I AM GRUMPY (kinda long sorry)

[bankgirl05]

Ok, so i just need to vent a bit, so please, no flames or angry posts.. I am not feeling well due to a Staph infection in my leg, I am on major anti-biotics and have been off my feet for 2 days now, and I am just so damn irritable I am driving my family crazy... I think I suffer from PMDD also, but have never been diagnosed. That being said, I have missed 2 days of work at my new job of 3 weeks, my house is a total disaster area, I keep finding very large black ants, silverfish, and spiders everywhere so I need to call an exterminator because I can't live with bugs... ( and I am not a dirty person, just very cluttered and disorganized since I am adjusting to life back in the work force after 20 months of being unemployed) Did I mention that I am in a lot of pain??? Now my DH is driving me nuts, just because I feel so stressed out and I feel like I can't talk to him... My teenager is well, just being a teenager and a girl to boot, so that is just an everyday issue in it's self... my toddlers are 3 and 1 and the one year old is just not sleeping through the night anymore, not to mention that she is still in our room in a pack and play, because every time we try to put her to sleep in her crib in her shared room with her brother (3) one wakes the other up, either when he falls out of his toddler bed or when she wakes up in the middle of the night at random times... now the teenager "doesn't think she wants to go" on our vacation in 2 months, but I know if I leave her behind I will NEVER hear the end of it.... did I mention that I hate bugs and I am in pain? my 3 year old will no longer eat anything that I make for him if it isn't a potato chip, and the baby is cutting her molars... my DH is working late, so I am wrestling with a bad leg, trying to get the kids bathed and ready for bed when I just decided that I am too tired, they can sleep in the clothes they have on, as long as I put clean diapers on them and use some extra wipes on thier hands and faces... DS(3) refuses to go potty, and I want him potty trained before our trip, but our daycare provider just won't help, now the one year old is eating crayons, she has been a little constipated lately, does a green crayon count as fiber or ruffage???

ahhh, deep breath, I don't feel much better, but at least I don't feel like crying anymore, except from the pain, did I mention the pain? oh and, I hate bugs...
thanks for letting me vent...

 

[mommyoftwo08]

Take a deep breathe. And I hope you are feeling better soon!

 

[Memaw2Wm]

uh oh ... toddlers and a teen. I feel for ya, I've got two teen and a toddler in the house and it's chaos! Hang in there.

 

[arcticdisneylovers]

I'm with you on the bugs, hang in there Tomorrow's a new day, it can only get better - I can't think of any other cliches. But the kids will survive a bit of dirt, ignore anything but basic housework until you're feeling better. Any chance of assigning your husband kiddie night duty because you are sick and NEED your sleep? Not being exhausted will help you get back on track tomorrow.

 

[ehrn]

You poor thing!!! First of all, you could be in the hospital right now, so be glad you aren't--although you'd be away from the chaos--but you'd be more stressed about it!!! Staph infections are NASTY! I also hate bugs! I feel your pain! Just relax about the potty training thing! It may be easier to just change 2 kids' diapers in Disney rather than have the 3 yo have accidents or want to visit every potty in the park!!! Sorry, got nothin' to say about teenagers other than my 4.5yo practices every day to be a doozie of one...
Hang in there, this too shall pass and soon you'll be on VACATION!!!

 

[JOCAmom]

Sending hugs your way.

I know you want to get DS3 potty trained before your trip but it just might not work out that way. Don't stress about it. Your bathroom trips will be 10 minutes instead of 5. Besides, I've always found my kids would never potty train when I wanted them to. As soon as I stopped asking about it, they started going.

I have 4 kids....16 year old son, and daughters 13, 8, & 6. My 13 year old is going to drive me insane before she moves out. The attitude, eye rolling. snarky remarks to everything. And Heaven forbid you ask her to pitch in a little extra. Wish I could tell you it gets better but I am right there with ya. Maybe we can complain to each other.

Don't worry about the messy house. It never hurt anyone to live in some clutter for a while. And if anyone complains about it, tell them to go clean it themselves. You need your rest to get better and if they don't step up and help, it's going to take you even longer to get back on your feet again.

Can't help you with the crayon eating. My youngest went through that phase. Nothing we did made her stop but she did on her own one day. But, they sell popsicles shaped like crayons and I still won't buy them for her because of the memories.

