I am terrified of Christmas this year...

[Ember]

It will almost definitely be my last Christmas with my mum. I have such a range of emotions and I'm not sure what to do. I want each second to count, to matter. I want memories that will last for the rest of my life. But the whole thing feels so sad. I usually love Christmas, but I'm dreading it this year.

Thanks for listening.

 

[ilovejack02]

My father is 84 and I understand how you feel.

 

[Catira]

I can totally relate to what you are saying. Two years ago my MOM had major surgery days before Thanksgiving. the doctors assured us we would be home for Thanksgiving. Well, to summarize my Mom had complications and was in a coma for 1 1/2 weeks. She finally came out of that coma,but her life has forever been changed. My Mom is still alive, but I get so sad during Thanksgiving, my Mom's favorite holiday. For the past 2 years, we take a mini vacation so I don't have to deal with so many emotions.

My advice, is to enjoy every minute that you have with your loved ones. If you are able to do something, time and money permitting do it. Live for today, not for tomorrow. We never know what life has in store for us. Plan something special that you know your MOM has always wanted to do.

 

[NeverlandClub23]

I've been reading your posts and can't imagine what you must be going through. I know I would feel the same way in your situation. I would just take as many pictures/videos as you can and maybe keep a journal. Good luck to you and many, many and prayers for you and your family.

 

[Bluestars]

I'm sorry. It sounds like it will be a bitter sweet Christmas. I hope you and your mother are able to enjoy spending it together and creating memories that will always be with you.

 

[bumbershoot]

 

[The Mystery Machine]

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Make it the best Christmas ever! Please don't let your sadness ruin it. You will have plenty of time for sadness after she is gone. Live in the moment, she is still here.

My mom passed away on January 23rd, 1995. Had we known that 1994 was going to be our last Christmas with her, we would have made it very special. She loved Christmas, it was her favorite time of year. Many people don't know when the last Christmas with a loved one will be, and they take it for granted. You have the opportunity to make lasting memories of your mom's last Christmas on earth.

(((HUGS)))

 

[DebbieB]

My mom had fought breast cancer for years. On Christmas 2004 as we were cleaning up, she said "you don't know how I feel knowing this was my last Christmas". I said you don't know that. It was, she died the following September. Cherish every moment. I'd give anything for one more day with my mom.

 

[crusoe2]

OP, I went thru the same thing this time last year so I can certainly sympathize. We found out the day before Thanksgiving that my mom had terminal brain cancer. She had surgery the day after Thanksgiving and the doctor confirmed that it was even worse than he'd feared. He gave her about 3 months - she made it till March 21. So our Thanksgiving holiday was pretty much a blur and we went thru the Christmas season dealing with the shock and grief of knowing it would be my mom's last. As a previous poster said, make it the best Christmas she's ever had. We showered my mom with gifts and attention, kept things as light hearted as we could, and took lots of pictures. Putting the focus on her and trying to make it a great day for her helped get us thru.

 

[jx3smom]

I am sorry. This year is tough on us. I'm going through chemo, My MIL passed in June so it's the first without her and my dad passed last Dec. and my brother and I are no longer on good terms. It will be a sad and lonely Christmas for me.

 

[Uuaww]

I hope I don't know how you feel, I really do. I am only 24, but this is my first Xmas home in 2 years and with the way things are going, it may be my last with my Dad. I hope not though.

 

[Rora]

I am so sorry. I know how you feel- my grandma is 90 and to be honest, this is probably her last Christmas.

Like others have said: live for each moment and enjoy your time with her. Although it will be hard to be optimistic and excited, try, for her sake. Again, like others have said, there will be time for being sad later.

Sending good thoughts your way!

 

[dumboiu]

I know how you feel. I remember the last Christmas with my dear, sweet Mum. I knew it would be her last and worked hard to make it special.

We are coming up to our second Christmas without her and it is still very, very difficult. Somehow the magic just isn't there. I miss her terribly. In some ways, we are still lost not having her here.

Christmas was her favorite time of year and she always made it so special. My heart just isn't in it any more. I wish I could feel more festive, but I can't. It just isn't the same.

Make the most of your time together. I understand how painful this is for you.

 

[Minnie's Pal]

Lost my Dad unexpectedly in Oct., so I'm going through what you dread. It's tough, I'm not going to lie, but you will get through it. Praying that you find some peace with this.

 

[rie'smom]

I'm sorry. We went throught this with my DFIL 2 years ago.

 

[CruiserMom]

The last couple of Christmases, I had on my mind that "this" might be the last Christmas with my mom. She was 79-80 years old, had advanced COPD, and spent lots of time in the hospital. We made a special effort in the last 2 years to get family together, do fun things, spend more time, take more pictures. I have a great photo from last Christmas, of myself, my mother, my sister, and my daughter. 3 generations of girls together in my family, looking so happy.

I'm so glad we made the special effort. My mom passed away one month ago. Last Christmas WAS her "last" Christmas.

 

[kimmar067]

I am sorry. This year is tough on us. I'm going through chemo, My MIL passed in June so it's the first without her and my dad passed last Dec. and my brother and I are no longer on good terms. It will be a sad and lonely Christmas for me.

 

[kimmar067]

The last couple of Christmases, I had on my mind that "this" might be the last Christmas with my mom. She was 79-80 years old, had advanced COPD, and spent lots of time in the hospital. We made a special effort in the last 2 years to get family together, do fun things, spend more time, take more pictures. I have a great photo from last Christmas, of myself, my mother, my sister, and my daughter. 3 generations of girls together in my family, looking so happy.

I'm so glad we made the special effort. My mom passed away one month ago. Last Christmas WAS her "last" Christmas.

...God Bless you....

 

[luvmy3]