 

[gepetto]

How many aides work for you? Do you enjoy being an RN? aw: It sounds like a tough job, especially caring for the elderly.

 

[TiggerCat]

The easy decision would have been to look the other way and say nothing. You decided to take the most difficult path by reporting the incident. It took a great deal of strength and courage to do what clearly was the right thing to do and you should be proud of yourself. It doesn't make it any easier but then again, accepting responsibility never is. Look at it this way, would you have felt any better if you had ignored it and someone lost a life to negligence?

Thanks for making the right choice!

 

[Deafmedic]

The aide didn't mean to do it, but it was unacceptable nonetheless.

I'm probably going to get flamed for this but what did she NOT mean to do?

 

[pw2pp]

Seems kind of sad that someone would get fired (basically) for something that she did not MEAN to do?
Did she make an error, poor judgement???
Just curious.