 

[bankgirl05]

You poor thing!!! First of all, you could be in the hospital right now, so be glad you aren't--although you'd be away from the chaos--but you'd be more stressed about it!!! Staph infections are NASTY! I also hate bugs! I feel your pain! Just relax about the potty training thing! It may be easier to just change 2 kids' diapers in Disney rather than have the 3 yo have accidents or want to visit every potty in the park!!! Sorry, got nothin' to say about teenagers other than my 4.5yo practices every day to be a doozie of one...
Hang in there, this too shall pass and soon you'll be on VACATION!!!

Hmmm, hospital+peace and quiet no, you are right about that one glad I am at home, I only get to see my kids for about 3 hours every day as it is. Yeah, 4.5 year old attitude is something isn't it?

uh oh ... toddlers and a teen. I feel for ya, I've got two teen and a toddler in the house and it's chaos! Hang in there.

CHAOS is my life, I keep telling myself to "embrace the crazy" I actually say it out loud, it's kinda my Mantra, everyone just laughs at me (yes at me) come to think of it, they usually look a bit scared and are backing away slowly while they laugh

Take a deep breathe. And I hope you are feeling better soon!

Thank you!!!

Sending hugs your way.

I know you want to get DS3 potty trained before your trip but it just might not work out that way. Don't stress about it. Your bathroom trips will be 10 minutes instead of 5. Besides, I've always found my kids would never potty train when I wanted them to. As soon as I stopped asking about it, they started going.

I have 4 kids....16 year old son, and daughters 13, 8, & 6. My 13 year old is going to drive me insane before she moves out. The attitude, eye rolling. snarky remarks to everything. And Heaven forbid you ask her to pitch in a little extra. Wish I could tell you it gets better but I am right there with ya. Maybe we can complain to each other.

Don't worry about the messy house. It never hurt anyone to live in some clutter for a while. And if anyone complains about it, tell them to go clean it themselves. You need your rest to get better and if they don't step up and help, it's going to take you even longer to get back on your feet again.

Can't help you with the crayon eating. My youngest went through that phase. Nothing we did made her stop but she did on her own one day. But, they sell popsicles shaped like crayons and I still won't buy them for her because of the memories.

Yeah, I have given some thought to this, I didn't consider the accident thing so you are right, I'm not gonna stress, if it happens it happens. As far as the teenager is concerned, she wanted unlimited texting sooo bad, that she actually came up with a list of "stuff" to do around the house to earn it... she does help there because she knows I'll shut her Darn cell phone off!!! (it is the ONLY thing that hurts her) as for the Snarky (thought that was a word that I made up, never heard anyone else use it!)Comments, most of them I just try to ignore, and the eye rolling, well that I just tell her I'm gonna knock her head clean off her shoulders so her eyes will really be rolling, right along with her head on the floor she doesn't believe me

So now I am up at 6:30 a, in pain and warily scanning my immediate surroundings for giant ants (and I hear a cricket under the stove or fridge) my baby girl, is bouncing on the floor eating crayons again,( i told her brother to put them away last night) but her precious smile is so comforting... the rest of the house is still asleep, so it is so quiet... here's hoping today is a better day! thanks all for the encouragement and

 

[bankgirl05]

I'm with you on the bugs, hang in there Tomorrow's a new day, it can only get better - I can't think of any other cliches. But the kids will survive a bit of dirt, ignore anything but basic housework until you're feeling better. Any chance of assigning your husband kiddie night duty because you are sick and NEED your sleep? Not being exhausted will help you get back on track tomorrow.

hubby didn't get home from work until after the kid's were in bed, but when my non-sleepeing -through the night 1 year old woke up at 12, he took her, so now I am up with her at 6:30... thanks for your attempt at making me feel better with cliches, I too, am an avid cliche user ( mine are usually filled with sarcasm though)
some people just don't get my sense of humor... no MOST people don't get it, does that mean there is something wrong with me???

 

[Suzanna1973]

So sorry to hear about your troubles, but I do have some advice that might help with the smarmy teenage daughter....been through that and THANK GOD I don't have to go through it again! Our doctor recommended a book when our DD first became a teenager. It's called "Get out of my life, but first will you drive Cheryl and me to the mall?" It talks about how a daughter is wanting her independance from mom, but is actually scared. Fighting with you is one way of staying connected to you, but also having her own "identity". It gives you helpful info on how to stop the fighting and have a non fighting relationship with your DD again. Trust me, it works.

