I am ready to KILL my Dh, I really am (warning:snoring vent ahead)

[Christine]

I am another one who, after a few sleepless nights and then having to get up at 4:30 a.m. to get to a full-time, out-of-the house job, totally lose my patience in the middle of the night with the snoring. I've shoved, pushed, and kicked to get it to stop. Yeah, I know he can't help it but after losing sleep night after night, my niceness is all but gone.

Until the problem is solved, separate sleeping quarters is the best. I've tried earplugs but they bug me and I can't sleep with them.

 

[LuvBug1977]

I seriously doubt that she is "beating" her husband, but probably more nudging him until he moves to a position that eases his snoring. Really people??

 

[Christine]

I seriously doubt that she is "beating" her husband, but probably more nudging him until he moves to a position that eases his snoring. Really people??

Yep! My husband is aware of my kicks (I kick his foot) or the shove in the arm I give them. He hardly complains of the pain.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I seriously doubt that she is "beating" her husband, but probably more nudging him until he moves to a position that eases his snoring. Really people??

Well I read it different, if all she is doing is nudging him then I appologize. If that is the case then I understand the frusteration and she needs to get him to the doctor, don't put it off till April, call today. If you can't then here is something that I have heard helps though we have not tried so I can't say for sure. I have heard that if you take a sock and put a tennis ball in it and pinit to the back of their PJ top then when they roll onto their back (where snoring happens) then they are uncomfortable and roll to their side. Not sure if it helps, but it may be worth a try.

 

[tink1969]

I'm for the 'separate rooms'. My husband's snoring could wake the dead. He didn't believe me so I videotaped him one night to prove it.
He now sleeps in another room because of all my punching and kicking. When we go on vacation and are forced to sleep together (lol, sounds funny)
he uses the nasal strips which do help.
My husband also doesn't get that if he cranks the heat up (he sleeps with a floor heater on 'cause he's always cold) his nasal cavity/capillaries EXPAND and therefore closes off his breathing. Why can't he get that?
I like to snuggle under the blankets and keep the temp down and windows open in nicer weather. If the room is too warm, I get very stuffed up myself!

Keep the rooms cooler and it should help.

 

[okeydokey]

Until he sees a doctor and really tries to solve this problem then it IS his fault he is snoring. Currently he thinks nothing is wrong, which is selfish to his wife. Until he at least attempts to do something to solve the problem he should be considerate and move out of the bed.

 

[nuttylawprofessor]

I seriously doubt that she is "beating" her husband, but probably more nudging him until he moves to a position that eases his snoring. Really people??

Exactly. I *highly* doubt she's beating him up. A good shove, maybe. I've been known to put my hand under a pillow and move the pillow to get some snorers to stop.

Until he sees a doctor and really tries to solve this problem then it IS his fault he is snoring. Currently he thinks nothing is wrong, which is selfish to his wife. Until he at least attempts to do something to solve the problem he should be considerate and move out of the bed.

AMEN! When the snorer insists that there is no problem, the snorer IS the problem and needs to move.

And I agree with MosMom. Snoring is nowhere near the problem of cancer. Not even in one's wildest dreams.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

Until he sees a doctor and really tries to solve this problem then it IS his fault he is snoring. Currently he thinks nothing is wrong, which is selfish to his wife. Until he at least attempts to do something to solve the problem he should be considerate and move out of the bed.

This I can agree with. I guess I read it as he had made an appointment for April.

Exactly. I *highly* doubt she's beating him up. A good shove, maybe. I've been known to put my hand under a pillow and move the pillow to get some snorers to stop.



AMEN! When the snorer insists that there is no problem, the snorer IS the problem and needs to move.

And I agree with MosMom. Snoring is nowhere near the problem of cancer. Not even in one's wildest dreams.

I NEVER said snoring was as bad as cancer, just that you wouldn't kick a person with any other medical condition so why would you with this. I was corrected that she wasn't actually kicking him, so my mistake. My step-father has terminal cancer right now and of course I know my mom would have the loudest snoring in the world to have his colon and liver be healthy.

 

[MichelleVW]

OP, I feel for you. I know that "I'm going to kill my husband" in the middle of the night feeling! Thankfully he doesn't snore that often, but when he does, I go to the couch.

 

[palmtreegirl]

DH use to snore/breath like Darth Vader when he slept for years, I started wearing ear plugs. In the last few months, he started eating right and working out and he lost over 20 pounds. He was never even close to obese, just had some extra weight to lose, he looks great and he hardly makes a peep at night, it's amazing.

 

[Disney Ontario]

I am the same way. Now DH has the machine at night.Great at first, but now it makes noises then he wakes up in the middle of the night and ends up taking it off, then its back to the snoring.I just feel lucky that tonight I have a realy good single bed been delivered here. Its for me.

