I feel bad and I have to vent....

[sk8belle]

Just bat your eyelashes and say ever so sweetly, "I guess I was just lucky enough to find my soul mate so soon. Gives us more time to spend the rest of our lives together."

My guilty pleasure is reading Dear Abby and from the letters she answers, it seems like more and more people are feeling free to say inappropriate things like they have to you. Her advice is always to respond kindly. Don't let them get to you, Jenny. You are doubly blessed to have found a good husband and to look so good.

 

[hipporina]

I got married at 18 (dh was 22), so I got (and still get) that a lot. I met dh at 15 and we got engaged on my 17th birthday. The only thing worse than being told I was too young, was being told it would never last. I had a teacher at my high school tell me that our marriage would not work because we were too young and young marriages never work. The nerve! We have been married over 5 years and have a better marriage than most anyone I know!

My parents married when mom was 17, and they are going on 29 years. My older sister was 17, and they are closing in on 10 years. My little sister was 18, and they are on 4 now.

 

[S. C.]

Originally posted by Aprille
I got you all beat. I got married at 16 (2 months shy of my 17th birthday - DH was 19) so when people told me I was too young to be married they were right! They also said it would never last. This December we are celebrating our 30th anniversary.

I thought i was the only one who got married that young. I was 16 - DH was 20. We will be celebrating our 33rd anniversary this year. I get some strange looks when i tell people we have a son 31yrs. a daughter 29 yrs. and 4 grand children.

 

[huey duey & luey]

I also look alot younger than I am, esp w/o makeup and my hair in a ponytail. On our trip to wdw in 2000, we were checking in at the airline gate and the woman was going to change our seats becaue it was the emergency exit aisle. She said you have to be at least 15 to sit in that row. I was 30 at the time
Tara

 

[Kallison]

If I were you I would just take it as a compliment that you look young. People used to say the same thing to me. DH still says I look young, though I don't think so. The other day I was in McDonald's kidding around with the guy that I used to work at Burger King. He said - do they have ice cream over there? I said Honey that was in high school and he replied -- well that couldn't be that long ago for you. Wanted to KISS him! So take it as a nice, nice compliment. (Actually I think he was just brown nosing an overstressed Mom with a bunch of kids in tow!)

 

[katerkat]

I went on a Disney cruise two years ago, and my sister and I were never given drinks. Bartenders walked right past us! And I got invited to join the teen program. I was 23, she was 24.

Everyone - including my parents, who got married at the same age - said DH and I were too young to get married. (He was 21, I was 22.) I dread the comments I'm going to be getting once I start showing with this pregnancy!

 

[ladydancer]

I have never had the problem of looking younger. I had the opposite. Everyone always thought I was older. Now that I am older it sucks!

My dd has the problem you described and she gets annoyed. I tell her she is so lucky!

As far as marriages... I got married when I was 18 knew my dh for a couple months before we got married. Had our first child just before my 19th b-day. We've been married for 33 in Nov.

My brother and his wife got married when she was 15 and he was 18. They have been married apx. 38 years. She became a RN and he became a successful builder in our community.

We also have two other siblings married for many, many years. Funny thing is our mother was married 4 or 5 times. So guess we broke the chain.

 

[hipporina]

Originally posted by katerkat
I dread the comments I'm going to be getting once I start showing with this pregnancy!

You should hear the comments I get from people who don't know our situation. I'm 24 and we've adopted 4 kids - 8,6,4,4. Do the math on the oldest- its not pretty! When I took dd 6 to register for school, I walked in the office and the secretary who was there when I was in elementary and has a son who was in school with me looked at me and said "There is no way you have one big enough to start school." Actually, we have two! But anyone who knew me in school (we live in a small town) knows that I wasn't pregnant in 9th or 10th grade!

Whats really funny is that my oldest's birth certificate has me and dh as the parents (standard in adoption) and we didn't even know each other when he was born! We met a few months later!

 

[Trinity721]

Thanks so much everyone, for the kind and encouraging words. I do try to see it as a compliment, but for the most part I just think it's a rude comment. When I'm older I think I'd appreciate it more but right now at 23 it just feels belittleling (if that's a word! ) But you know what I mean. It's a bit frustrating.

thanks to everyone who shared their stories, I really enjoyed them all!

 

[froglady]

Trust me, it's worse in the other direction! I didn't marry until 26, had my first child at 32, and my second at 42.

You wouldn't believe the number of people who told me what a cute "grandbaby" I had. Now that he's 11, it doesn't seem to be an issue. It must be the infant thing.

 

[MinnieM21]

I'm not married yet but I know how frustrating and annoying it feels when people think you're so young. I'm almost 20 and people think I'm 12 or 13. One time when I was buying a lottery ticket and I was w/ my mom and I said something to my mom. And the lady behind us goes "Let me guess? 6th grade?" I had to tell her no "college". Yeah, that's right, I'm 12 and buying myself a lottery ticket...People ALWAYS ask me how old I am, it can honestly make you feel so upset. Especially the comments like "oh are you in 6th/7th grade?" And you have to say "No I'm in college." and then tell you that you'll appreciate it when you're older that people think you're younger. Well I don't appreciate being told I look 12 when I'm practically 20!

Sorry a bit of a vent there..But anyway, I don't know exactly how you feel bc I'm not married but I know how you feel when people think you're really young and you're actually an adult.

I don't even want to imagine the comments when I'm married and pregnant...

 

[floridaminnie]

I'm 29 and DD is 5. I still get carded for lottery tickets and they "examine" my DL which is soo funny. I get looks when out with dd especially when I don't put on make-up and do my hair. I still look 16. It's in my genes, b/c my mom looks more like my sister then my mom. People, including the pastor at our church mistakes my brother as my husband. And then the looks I get when my father and I go out with my DD.

 

[katerkat]

Oh, gosh, I remembered another one! I was a school reporter in Mississippi, so I went to the local high school and another "smart kids" high school fairly regularly. I was ALWAYS asked why I wasn't in class! At the convocation for the smart kids HS, I was told by four different teachers that the students were supposed to sit up front. I was 24 then!!