Husband help needed...

That makes it even easier for her to get out. He'll have no legal right to the child (nor should he) so she won't have to worry about him trying to see the child.


Well hang on with that assumption.

Depending on the state's laws, if the husband has been named as the father on the birth certificate, that may not be true. We've all heard stories of courts who enforce child support payments against men who've been proven by DNA not to have been the biological father.

The mom needs to consult an attorney--yesterday.
 
Why can't she take the child with her to church on Wednesdays? If they have a Mother's Day Out program-they probably have some kind of nursery set up.:confused3 And a lot of Mother's Day Out Programs let the Mom's bring their children, also. Has she checked into this? Granted...it will not give her a "sanity day" where she can just have time for herself...but that is part of being a mom...you do what you gotta' do.

Has she talked to her church Pastor or Pastor's wife, yet? Sounds like she needs some serious counseling. May also be dealing with issues about divorce and it's place in her life and beliefs. The Pastor can go over these things with her in a non-judgemental way. May also have ideas on a financial safety net for her.

If she worked prior to the child's birth-say she has been at home 3 yrs...a lot of places will still hire her even though there is a work history gap. Perhaps an older person or a stay at home mom at the church would be willing to babysit in exchange for something...a barter type thing since money will be low. :confused3

She needs to get her ducks in a row, so to speak...and if she is going to leave or ask him to leave...be prepared for the consequences either way. Being a single parent is extremely hard...especially one of a toddler. She may be looking at doing it without child support, also. So, besides the single parent she will also be the sole bread winner.

Yes, escaping abuse or probable abuse is important...but sometimes...it requires planning so that you don't end up back in the same mess, again. KWIM?
 
Please, beg her - do not leave that baby alone with him. He obviously feels resentful towards the child. Pretty hard spankings for a two year old - no way should that be tolerated.

My kids all went through phases where they just wanted mommy to do things, change their diapers, rub their backs at night, etc. No big deal.

I hope she can find the courage to leave him ASAP. If not tell her to take the child with her to work and do not leave him alone with her EVER.
 
Please call child protective services today! You said that she has her work thing on wed; CPS can/will do a visit within 24 hours-tomorrow and she can escape to the church/her parents/somewhere. Please do this today;you'll be helping her and that baby more than you know- that is a very bad situation that will only get way worse.:sad2:
 

Neither one of these parents seems like any type of prize. I just feel sorry for that poor little girl. Do you even know if you have the real story from your friend?

And are you a troll?
 
Wow! I agree with the others that he needs to not EVER be left alone with the girl. No idea if there's any sexual abuse, but I think he's a lose cannon as far as possibly exploding and taking his anger at his wife out on the baby. The diaper changing alone doesn't bother me--most of my kids went through a stage when they didn't want anyone but mom (or dad) doing things for them, but the hitting of the girl does bother me, and I'm not totally against spanking. She needs to contact a domestic abuse hotline and talk with them about this--they'd be able to give her help and advice and it might be better received coming from them than from you.
 
This situation is messed up in so many ways.

The husband who thinks he's the dad is detached.
The wife is living a lie by allowing him to think he's the dad.
The child is suffering.

Seems like there is no real relationship. The couple should go their separate ways.
 


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