I don't like my mothers day present...

[ez]

I know this sounds horribly ungrateful, please indulge me though. We just spent alot of $$$remodeling our porch,I have waited to do this for a long time, and now I am being very selective as to what goes on it, because I want it to look just right. Well, DH gets me a $200 fountain for the porch for mothers day, its nice but it doesn't really match, and if I were to spend $200, I would have hundreds of things I'd choose first. But he went to all this trouble, I guess I'm stuck. Anyone else have something like this happen? By the way, there is really no where else to put this fountain, its huge!

 

[antbritt]

ez

Can't you tell your DH that while the thought was wonderful..... You would have really had like something else for your new porch?? I sure that he would like you to have recieved something that you would cherish and adore for this day of your honor as the mother of his precious child (ren).

 

[Cruisin]

I would be thrilled just to get a gift of any kind from my husband .... birthday, Christmas, anniversary or mother's day.

He figures because we go on nice vacations that it relieves him of buying me presents for other occasions during the year

Be happy he thought of you, even if it isn't what you would ultimately like to have. , you could have a husband like mine

Of course, I make up for his lack of gifts, by going out and buying myself whatever I want.

 

[Poohlovr]

My husband asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day (simple--Disney Dollars to spend on an upcoming trip). Guess what I didn't get?? Disney Dollars.

Not a word about them.Just the usual flowers and candy...and cards.

I threw them away when he wasn't looking.

Why bother to ask? I know it sounds ungrateful, but I actually was in tears.
It's just the lack of consideration that bothers me.

Why ask if you aren't going to listen?

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Be happy with what you have. If you want something else, go buy it for yourself.

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

I threw them away when he wasn't looking.

That was rotten!! I hope next year he doesn't even bother, then you can whine about that!!

 

[Cruisin]

anymore unwanted mother's day gifts ?

You can pack them all up and send them here to me

 

[shoes99]

Originally posted by Cruisin'Kroezes
I would be thrilled just to get a gift of any kind from my husband .... birthday, Christmas, anniversary or mother's day.

He figures because we go on nice vacations that it relieves him of buying me presents for other occasions during the year

Be happy he thought of you, even if it isn't what you would ultimately like to have. , you could have a husband like mine

Of course, I make up for his lack of gifts, by going out and buying myself whatever I want.

Robin, I think maybe my husband and your husband are related.
Sometimes I would just lke a card or a baloon....oh well.......
EZ be happy that you got something!

 

[gymnasticsmom68]

Originally posted by Poohlovr
My husband asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day (simple--Disney Dollars to spend on an upcoming trip). Guess what I didn't get?? Disney Dollars.

Not a word about them.Just the usual flowers and candy...and cards.

I threw them away when he wasn't looking.

Why bother to ask? I know it sounds ungrateful, but I actually was in tears.
It's just the lack of consideration that bothers me.

Why ask if you aren't going to listen?

One more thing while I'm still annoyed. Maybe, just maybe your husband wanted to get you something a little more personal than just Disney dollars, go buy your own dang Disney dollars!!!!! I can't BELIEVE that you would throw away cards from your children and husband because it didn't fit into your TRIP TO DISNEYWORLD!!! I can't imagine I've ever heard anything more selfish and self centered in my life, and you should be ashamed of yourself!!!

 

[CEDmom]

I'd tell your DH that you think what he picked out is really pretty but it just doesn't seem to go in the room and would he mind if you exchanged it. I think $200 is a lot to spend on something you don't really like and if you do it right his feeling probably won't be hurt. I know my DH wouldn't be hurt as long as I was nice about it.

My DH gave me a tangible gift but the nicest thing he did was take DD out for a while so I could have a little quiet time all to myself.

 

[Miss Cleo]

I'm seeing a fight erupting here...tension...anger...fire...FIRE...FLAMES FLAMES!!!!

Run! Run! As fast as you can!!!

 

[Bojangles]

Originally posted by Poohlovr


Not a word about them.Just the usual flowers and candy...and cards.

I find that extremely sad. I got "the usual flowers, candy and cards" from my children today. They are special because my little guys picked them out themselves. I would never dream of throwing something away that they put so much thought into. I cherish anything they buy or make for me.

 

[Ragmop]

Originally posted by Poohlovr
My husband asked me what I wanted for Mother's Day (simple--Disney Dollars to spend on an upcoming trip). Guess what I didn't get?? Disney Dollars.

Not a word about them.Just the usual flowers and candy...and cards.

I threw them away when he wasn't looking.

