I Am So Aggravated With My "Friend"

[lovinwdw]

I have this GF who used to date my DH's best friend a very very long time ago. About 3 years ago...he started dating another girl and ever since they have been dating my GF has really been trying to get in touch with him and whatnot. she has asked both me and my DH for his email address and phone numbers, of which we will not give to her out of respect for his new GF.

Anyway...I hadn't spoken to my GF in a while and I emailed her a few weeks ago to see what the plans were for her birthday. she never responded. so...i called her that night just to see how everything was. she said that her and her boyfriend were breaking up and she didn't really want to talk about it over the phone. so i said, call me over the weekend and we can get together. never heard from her. So...the following monday i emailed her to see how everything was going...never responded. a few hours later i called her at work to see if everything was alright, she said she couldn't talk over the phone (i think she is dating someone at work) but that she would call me over the week...never heard from her. I am pretty much done at this point. she has always been the type of person that if something big was going on in her life, not matter what is was, she always called. I have a feeling that she is aggravated at me because we have been spending a lot of time with my DH's friend and his girlfriend. I had previously posted that my GF was the one who took her bathing suit top off in my pool during a party to make our friend's GF feel uncomfortable. I have kind of grown out of her. she is still stuck at 21 and has never grown up.

Just wanted to vent...give me your thoughts please. I feel that I have extended myself enough...now she will have to call me.

 

[agotta]

I just wanted to say I understand. I had a friend like that, that I kind of outgrew. Maybe it's better this way. And you never know, maybe she will grow up and someday you will be friends. Good for you for not giving out Dh's BF phone number and what not. You kept yourself out of the middle of a sticky situation.

 

[SC Minnie]

I would let it go and not contact her again. You've tried.

 

[CapeCodTenor]

This may be time for you two to part ways and go down seperate roads. This might be the best thing for the two of you. To restate what agotta said, one day she might grow up and then you two can be friends again.

 

[disykat]

I don't know why you're pushing it so hard. It sounds like you want to cool the friendship and so does she. Let it go.

 

[Minniespal]

I feel that I have extended myself enough...now she will have to call me.

Sometimes you have to just walk away and wait and see what happens.

 

[lovinwdw]

I don't know why you're pushing it so hard. It sounds like you want to cool the friendship and so does she. Let it go.

You're right...i was pushing it...after i sat down and thought about it for a while, i realized that and i stopped calling her and emailing her. we have been friends for 13 years and i hate to see it end, but i think that it has. i have made so many other friends who enjoy the same things as me and i get along with that i just don't need this kind of crap anymore!!

 

[JimB.]

It's time to say Bye-Bye.

And not worry about it.

 

[lovinwdw]

Thanks everyone...you have definitely made me feel better about this.