I am BEYOND MAD!!

[cheermom1]

My aunt is something I can't say here !!!!! gggrrrrrrrrr4r4rrrrrrrr


this is a long story i'm going to try to make it short so if i leave out a detail please ask if it doesn't make sense...

my aunt has POA over my gma (this is a longer story) anyway she planned my gma's 85th bday..we found out through other family members b/c she didn't want us there (this aunt is beyond nuts) so this huge big deal came of it..it was supposed to be at this place that is free and we bring our own food and stuff and there is a lot for the kids to and gma will have a private room..any way we just found out through a family member that the place has been changed to a restaurant (expensive one) we have 5 kids we didn't budget for that and the party is tomorrow!!!! she knows full well that we can't afford that...I'm not talking about just us but my family, mom, dad, bro, bro, sis and their families!!!! oh and my uncle he can't do it either ...these people I just mentioned are the ones she didn't tell about the party to begin with and didn't want there to say see I told you they don't care...

like I said this is a long story lots of history with this woman, I'll out like this the kids that are grown will NOT have anything to do with their own mom...

I am fuming!!!

 

[All American]

Vent away!

I'm sorry to hear it.

 

[cheermom1]

Vent away!

I'm sorry to hear it.

Thanks this woman is crazy she really is...this doesn't make since at all!! ok it does if you don;pt want certain people there and making impossible for them go...

 

[dismom2]

Why do people have parties, then expect the guests to pay their own way?
If nothing else, she should make it affordable to everyone. Tacky, to say the least. Inconsiderate to say more....
And if you are going to do something like that, at least run it by everyone first. I'm sure the gma would rather have an inexpesive party where everyone can attend, than have less people there because they can't afford it. Maybe you can just have dessert?

 

[cheermom1]

Why do people have parties, then expect the guests to pay their own way?
If nothing else, she should make it affordable to everyone. Tacky, to say the least. Inconsiderate to say more....
And if you are going to do something like that, at least run it by everyone first. I'm sure the gma would rather have an inexpesive party where everyone can attend, than have less people there because they can't afford it. Maybe you can just have dessert?

I don't know what to do, we really don't have the money for this..I really want to see my gma as my aunt has made it very hard for people to see her anyway...

 

[rie'smom]

OP, I'm sorry that your aunt is so selfish. Maybe you and your family can arrange to take your grandmother to dinner and have your own celebration.

 

[JessicaR]

If you werent invited and she went to these measures to ensure you wouldnt attend, I wouldnt. Once the party was changed to an expensive restaurant that guests were expected to pay their own way, I would imagine you wont be the only one not attending.

I would have a small gathering for Grandma to celebrate her birthday on my own.

Don't engage crazy people.

 

[cheermom1]

If you werent invited and she went to these measures to ensure you wouldnt attend, I wouldnt. Once the party was changed to an expensive restaurant that guests were expected to pay their own way, I would imagine you wont be the only one not attending.

I would have a small gathering for Grandma to celebrate her birthday on my own.

Don't engage crazy people.

I know mom and I were talking earlier and that is what she said but my other aunt (there are 6 kids in all) said she really wanted us there and to please come..we are so torn b/c my crazy aunt is the only one doing this..

 

[Evil Genius]

To quote someone signature here on the Dis

"small people talk about other people"

 

[JessicaR]

Why cant your sane aunt tell your crazy aunt she shouldnt have changed the venue. Also is there room for those she didnt invite? Like is it a sit down or a buffet are there enough tables for everyone?

She changed this all in a day? That sure is crazy.

 

[Planogirl]

To quote someone signature here on the Dis

"small people talk about other people"

I like that expression.

Good luck with your family cheermom.

 

[cheermom1]

Why cant your sane aunt tell your crazy aunt she shouldnt have changed the venue. Also is there room for those she didnt invite? Like is it a sit down or a buffet are there enough tables for everyone?

She changed this all in a day? That sure is crazy.

I know she is crazy..anyway I the aunt that told us is trying to contact one of the others that is more involved and can handle crazy aunt better.. we will see..

 

[cheermom1]

I like that expression.

Good luck with your family cheermom.

thanks that is really mine and it is being thrown up in my face..but if they have been through what I have been through with this person they would feel very differently and I am really venting nothing more!! everyone needs to vent!

 

[Goldenbear6]

Okay, plan your own private party with your grandmother with just the people that were unable to attend this party. Make it a real festive affair.

 

[Planogirl]

I like the idea of a private party. Or maybe just have her over for dinner. She might just like that better than a fussy party anyway.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

If you werent invited and she went to these measures to ensure you wouldnt attend, I wouldnt. Once the party was changed to an expensive restaurant that guests were expected to pay their own way, I would imagine you wont be the only one not attending.

I would have a small gathering for Grandma to celebrate her birthday on my own.

Don't engage crazy people.

Agree 100%

 

[cheermom1]

We can't do any of that as crazy aunt has to were we can't take her out...

 

[The Mystery Machine]

If you werent invited and she went to these measures to ensure you wouldnt attend, I wouldnt. Once the party was changed to an expensive restaurant that guests were expected to pay their own way, I would imagine you wont be the only one not attending.

I would have a small gathering for Grandma to celebrate her birthday on my own.

Don't engage crazy people.

Exactly. Makes life so much simplier and more enjoyable.

I would make my own plans with g'ma and let the other family members have their expensive thing.

I guess your sister's kids can go to school now, eh?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

We can't do any of that as crazy aunt has to were we can't take her out...

What do you mean? Is she in a nursing home or something? You can visit her right? You don't need a huge blowout celebration.

 

[LunchladyDoris]

Um, no offense cheermom, but this is probably your third post regarding your "crazy" family in a month. That practically once a week someone is messing up in your judgemental eyes. Take it easy. From what I read of your posting maybe you ought to ease off a bit. I can see venting here about family but then there are times when you got to wonder why you are freaking out about the things they do if you know the members are the type who do crazy behavior.