You know , all Disney Dollars is ....is a replacement for "real" dollars. So you'd rather get money for Mother's Day than gifts that were thoughtfully chosen? I never thought some people could get "too" obsessed about vacationing at WDW-I was wrong.

I have to add....what the H*E*double Hockey sticks are you going to tell your kids when they don't see their gifts to Mom around the house???

 

[clh2]

Originally posted by ez
I know this sounds horribly ungrateful, please indulge me though.... But he went to all this trouble, I guess I'm stuck. Anyone else have something like this happen? By the way, there is really no where else to put this fountain, its huge!

Can you tell him you really like the fountain, and really appreciate his time and effort that he put into this, however, due to space limitations with the furniture that you want in there it may not look great when the room is crowded? Can you suggest a smaller fountain instead?

My DH is not always the best present-picker-outer...but he has always been supportive if it needs to be exchanged for the perfect thing. Life has gotten infinitely easier since our DD picks up very vague clues from me, and tells DH very specifically what I would like for b-days, X-mas and Mother's Day.
For Mother's Day this year, I dropped a "this is pretty cool hint" to DD when we were in an office supply store last weekend. I saw a file holder that was on wheels, with a handle thing. This is a perfect thing that could be used to transport craft supplies for when I go stamping outside of the house! It was perfect for me...I was thrilled to get it!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Originally posted by Miss Cleo
I'm seeing a fight erupting here...tension...anger...fire...FIRE...FLAMES FLAMES!!!!

Run! Run! As fast as you can!!!

Yes, sad it is.

Chinese proverb: If you haven't walked in someone else's shoes
don't smell their feet.

OceanAnnie

 

[disneychrista]

Oh how very ungrately it is to throw away the gifts you were given because it is not what you asked for. Did you bother to ask your husband why he didn't get you the Disney Dollars? Could it be he thought you were joking.

Why are husbands getting their wives mothers day presents anyway? You are not their mother.

Put me in the group of people who are happy with anything they get. As a single parent I usually get the school made presents and cards. And I am happy to get those. Next year both my kids will be in Middle School and I won't even get those.

I also find it funny that getting a day without the kids is how someone wants to spend the day that is set aside to CELEBRATE being a mother. Again, I would love to have my kids right now, they are of course at their dad's.

Be gratefull for what you got, not what you didn't.

 

[thelittlemermaid]

Are the ones that my kids make. Like home made cards, paintings, or what ever my son makes at school or my daughter makes at preschool.

When they were alot smaller and couldn't make that kind of stuff, I couldn't wait for the Mother's Days that I would finally get my first home made card by one of my kids.

I could careless if my husband gets me anything or not, I'm not his Mother. I know some might say I'm the mother of his children, but it doesn't bother me. When the kids were to small to make things, he bought me stuff from them.

I wouldn't trade my home made, school made items for the world!!!!

Roses = $30
Bought card = $3
Anything made by my kids = PRICELESS!!!

Ronna

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Originally posted by clh2
Can you tell him you really like the fountain, and really appreciate his time and effort that he put into this, however, due to space limitations with the furniture that you want in there it may not look great when the room is crowded? Can you suggest a smaller fountain instead?

 

[Poohlovr]

I can't BELIEVE that you would throw away cards from your children and husband

But it wasn't my children--they aren't involved here. My children are grown and don't live with me. They didnt get the ONE single rose or the card or the frickin candy bar.

your TRIP TO DISNEYWORLD

Not JUST my trip. This is a trip that I am scrimping and saving for (And have been for months) BECAUSE my HUSBAND wants to go and HE isn't contributing a cent toward the cost.

I am taking my grandchildren and I promised them months ago that we would go. At that time, he said he couldn't go with us and at almost the last minute,(3 weeks ago) decided to go. We were already going on a tight budget. Now, I have to pay for him, as well as them. THAT'S why I wanted DD--to help pay for HIM to go!
Since he decided to go, he has done nothing but criticize the hotel I booked (because it's just a moderate, not an Epcot resort) and the dates I'mgoing (but, I don't have a choice, because it's the only break I have from school)

I can't imagine I've ever heard anything more selfish and self centered in my life, and you should be ashamed of yourself!!!

Still think it's selfish?
Or do you feel like you (And several others here) jumped to a conclusion without knowing all the facts?
Maybe YOU should be ashamed of yourself for juding someone you don't know, especially when you don't know all the facts!

 

[Ragmop]

No...I'm actually completely confused right now.
Why the heck is an old grandfather buying his wife Mother's Day cards and gifts????