I feel guilty

[Justanopinion]

DD(4) is in Pre K through the district. She has a folder that we are to check every day. There is the usual colored smiling face for what color she was on for the day(she's always been green). There is the occassional announcement. And then there is the finished work sheets and projects.

Never has there been any homework. Never.

So I picked her up 15 minutes early yesterday so she could go with me to vote. Then we went to run some other errands before I leave on a trip next week. We got home about 6 and election coverage was on. We watched that and ate dinner. I was in bed by about 8:30 as was she.

I went to put her shoes in her backpack today. She had to take tennis shoes with her since she was wearing a dress with dress shoes and there was 9 pages of homework. What?

There has never been homework much less 9 pages. Granted it was only scissor practice. As in like 4 lines on each page to cut out. But did the teacher want this back today? Please tell me I am not a horrible parent. Please someone reassure me that it is okay and she can do it tonight. Why do I feel so guilty?

 

[LuvOrlando]

Sorry you feel so badly Mistakes happen and things come up, no biggie to me.

Did you talk to or tell the teacher it was your fault not hers? When my kids miss something because of me I always own it because it would be terrible for one of my kids to miss out on recess or stand in a corner because of my mistake.

 

[lovetoscrap]

Not getting her preschool homework turned in will NOT hurt her chances of getting into Harvard later on. And if the teacher makes a 4 year old stand in the corner or stay in from recess for not turning in the cutting homework then you have bigger problems than not doing her cutting practice.

Are you sure though that it was homework and not just some "extras" that your dd brought home because she wanted to do them? My kids would do that, bring home extra copies of the worksheets from class or from the scrap box because they wanted to color or cut them. And sometimes they say were "homework" so they could be like big brother/sister or other big kids they know. 9 seems like an awful lot for a teacher to have sent home for homework.

 

[sdarwkcabemanmy]

I agree with the poster who said talk to the teacher.

DS (4 1/2) is also in our local district's Pre-K and he's never had real 'homework' that needed to be done and turned in. His teacher has had suggestions of things for us to work on such as cutting, holding a pencil corrrectly or exercises we need to do that are suggested by the school's phys. therapist (who he sees several times a week due to gross and fine motor delays).

 

[stacyp9]

You're a good mom for being concerned and I guarantee that future teacher's will love you. You are not a horrible mom, just a human mom.

 

[Justanopinion]

Thank you for making me feel better.

I did not get to talk to her teacher. Parents are not allowed into the building in the mornings except for the office. The teacher does have a conference time later in the afternoon, I will probably call then.

Yes it was homework. It has her name and the word Homework written on the top and was paperclipped together.

I guess I just feel bad because as a mom I want to teach her early the importance of school work and homework comes first type thing. And the first time she gets homework in her life and I blew it because I didn't do my job and check her folder as I should have. I know it's no big deal but it makes me feel awful...KWIM?

 

[C.Ann]

Thank you for making me feel better.

I did not get to talk to her teacher. Parents are not allowed into the building in the mornings except for the office. The teacher does have a conference time later in the afternoon, I will probably call then.

Yes it was homework. It has her name and the word Homework written on the top and was paperclipped together.

I guess I just feel bad because as a mom I want to teach her early the importance of school work and homework comes first type thing. And the first time she gets homework in her life and I blew it because I didn't do my job and check her folder as I should have. I know it's no big deal but it makes me feel awful...KWIM?

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You're a "mom" - but you're also a "human".. Don't beat yourself up..

 

[MosMom]

I bet I can make you feel better. I dropped my kindergartener off at school yesterday with his big sister not knowing there was no school for kindergarten. He was there for about an hour and a half sitting in the front office before I went to get him.

 

[LBAK]

I am a pre-k teacher and I too give my kids folders. I can guarantee you I have at least 6 kids who's folders have never been opened since Sept. The original papers from the first week of school are still in them. Don't worry about it. The teacher won't think less of you. I know my parents are busy with their other kids also, some hold jobs, some work different shifts. It doesn't mean they don't care. Don't sweat it! And by the way, I think that's too much homework for one night!