I did what I had to, but it was hard.

[PRINCESS VIJA]

I have been to WW several times in the past, and I had started back up in January. I talked my mom into joining in March and we have gone together since then. I have not had success with WW and I am upset with the amount of $$$ I have spent. In the last year I have lost 6#. Yo-yoed up and down and I came to the realization that WW just isn't for me. But, I felt so guilty about my mom. I just wasn't sure how to tell her. Or if I should just stick it out. I prayed very hard last night, and I do believe that God sent me a word...."simplify" just popped into my head, so this morning I felt at peace with my decision. Called mom and met her there. I told her what I was thinking and I could see it in her face that she was dissapointed. I asked her if she was, and she said she understood why, but enjoyed our time together. I did tell her that I would like to get together 1 day a week and go for a strong walk, that way we still get together and do something for our health.

As I was driving away, I felt so bad. I know it is the right decision for me, but I feel like I was abandoning my mom. And it was a little scary too, even though I wasn't following WW, the meetings had become part of my life.

I thought long and hard on this, and I really need your support on this. I am nervous, but I know I have it in me to do this. I also am anxiuos to hear Dr. Phil's stuff. I did buy his book and I do believe I have to change my lifestyle to stop supporting my obesity. I am anxious to simplify alot in my life. My home especially needs to be simplified. Everywhere I look there is clutter, and projects staring me in the face. So I embark on a new journey today....

This is my plan for me

1 Eat sensibly and NO bingeing
2 Journal everything I eat, put it on WISH and also on paper
3 Meet with the Dietician 2x a month so she can analyze my food intake and hand her the journal I wrote out on paper. (this is a free service through my DH's job)
4 Exercise 30 min 3x a week

 

[MelanieC]

Hi there,
Don't feel guitly for a moment. Why pay for something that isn't working. WW's isn't for everyone. I am glad that your new plan includes journaling, because I think that is the most important aspect. I will be posting a talk about Dr. Phil's book later tonight. I really am enjoying what I read. I think it's good and boy is he tough when it comes to making choices and sitting on the fence.

Good luck in your new program, and your mom will survive!

Melanie

 

[wovenwonder]

I wonder if your Mom isn't more worried that you might have 'given up' than the fact that you've 'left her at the altar' as far as weight watchers goes. I'm sure she will come around to understand.

 

[tlgoblue]

You know what?

I'm so proud of you! You did what is right for you. It is always a trial when you need to switch directions, and the hardest part of all is actually making that descision. So, you have that part behind you. WOO! HOOO! Now on to simplifying. It is time to be a bit self indulgent. You have to be when you are on this journey.
It is too important to not take the 30 mins for yourself. 30 mins is not a long time. Start out with walking. That is 30 mins. No "getting there" time, no cooling off time. Just 30 mins. Then add 5 more. Then keep raising the bar till you have an hour all to yourself, for yourself! You can do it! Check back in often! Part of my problem is that I've been away for so long, that there are a lot of unfamiliars on the board. Not that I can't help them, or vice versa, but an old friend keeps me more focused. I'm (still) here for you, and I know, from the # of at goal MIA's, that we do good work here on the WISH.

Keep the Faith!
Tracy

 

[KathyTX]

Vija-

Just like there's really no such thing as "one size fits all" in clothing (who made that bull up, anyway? ), there is no "one size fits all" plan for controlling our weight!

Please don't feel guilty! You gave WW much more than a fair chance in terms of time and money, and it hasn't worked for you. For whatever reasons, you and WW just didn't mesh well. You've supported your mom and your WW friends here really well, and we know you still will. It's just time for you to try a different approach, one that gives YOU control. We don't feel like you're turing your back on us, I promise!

(What would Dr. Phil say? Probably something like, "If you do the same thing every single day for a year, why would you suddenly expect a different result? How's that been workin' for ya?")

Your new "Simplified Vija" plan sounds a whole lot like PartyofSix's plan. Perhaps you've noticed how that's been working for her. I think being able to meet with a nutritionist for personal guidance is an awesome benefit! I would love a chance to do that!

It really sounds like you're focusing on the simple and healthy little things. Give this a shot! I'll bet that a month from now, you'll have learned a lot, and we'll be learning new tips and techniques from you.

Viva Latvia, my little "taking charge of my own life" friend!

 

[nativetxn]

I'm proud of you, sweetie. Finding the plan that is best for <i>you</i> is an important part of being successful. I think it's great that you are going to meet your mother once a week for a walk, or for any other reason. That time is important to both of you.

You have a very good plan in place now, I'll bet you do great, too.

 

[Debbie]

I'm proud of you for deciding to change what wasn't working for you Vija. That was a mature decision. Journalling (for me it's Fitday) has really made a difference. Take it one step at a time, changing little things one by one. I think walking with your mom will be really special. Keep the faith, sweetie. You can do it!

 

[ohMom]

i'm soooo excited for you!!!! it's a fresh new start for you and if realizing that WW is not the plan for you than that step is a babystep to the healthy Vija you are about to become! yea!!

I'm not sad at all that you tried WW - that common ground is what started our friendship - see, now you know why you tried it and now you can safely move on having fulfilled this part of the plan

I'm not sad at all that you're leaving WW - i'm excited for you! If counting pts got you down, then you are very smart to recognize it and try something else that seems more doable for you. That's the hardest part, finding a plan that works for you. Lots of folks are successful on Atkins or South Beach Diet or SlimFast and that's great for them. I wouldn't last a week on either plan and would make everyone around me totally miserable in the process.