 

[eyor44]

Hope you feel better today.

 

[bankgirl05]

So sorry to hear about your troubles, but I do have some advice that might help with the smarmy teenage daughter....been through that and THANK GOD I don't have to go through it again! Our doctor recommended a book when our DD first became a teenager. It's called "Get out of my life, but first will you drive Cheryl and me to the mall?" It talks about how a daughter is wanting her independance from mom, but is actually scared. Fighting with you is one way of staying connected to you, but also having her own "identity". It gives you helpful info on how to stop the fighting and have a non fighting relationship with your DD again. Trust me, it works.

Thanks I'll look for it online!!!I love the title, it's soooo MY LIFE with a teenage daughter...

 

[FSUDisneyGirl]

 

[Indiana Rose Lee]

Can you bribe the teen to give you a hand? Then maybe you could get some rest and heal. I hope that today is better for you.

Rosie

 

[polkadotsuitcase]

Can't help you with the crayon eating. My youngest went through that phase. Nothing we did made her stop but she did on her own one day. But, they sell popsicles shaped like crayons and I still won't buy them for her because of the memories.

This just cracked me up; thanks!

OP, I second (third, fourth) what others have said -- let go of the house stuff (except for the bugs). I'd just cleaned the kitchen counters, turned around, and they were sticky and messy again. I swear, that fast. I started to get irked, but then I thought about how nice and clean my counters will be when all the kids are gone and it's just DH and I puttering around. I got all wistful and a little sad...

...and then I hollered at the kids to get in here NOW and clean up their darn mess!

Good luck, get healthy, and try to find something to give yourself some peace, even if it's getting DH to take all the kids out for ice cream or something so you can have quiet for a few.

 

[a1tinkfans]

Ok, so i just need to vent a bit, so please, no flames or angry posts.. I am not feeling well due to a Staph infection in my leg, I am on major anti-biotics and have been off my feet for 2 days now, and I am just so damn irritable I am driving my family crazy... I think I suffer from PMDD also, but have never been diagnosed. That being said, I have missed 2 days of work at my new job of 3 weeks, my house is a total disaster area, I keep finding very large black ants, silverfish, and spiders everywhere so I need to call an exterminator because I can't live with bugs... ( and I am not a dirty person, just very cluttered and disorganized since I am adjusting to life back in the work force after 20 months of being unemployed) Did I mention that I am in a lot of pain??? Now my DH is driving me nuts, just because I feel so stressed out and I feel like I can't talk to him... My teenager is well, just being a teenager and a girl to boot, so that is just an everyday issue in it's self... my toddlers are 3 and 1 and the one year old is just not sleeping through the night anymore, not to mention that she is still in our room in a pack and play, because every time we try to put her to sleep in her crib in her shared room with her brother (3) one wakes the other up, either when he falls out of his toddler bed or when she wakes up in the middle of the night at random times... now the teenager "doesn't think she wants to go" on our vacation in 2 months, but I know if I leave her behind I will NEVER hear the end of it.... did I mention that I hate bugs and I am in pain? my 3 year old will no longer eat anything that I make for him if it isn't a potato chip, and the baby is cutting her molars... my DH is working late, so I am wrestling with a bad leg, trying to get the kids bathed and ready for bed when I just decided that I am too tired, they can sleep in the clothes they have on, as long as I put clean diapers on them and use some extra wipes on thier hands and faces... DS(3) refuses to go potty, and I want him potty trained before our trip, but our daycare provider just won't help, now the one year old is eating crayons, she has been a little constipated lately, does a green crayon count as fiber or ruffage???

ahhh, deep breath, I don't feel much better, but at least I don't feel like crying anymore, except from the pain, did I mention the pain? oh and, I hate bugs...
thanks for letting me vent...

HOPE it is BETTER today. Hang in there, this too shall pass............you, SUPERMOM need to let go and let it all just RIDE till you are up to it both physically and mentally. To say overwhelmed, is an understatement..
Again,
Good Luck!!!

 

[bankgirl05]

Thank you all for your encouragement... I am feeling better today, and managed to get some of that laundry done this morning before the pain and swelling started. DH kept the kids entertained while I napped too

why do we as women ,mom's, working mom's etc seem to neglect ourselves so much i think i am gonna book a spa treatment for my trip
thanks again!!!