I am very upset and very freaked out

[RUDisney]

No comment, I don't pass judgement on anyone. I just want to follow this one for it's entertainment value.

Just depositing my ante, too.

 

[Aidensmom]

I watch Disney cartoons and have stuffed animals too. And I'm 38. What is the big deal? To each his own.

FlowersChild, I hope you are feeling better today.

 

[lillygator]

I think there is a big difference here though, I mean I watch cartoons and Disney movies but usually with my daughters. I have stuffed animals I have kept over the years but I don't go and play with them every day.

 

[dcentity2000]

I actually can't believe this

The OP posted up something that revolted them and who are we to decide whether or not it is right to react in a certain way? The fact remains - the OP was shocked by what they saw and needs support. It says a lot about certain people to poke fun or - worse - pass judgement.

I'm truly sorry, Flower.

[EDIT] Now I've done it! I've just judged many posters here in just one post! See how infectious it is?



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[dis ms.]

Since most of us came to the DIS because we love Disney, I don't think anybody here can fault someone for acting like a big kid!

The OP has posted similar things in previous threads (loving Flower, stuffed animals, and being a shy little thing, etc.) and he always ends up getting flamed for it. Always. If he expected a different result this time, well...hmm...I don't know why he would. I saw the flames coming the minute I finished reading his post.

OP, I'm sorry you experienced something that obviously traumatized you.

 

[tw1nsmom]

OP, I'm so sorry you had a bad experience yesterday.

To some of the other posters:
We all have strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. Some of us will remain more innocent for our entire lives. Many very intelligent people have very child-like souls and have difficulty following social conventions. It would be very boring if we were all the same, and be assured that there is something you do in your life that others would find extremely bizarre and unacceptable. I just hope my DS encounters many more open-minded people than judgemental ones.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I watch Disney cartoons and have stuffed animals too. And I'm 38. What is the big deal? To each his own.

FlowersChild, I hope you are feeling better today.

The problem is that in our society we look differently at guys who do this, especially guys who do not have children. Children give us kind of a permission to act like a kid. I used to joke that the only reason my DH wanted children is so that he could play with legos. Maybe I wanted children so I could watch Disney movies.

For those of you who think the OP is not on the up and up, I disagree. I used to think that, but have reason to believe that he is. And, who am I to pass judgement on him?

 

[cynsaun]

The problem is that in our society we look differently at guys who do this, especially guys who do not have children. Children give us kind of a permission to act like a kid. I used to joke that the only reason my DH wanted children is so that he could play with legos. Maybe I wanted children so I could watch Disney movies.

For those of you who think the OP is not on the up and up, I disagree. I used to think that, but have reason to believe that he is. And, who am I to pass judgement on him?

I completely agree with this. I believe what FC has said, and I hope today has been a better day for him.

 

[ChristmasElf]

After re reading my post again, I don't see where people think I was being nasty to him or even judging him.

This Fower person comes on the board and says something bad happened to him. Okay. Sorry that happened to him. So I am thinking that maybe a self defense class would come in handy in case anyone ever bothers him again.

WHERE is the Nastiness in that?????
The part about the comforters and bedsheets was just kidding around.

I'm not judging anyone here, never have, never will.
Sorry about your bad day yesterday Flower.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Why do people genuinely reply to these fruitcakes? He's nuts and people are taking him seriously. I'm more concerned with some of those posters than with this "flower" child.

Why would you come in here to say something like you just did.
BTW, You better watch with the name calling.Have you read the the guidelines for this site.
I would hate to know that someone did have something wrong with them.I can only imagine what you would be saying to them.

Good grief, people are so cruel and mean,i just dont understand.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

Just to take it off topic for a sec (sorry, OP!) WHAT a gorgeous baby!!!

Ok, back to regularly scheduled thread. Hope today is better, OP.

TY so much,He is my precious nephew.

 

[Dan Murphy]

How about looking at it this way, guys.

If you saw a person on the street, who appeared out of sorts, not like you, not like you think they should be, but weren't hurting or bothering you, they just seemed 'different'. Would you poke fun at them as you passed each other? As an adult, would you do that? Or, would you most likely just pass and probably ignore the person, taking that so called 'high road'?

Your other choice, on the other hand, assuming the person was not going to hurt you or bother you, you might be inclined to say 'Hi, how ya doing, have a nice day.'

