i am a little miffed....

[livie1205]

would you be? I have a friend for years she is a nice person just kinda lazy and thinks of herself alot....well her dh got layed off and last week I went by her work and took her to lunch (at a steakhouse) because I knew she should not spend the money and she hinted she was hungry.
Now the week before (4 days after his lay off) she had a pampered chef party and I went and took another friend of mine (she lives in another county by the way)we both purchased stuff so she would get free stuff.She calls me yesterday and says our stuff came in and she wants me to come pick it up! I PAID extra for shipping!!!!Why would I drive all the way out there to pick something up that I PAID to have shipped? I really dont know what to say to her without hurting her feelings.She works here in town she can always stop by on her way home,it is NOT out of the way...she just said "waaay out there?" It IS NOT far from where she works.I can just go to her work and get it but I have to haul three kids up there to do that....ANY IDEAS?

 

[MushyMushy]

So just gently say, "I thought I paid shipping on that" and see what she says.

 

[kbkids]

I think (could be wrong) that Pampered Chef stuff always ships to the hostess (yes, you pay for shipping, but not to your house - just from the manufacturer to the hostess) Again, it's been a while since I had a party, so things could have changed. I just remember it all came shipped to me, as the hostess. BUT, that being said, I think it's the hostess's responsibility to get it to you. I would never have called up my friends and asked them to come get it.

 

[Disney Doll]

I think the shipping pays for shipping to the hostess' house and it is the hostess' responsibility to get the stuff to her friends.

FWIW, I'd probably go pick my stuff up and slowly become "too busy" when this person calls...she's not much of a friend...sounds like it's very one sided, and you're doing all the work.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

The shipping is for the hostess, not for you. So you are misunderstood there. It is your responsibility to get your stuff.

 

[NHdisneylover]

As others have posted the shipping charge you paid is to get it to the hostess only. However, as most others have also said, I agree it is the hostess's job to get it to you. I would simply tell her you are in no particualr hurry to get the items so if she can't make it out this week next week would be fine so long as you get them before xyz. Basically ASSUME in all your conversations with her that OF COURSE she is planning on bringing it to you and hopefully she will eventually cave to the expectation.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

Have her bring it to her work place (as I understand it that is closer for you?) and meet her there. A bit of a compromise that might keep things from getting even more tense.

 

[Rora]

Although shipping is for the hostess, typically it's her responsibility to get the items to her customers.

This woman doesn't sound much like a friend. Now, I understand she is going through some rough fiancial (and who knows what else) times but hey- aren't we all? Just because things aren't perfect doesn't mean you can't treat others with respect and just assume you're entitled to things.

OP, you sound like a good friend but I hope you realize that this woman is taking advantage of you. I would go pick up your stuff (if she continues to refuse to bring it to you) and then slowly start to distance yourself. If her attitude towards you improves, then by all means, spend more time with her again.

Regardless, this situation is tough. She sounds like my FMIL. I hope things work out!!

 

[livie1205]

The shipping is for the hostess, not for you. So you are misunderstood there. It is your responsibility to get your stuff.

no I know it is to the hostess but I was told the hostess gets it to us after that...if I had a party like that and people purchased things I would take it to them..

 

[The Mystery Machine]

no I know it is to the hostess but I was told the hostess gets it to us after that...if I had a party like that and people purchased things I would take it to them..

I guess you haven't been to many parties then. The hostess does not deliver your stuff.

Now they can be nice and do it but as a rule of thumb, they don't.

 

[beckmrk04]

I guess you haven't been to many parties then. The hostess does not deliver your stuff.

Now they can be nice and do it but as a rule of thumb, they don't.

I was thinking that too. Usually the hostess will call and say "your stuff is in" and I swing by and pick it up. I have never expected it to be delivered to me.

And I agree- while it would be nice of her to bring it to you, I don't think it should necessarily be expected.

 

[ols386]

I would be miffed, especially considering the fact that it sounds like you and the other person went to the party, and ordered things specifically to help your friend, so she could get free stuff. The friend should get the items to you. I guess I wouldn't make a big deal of it...it's one of those things that can be annoying, but I'd probably just let it go. I would just pick-up your items the NEXT time you go over to her house, or happen to be in the area. I wouldn't make a special trip to get the stuff, unless it's something you need right away.

 

[rie'smom]

I've never had any hostess deliver the product whether it was Pampered Chef, Kelly's Kids, Southern Living at Home,etc. We always had to pick up the products.

 

[My2Cinderellas]

There is an option for the guest to pay extra, above the normal shipping charge, to have the products delivered directly to her door by Pampered Chef. Maybe this is what the OP is referring to?

 

[EpcotBeauty]

I've never had any hostess deliver the product whether it was Pampered Chef, Kelly's Kids, Southern Living at Home,etc. We always had to pick up the products.

I've never had any hostess not deliver the product. This is the first I've ever heard of non-delivering hostesses, lol.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I've never had any hostess not deliver the product. This is the first I've ever heard of non-delivering hostesses, lol.

Really? I have never had a hostess deliver them. So there you go...

 

[littleteapot]

I was thinking that too. Usually the hostess will call and say "your stuff is in" and I swing by and pick it up. I have never expected it to be delivered to me.

And I agree- while it would be nice of her to bring it to you, I don't think it should necessarily be expected.

I've been to 10+ Pampered Chef parties and hosted two. I delivered and the hostesses have always delivered my stuff. I think it is the norm around here. Everyone knows you're getting free/cheap stuff based on how much your friends purchase. The least they can do is bring it to you. Sometimes they bring it to someplace convenient, like church, but usually they bring it to my house.

 

[inaminute]

I've never had a hostess deliver products to me! Nor did I ever deliver them to my friends. But, they were good friends and didn't mind stopping by. I saw them all the time anyway.

I no longer have, nor do I attend those kinds of "parties" any more. Maybe things have changed?

 

[Mickeyistheman]

First and foremost - do you really want to argue about this with your friend?

SHE is going through a tough time right now with her DH being laid off so I would give her a little slack.

My mother and myself over the past 10 years have gone to all sorts of parties: Pampered Chef, Party Lite, Lingerie ones and so on.

I have never had the Hostess deliver the stuff unless she lived around the corner.

I am sure if you ask her if you could both meet halfway that would be good. I mean I've never heard of paying extra to get it shipped to YOUR house, it gets shipped to the Hostess.

Don't ruin your friendship over something very trivial, its the holidays too.

See if you can come to a compromise.

 

[livie1205]

I've been to 10+ Pampered Chef parties and hosted two. I delivered and the hostesses have always delivered my stuff. I think it is the norm around here. Everyone knows you're getting free/cheap stuff based on how much your friends purchase. The least they can do is bring it to you. Sometimes they bring it to someplace convenient, like church, but usually they bring it to my house.

we were told like I said before that she would bring them to everyone..because she lives in another county but works here because we all make a long trip out to her house for the party.I will just pick them up at her work and take it as a lesson learned.I would not host a party like that and expect everyone to come to get the stuff,to me thats kinda rude.