I don't know what to do with my DD, I'm ready to sell her on ebay! (long)

[kaysmommie]

I probably would have spanked DD right there in the parking lot of he playground, if the county cop wasn't standing there when I turned around.

DH and I don't like to spank but as a last ditch effort I am not immuned to the idea. I guess I should knock on wood, but DD has been good all day today. We went to the neighborhood block party today and she played with almost the whole neighborhood and got along well with everyone, even the little girl she had previous problems with.

I know I need to be more consistent with her . Thing is alot of times I do let DD slide if my DS is along because if she is bad , he gets punished too, if you know what I mean. At the playground he wasn't with us so I was able to remove her immediately. I have to follow up and stick to my guns, this is the only way to get through to her.

Thank you for all the kind words and . I was a very difficult child and teen. I'm sure my grandmother who raised me , sent me my dear beloved DD from above as payback.

That is something that would happen to me, the county cop standing there while one of my kids has a tantrum. I completely understand about not wanting to punish the other child(DS) who didn't do anything wrong. At least care about your family and want things to get better with your DD. She will be fine just try to be as consitent as you can. You seem like a good patient mom and she will learn from you.

 

[luvwdwfla2]

It must be the age because my DS5 is giving me a run for my money as well. One minute so helpful and cuddly and the next stubborn and disrespectful. This past summer was awful. I actually went back to his Pre K teacher wondering if she had seen anythning before graduation. To make a long story short she felt a lot must be getting ready for new school and lack of a schedule during summer. She was right about that my kid definetly does better when he knows what to expect. Did your DD just start school? Other then that try to stay consistent. Believe me I feel your pain and I am not always the best about keeping my cool. Can't wait to get thru this phase to see what is next

 

[ksumn1]

I feel your pain. I have a now 5yr yr old who's just like your DD. Actually did the exact same thing to me on day leaving the ball field. Time to leave the playground and she didn't want to go. Picked her up kicking and screaming, carried her across to the parking area. Put her in the car and she slipped out as I was putting the ball stuff in the back...ran ACROSS the ROAD before I could catch up to her. I DID spank her and there was actually a police officer within 10 feet of me. SHe called to him to "HELP HELP, MY Mommy's hurting me" His son is on my DD's tball team and he bent down eye level with her and said (Either you calm down and go with your Mom and behave or you can go with me...to the jailhouse" She decided to go with me. About halfway home she started her fit again, unbuckled and smacked me in the back of the head. I didn't dare spank her at that point because I was tooo angry and was too upset to really think clearly. I put her car seat in the front seat, rebuckled her drove home one handed and covering the buckle with the other. My older DD ( 9 ) was with us and when we got home she took DD (4) to her room to talk to her. I don't know what she said to her but she came to me 10 minutes later crying and apologizing for being ugly. And then she also had to tell my DH when he came home. And he spanked her again.

I rarely spank DD. Usually we take away priveledges like TV, movies or video games. Or a time out depending on if it's minor or major and whether it's bad behavior or just tired etc. You have to be consistent and hardest of all, you can't let her behavior upset you. Much easier said than done. There have been a couple of times (like above) when I have to remove myself and her form each others presence and take a minute to calm down and think about the situation. Does she misbehave for your DH (or her Dad) also. Or are you the lucky one?? My DD rarely misbehaves for DH who's much stricter, louder and less forgiving. So I've had to start being more strict as well. If you give ehr an inch, she'll take a mile. Anyway, good luck...it does get better. Until they're teenagers

 

[JimmyJr'sMom]

That is outrageous behavior. Note- You DO NOT hit in anger, you spank to make a point, and sear it into their memory.
*Throwing rocks at other young children or adults is a spanking violation.
*Attempting to get out of a moving car is most definetly a spanking violation.

However, your child should not be able to get you so frustrated and wound up that you are shaking. They are kids. They misbehave. Don't take it so personal.
You are in charge. You are in control. Don't let her take the power away from you. Stay Calm. Be Firm. BE CONSISTENT. She may just be testing you.

PS- You have to punish kids this young RIGHT when they misbehave. Doesn't have the same impact later.

 

[roliepolieoliefan]

DD is an equal opportunity bad girl. She will be bad for anyone, myself, my DH, or my mom (who watches her when I work) depending on her mood.

It seems I get the blunt end of it though because she's with me 90% of the time. It seems today she is actually quite embarassed of her actions from last Friday. I dropped my DS off at scouts tonight and DD and I went to visit my cousin who is my DD's Godmother. I said to DD why don't you tell your God mother what you did on Friday.

Well DD said No please mommy don't tell her. I did though and she wouldn't even look at my cousin. My cousin talked to her about her behavior and DD told her Godmother , I know I have to not act like that anymore.

"fingers crossed" Its been so far so good, so we'll see what this week brings.