I seriously doubt, as an adult, you would do the former. Look at the CB here as a street, a street of life, all different kinds of people, none really the same. We are all different; yet so similar. How about being nice to somebody, even if they are different than you, not what your expectations are. It makes for a lot friendlier street.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

How about looking at it this way, guys.

If you saw a person on the street, who appeared out of sorts, not like you, not like you think they should be, but weren't hurting or bothering you, they just seemed 'different'. Would you poke fun at them as you passed each other? As an adult, would you do that? Or, would you most likely just pass and probably ignore the person, taking that so called 'high road'?

Your other choice, on the other hand, assuming the person was not going to hurt you or bother you, you might be inclined to say 'Hi, how ya doing, have a nice day.'

I seriously doubt, as an adult, you would do the former. Look at the CB here as a street, a street of life, all different kinds of people, none really the same. We are all different; yet so similar. How about being nice to somebody, even if they are different than you, not what your expectations are. It makes for a lot friendlier street.

Dan, you seem to do it every time.You know just what to say.I could not agree more.

 

[dis ms.]

Why do people genuinely reply to these fruitcakes? He's nuts and people are taking him seriously. I'm more concerned with some of those posters than with this "flower" child.

Wow! I didn't see this until someone quoted it. Was that really necessary? In just three short sentences, you managed to come of looking worse than the OP.

I see a warning PM in your future.

 

[alliecats]

TY so much,He is my precious nephew.

Seriously, he should be in commercials or something. He is beyond precious!!!

 

[Michelina]

I don't know if this is the case in this situation but the OP reminds me very much of my younger DS who is 25 and has learning disabilities.
She has just recently learned how to use the internet and finds websites that relate to her interests, Japanese cartoons, Lord of the Rings, etc. She loves stuffed animals too.
Her writing style is very similar to the OP. My heart would break if I found out that she went to a message board and posted about something scary that happened to her and she was made fun of by people she thought would be friends. She gets hassled enough in real life.
This might be a totally different scenario but it still makes me sad.

 

[KimR]

I don't know if this is the case in this situation but the OP reminds me very much of my younger DS who is 25 and has learning disabilities.
She has just recently learned how to use the internet and finds websites that relate to her interests, Japanese cartoons, Lord of the Rings, etc. She loves stuffed animals too.
Her writing style is very similar to the OP. My heart would break if I found out that she went to a message board and posted about something scary that happened to her and she was made fun of by people she thought would be friends. She gets hassled enough in real life.
This might be a totally different scenario but it still makes me sad.

Exactly. This thread has really been bothering me for some time but I haven't responded because I wasn't quite sure how to express what I want to say without stepping on toes or offending someone. But, I will try. I've read these boards for a while and have seen many posts by people who have children with autism, asperger's, or other developmental disorders. These people always receive compassion and understanding from other DIS members, as they should. No one would dream of making disparaging remarks about those children who are 'different'. Why can't the same sort of compassion be shown in this case? Just because he is an adult who is different?

 

[Bashful2]

Flowers Child - You haven't been back lately to let us know how you are doing. I hope you are much better today.

Please don't let people that might say mean things to you drive you away from here. We are all different from each other and that makes each one of us unique. Some people just don't understand and want to put down anyone who isn't like them.

 

[Tuffcookie]

Exactly. This thread has really been bothering me for some time but I haven't responded because I wasn't quite sure how to express what I want to say without stepping on toes or offending someone. But, I will try. I've read these boards for a while and have seen many posts by people who have children with autism, asperger's, or other developmental disorders. These people always receive compassion and understanding from other DIS members, as they should. No one would dream of making disparaging remarks about those children who are 'different'. Why can't the same sort of compassion be shown in this case? Just because he is an adult who is different?
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Kim

Kim, Thank you and Michelina (and you, too Dan! ) for pointing out to others that there may be more to a person than what we think! It is always better to give someone the benefit of the doubt and respond in kindness!

TC

 

[KathyTX]

Everyone on this forum deserves to be treated and spoken to with respect. Our guidelines forbid personal attacks against other posters, and some of the insults posted on this thread qualify as attacks.

Flowers Child, I hope you're feeling better. I'm going to close this thread now to stop the rudeness.