 

[Planogirl]

My DH snores like this too and we tried everything we could think of. He had sleep studies, surgery, mouth devices, and more tests. I tried noise machines, ear plugs, pillow over my head and so on but the problem is that I'm a light sleeper and nothing worked, at least not for long.

Separate rooms is sometimes the only solution. Suites are nice on vacation too. DH can't help it of course but you do tend to get a bit less sympathetic after many days of little sleep.

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I am running out to work but wanted to say one more thing OP before I do because I am feeling badly about this. If you knew me in real life you would know that I am not one to try and ever "get a dig" into anyone. Quite the opposite in fact. I just read it as something that you obviously didn't mean and I am sorry for that. All we can do when we read words and don't hear tones is read it as we read it. I have already appologized for that. I am totally sympathetic to you, I really am, 7 years of snoring and now months of dealing with my DH's blood condition, I know how you feel about not sleeping well. I am often so sleepy and grumpy I hate it. So while I may be perceived as evil here, I am sorry for your lack of sleep, I get it. I hpe he gets the help he needs for his medical well being (if there is a problem) and you to get a good night's sleep.

 

[Dancind]

I shove too, and poke. I think I've kicked once when the poking failed. There's really loud snoring, whistling, and hoovering. He's got a bit of a sleepwalking problem too. One night after watching 3-4 hours of "24" on DVD, he sat up and punched me in the jaw - twice! He won't move out of the room (he says I snore too). DD is at college, but will be home in six weeks, and I don't like her bed. I'm on the lookout for a better bed at a good price, but she would probably take it when she gets an apartment. Might buy one anyway. We do have three bedrooms, but my office is in the third and it's full. Couch is not an option. I have some arthritis, I need my Select Comfort!

DH can sleep anywhere. Any ideas of how to convince him he needs to sleep in DD's room, at least when she's gone?

 

[erincon23]

My DH completely fits in this category. I totally understand the "kicking, hitting, punching" thing -- it's nowhere near as violent as it sounds (but much less violent than I sometimes imagine I would like to be -- I've threatened to beat him to death with the TV remote ). He knows he needs to do a sleep study (his brother uses a CPAP, and his dad has had surgery to help with the snoring), but he's been out of work for 6 months, so we'd never be able to afford our portion of the cost. One thing that has helped somewhat is a small fan on his side of the bed (we have it sitting on top of an overturned laundry basket to make it at the right height). When he sleeps facing the fan, it helps as a make-shift CPAP. We've always had a fan running in the room anyway, so the noise doesn't bother either of us.

Erin

 

[Jynohn]

Separate rooms and "conjugal visits" have been the solution for us. Our friends are shocked when they find out we sleep separately, but it has never caused any issues in other areas of the marriage. In fact, we often like to joke, "your place or mine?"

 

[pearlieq]

I know that "I'm going to kill my husband" in the middle of the night feeling!

LOL! I do too!

It strikes me as kind of funny (in the well-rested light of day) how a man that I deeply adore the other 16 hours or the day can fill me with nearly homicidal irritation in the middle of the night when I'm just trying to get some &^%$%! sleep!

So far earplugs hurt my ears, Breathe Right strips seem to make it worse for him, and poking him to turn over only helps for about 2 minutes. So, separate bedrooms it is!

I'm very, very nervous about our upcoming cruise. If you hear about a man thrown overboard on an Alaskan cruise this coming May, you'll know what happened!

 

[blanq]

I read the replies quickly and thoroughly, so if this has been mentioned, I apologize. Often a mouth apparatus will solve snoring. Both of my parents were snoring. They went through sleep studies and both had apnea. The issue was solved with a dental apparatus and CPAP was NOT recommended to them as a solution. The mouthpiece works as a splint by positioning and holding the lower jaw slightly forward during sleep. By doing this, the respiratory tract is widened, which enables air to flow unobstructed through the breathing passage enabling you to breath freely.

OP, there is no reason for you to suffer through this. Get your DH to the Dr asap.

 

[wvjules]

*I* am the snorer in our house. DBF wears earplugs if I get too loud. Also, if I roll over facing him and start to snore he wakes me up and tells me to roll over. I actually get mad at him for not letting me sleep on my right side once in a while. I've said "no" then promptly rolled over. lol He has said that I actually stop breathing and it scares him. I plan on seeing a dr. about it some day.

I am also and "awake" snorer. We will be watching TV or a movie and if I am tired I snore while awake.

Oh and I'm a nose snorer. Those mouth things won't work for me since I snore soley through my nose.

 

[Tony-NJ]

Just adding that you do not have to be overweight to have sleep apnea - someone earlier made a comment about this.