You are worth it Vija, don't ever forget or doubt that! Find some good music and a good portable CD player and hit the pavement, you will feel so much better once regular exercise is incorporated into your routine. And with that your new eating plan will even lift your spirits and energy higher.

Have you ever read the Weigh-Down Workshop? It's a non-diet, there is no "eating plan" rather it's prayer and leaning on your faith and God to overcome the obstacles in your food choices. That may be a bad description, it's been awhile since I skimmed the book, but ohiominnie has been very succesful with it. I plan on reading it before our WDW trip so that I can utilize those tactics to push the plate away when i'm full.

oops - i'm complicating things. i'm sorry - bad me! I just happened to have that thought and wanted to share it with you

GO VIJA!!! I'm here to cheer you on and cheer you up on the bad days too

 

[wovenwonder]

Vija,
I know you were very excited about your decision this morning. Then were feeling down after having the talk with your Mom. Just checking how it is going now tonite. Don't let your emotions get away with you. Like I said before - I have a feeling your Mom may just be worried about you rather than dissappointed that you're leaving WW --- so try not to take it too personal.

Let me know how day one went for you!

 

[PRINCESS VIJA]

Oh YOU GUYS!!!!! Thanks so much for being there for me. Your support and belief in me is just so overwhelming. Each and every word spoken here, was spoken right to my heart.

I am doing well! Day 1 is just about done, and I have been happy with my decision. Here are my results so far....

MADE lunch instead of going out to McDonald's (trust me when I say this is a major accomplishment)

Made a nice dinner and we ate at the table! We have been eating in front of the TV for way too long, and as long as I am in charge of making dinner, then we will eat at the table. I need to be a good role model for my kids. Made sure to have fresh veggies and then some fruit for dessert.

Did not binge! WOOHOOOOO!

I did snack a little, but measured out the food in a bowl, and also put the bag away when I was satisfied. I didn't even go for the "I am stuffed". Just satisfied.

I had a stressful event this evening. And I didn't even think of eating, I told DH that I needed to go for a walk, so Immediately when I got home I went for a walk.

After this post, I am going to go journal and then visit a few planning forums, and then read a bit of Dr. Phil and off to bed.

OH, I also did my aerobics outside today. I really enjoyed that, especially when "stray cat strut" came on, but I think I might have scared a few neighbors! I did more dancing than aerobics, and to the beat of the music!

I talked to my mom on the phone, supported her, she had a nice loss this week, and told her we have to pick our day next week. She had guests coming, and doesn't know how long they are staying, so that is why we are waiting to pick our day.

So, thanks to EVERYONE for your support! This evening I realized that it is completely and totally up to me now. It was a little unnerving, but I feel more compelled and ready to rise up to the challenge!!!!!

 

[PartyofSix]

I just wanted to offer you my support. Like some have said not every size fits one so not every plan is for you. I think your outline of what will work for you is totally doable. THat's what i do. Well some weeks i exercise 4 times and well some weeks none but hey that's besides the point right?LOL We are talking about you maybe you'll be more disiciple now. I saw that dr. phil thing advertised last night he reminds me so much of me i'm very straightforward. I don't know if i could watch him or not to see his weight loose special. You guys must keep me up dated about the showes and when they air i don't get the t.v. a lot around here. Back to you VIJA you can do this and if i can help you just pm me i'm here for you and i would love to share recipes and simple staples that help me thru changing my eating habits. I am here for you. Have a wonderful weekend and drink your water. THen drink more water. Hey exercise is exercise no matter how you get it right?

 

[Beanie]

I also want to offer support, Vija! I am very proud of you for realizing that WW wasn't what you needed...sometimes that is hard for a person! You definitely need to do what is right for you...Hugs!

 

[lmhall2000]

Darling! You did the EXACT right thing to do- WW wasn't working- time to move on. You've got GREAT goals/plans made up- it's mostly a habit forming/changing approach that will make it work for you....and I know what you mean about clutter/project filled house- mine is to the roof! And I hate having all these loose strings around- so I can't tackle them all in a week- I just commit myself to doing one a day- yesterday it was hanging frames I have had stacked on the floor for 5 weeks! Finally they're out of the way! Today it's laundry!! (Well, that's really everyday isn't it?HA)
And I NEVER EVER buy anything at full price (atleast when it comes to clothing and most everything else!) but since I figured I haven't spent one dime on WW or other programs- I go out and buy one new outfit in my "dream" size and sometimes I pay full price just to make me realize I can't let that money go to waste- I've got to get into them!! It takes me about 3 months to get into them but 6 months ago that would have been impossible!! Just take it one day at a time- but reward yourself somehow- maybe pay to have someone come clean your house or buy a new outfit in a smaller size or get your hair done- it can be anything- just do right by you!!! Can't wait to hear how your new plan goes for you- and many love Fitday- you ought to check it out! We're here for you!!!
Tara

 

[JustMe28]

I just wanted to pat you on the back and tell you that you made a decison in your best interest. Good for you! So many times we just go with what we think will make everyone else happy and put ourselves off to the side. I'm also looking forward to watching Dr. Phi's new weight loss shows and I'm also going to buy the book. Again, good for you!!! You made the right decison!

 

[Pooh93]

You do what you need to do and I'm sure your mom will support you in your decision. And just remember....you have all of us! You will lose the weight. Take it one day at a time and keep us posted on how you are doing!