I don't want to go to UNIVERSAL!!

[DznyLvr2005]

My husband suprised me with a 7 night trip in Septmeber (He gave me the trip for my b-day in January) and it was going to be JUST DISNEY! We already went to universal last year when we went on our honeymoon and I'd rather be home than be at Universal
So this year our friends decided to join us on our anniversary trip. BUT, they like universal and so does my husband and now we have to factor this place into MY GIFT OF DISNEY that my hubby gave me. I'm sooooo mad!!
I'm a total disney lover and don't want to even think about any place else while I"m there. I told him that they can go to Universal one day and I'll go to EPCOT by myself (I LOVE shopping there But he doesn't want me to. He says I should just go with them and like it. BUT, they want to do the 2 parks in one day ticket PLUS the super duper fast pass thing and it wil cost like $150 a person just for one day!!! GRRRRR!
How can I make him realize that I just want to go to EPCOT by myself and I don't care if them 3 go!!! He doesn't get it!

 

[cleo]

So he's giving you this trip as a gift and you're upset that he wants to do something that isn't just about you?

I'd suck it up and remember it's his trip, too, even if it's a gift. Compromise is what makes a marriage last.

 

[ozarkmom]

I'd give my eye teeth to be going to Universal this year so I guess no sympathy here.

 

[Beth76]

Maybe if you stomp your feet louder and pout some more they won't want you to go and you'll get off the hook.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

He KNOWS I don't like universal and it's only because our friends are going with us FOR OUR ANNIVERSARY that he wants to go to Universal. I don't think I should have to. EVen if they want to I should be able to stay back. AND like I said it would cost $150 for me and I don't go on any of those rides. I don't do roller coasters, so I see it as a waste of money.

 

[Kim&Chris]

I am not crazy about Universal either, but if your hubby was generous enough to organize a trip to Disney, give him his day at Universal. It's only a day, right? You never know, it could be alot of fun!! Sometimes I find the very things I dread (like my company's Christmas party) often turn out to be great fun.

You can always make it one of the first days of your trip, so you'll have the balance of your birthday trip in the World.

 

[Prince Eric1]

I guess he doesn't get any say in the fact that it's his anniversary too so maybe he could get one day of doing something he want to do as well? Anyway, have you ever gone to Universal. As I tell my kids, try it, you may like it.

 

[LoraJ]

Then stay home. I'll go.
I think Universal is better than MGM. Not sure what the big deal is.

ETA:
When we go to WDW, my boyfriend can get Disney'd out. I have no problem leavinghim back at the hotel to relax and read a book while I go to the Magic Kingdom on my own. Why don't you just do that while they go to Universal?

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I am not crazy about Universal either, but if your hubby was generous enough to organize a trip to Disney, give him his day at Universal. It's only a day, right? You never know, it could be alot of fun!! Sometimes I find the very things I dread (like my company's Christmas party) often turn out to be great fun.

You can always make it one of the first days of your trip, so you'll have the balance of your birthday trip in the World.

Actually my b-day was in January, so we'll be there for our anniversary in October. If we were going for more than 7 days, than I would probably go to Universal with him. We have tix for MNSSHP on the same day he wants to go to Universal. We don't have a car down there and I have a feeling that we'll miss most of MNSSHP because of traveling back from universal, and I don't even know how they're getting there! Taxi...??

 

[palmtreegirl]

I think you're being selfish. He plans an entire trip for you and you won't take one day to something he really wants to do.

 

[damo]

It takes 15 minutes to get to Disney from Universal by taxi. I think you'll make it.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

I think you're being selfish. He plans an entire trip for you and you won't take one day to something he really wants to do.

He didn't want to go, until our friends decided to come with us.

 

[koopa]

Your hubby likes Universal too, so this will be a conflict with any future vacation plans. I think one day at Universal out of 7 isn't bad.

 

[damo]

He didn't want to go, until our friends decided to come with us.

Sounds like he has excellent choice in friends!!! Universal is a wonderful place. And the super duper thing fast pass doesn't cost $150 per person.

Marriage is all about compromise. This looks like a good place to start.

 

[palmtreegirl]

He didn't want to go, until our friends decided to come with us.

That doesn't matter, he wants to go now and you won't take 1 day out of a 7 day trip to do so. Even after the guy went through all the trouble to plan a surprise trip for you, I'm sorry but I think that's just selfish.

 

[cleo]

It does sound like you're having a little foot-stomp over this one, when really it's not that hard to be grateful for what you DO have at Disney. If my husband acted that way I would be seriously unwilling to arrange anything special for him in future.

The fact you're going to Disney all but one day says he does recognize it's where you most enjoy being. But he's entitled to some fun in the places he likes, too.

It sounds like you really don't want the friends to come along, which I think is much more understandable (unless you agreed to it; if you did, you really can't complain about it now). But if it's really just a matter of you not wanting to go to Universal, I'd consider the fact this is your husband who wants to go (regardless of the friends opinions) and that he's the other half of your marriage.

 

[AllyandJack]

When my friends came with us on a trip to WDW, I had to do many things I usually don't do because I don't enjoy it. Unfortunately, this was my best friend's DH's first trip and my best friend's 2nd in her entire life. They both wanted to ride It's A Small World. The very thought of it made my skin crawl. But, I went on it and we ended up having a good time making fun of the silly dolls and their stupid one-legged dance. Even though it wasn't stuff I would normally pick for myself, we always found some way to have fun - even if we were just laughing at things that had nothing to do with the actual attraction. That people-mover thing has a big sign on it that says, "Blue Line". My best friend and I grew up in East Boston and rode the Blue Line everywhere....so, she wanted to go on it. Boring? Yep. But, not when you're people-watching from up above. I say, go....and just have fun being with friends. Being with friends can make something unpleasant a ton of fun.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

THis wasn't that big of a deal until everyone on here made it sound like it! The only thing is, is that I wanted to go soemwhere else the day they went to Universal, because it would be a waste of money for me to be going there. The only ride I will go on is spiderman, I don't like drops/rollercoasters. I've been there before. We aren't made of money, we paid for this trip with tax money and we got the free dining plan. Does being selfish = having no money to waste??

 

[kellypooh]

spending time apart and having separate interests can also help a marriage last. Personally, I get cranky when I'm told that I HAVE to do something and like it.....tell him that the 3 of them would have a better time at Universal without you.
There's no reason you shouldn't be able to go your way and he go his for 1 day out of the 7 day trip.

 

[DznyLvr2005]

spending time apart and having separate interests can also help a marriage last. Personally, I get cranky when I'm told that I HAVE to do something and like it.....tell him that the 3 of them would have a better time at Universal without you.
There's no reason you shouldn't be able to go your way and he go his for 1 day out of the 7 day trip.

Halleluja!