How to get Dad to pay...

[BeckWhy]

Well, I've been trying to get a trip to Disney together for a long time. I almost had my dad talked into sending my siblings and I there over the summer, but some events in my life changed my choice to go. Again another change has occured and I feel I could use the vacation. My mom always askes, "why not go (name of any place) instead of Disney, it would be so much cheaper." Well, I'm only 20 and I can't rent a car at most places, second, I need something that will take up all my time and consume my mind, and third, Disney is the "Happiest Place on Earth." How can you argue with that? Anyways, I have enough money to pay for my side of the trip. I've talked to my mom, she will go with me, though she feels I should go with someone my own age. The problem with that is, all my girl friends are 16 and 17 years old (I met them on a trip to Disney World); and none of them have jobs and plus my mom is worried that they are minors and if something happens their parents will sue me.
My mom doesn't want my sister to go because my parents have shelled out enough cash for all her band trips (Disney World and Miami). And I don't want to go with my brother because he's lazy and he won't want to do anything.
I don't want to go alone because I hate being alone. I get along with my mom a lot and I think she would be cool to travel with (besides I think she could use a vacation).
The final problem is getting my dad to spare the money. The trip will cost about $2000 total:
hotel & park admission = $1070
airline tickets = $290
food = $400
airport transportation = $80
and then a little extra for spending (neither my mom and I plan on spending much because we've been there so much).
The trip is $1000 per person, if only two of us go. I just don't know how to get my dad to give my mom the money to go. Any suggestions?

 

[peg2001]

This is totally none of my business but since you asked

Is your mom married to your dad? If not, I don't see why she would be asking him to pay for her vacation. If she is, I don't see why she should have to ask for him to pay for her vacation.

Peggy

 

[BeckWhy]

My parents are married. I guess technically, it would be me asking because it would be my trip. But the idea is, my dad is the provider of income in my house, and it wouldn't be fair if my mom took one of the credit cards and charged up the bill without consulting with my dad.

 

[NancyIL]

I can sympathize with your situation. You said you've been to WDW so much, so why not ask your mom where she'd like to go instead of WDW. She might persuade your dad to loosen the purse strings if it's for a trip she really wants to take.

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

Originally posted by BeckWhy
and it wouldn't be fair if my mom took one of the credit cards and charged up the bill without consulting with my dad.

I just hope my DH doesn't read this!!!LOL

Beckwhy,

You say that you have your share saved up, so technically you & your mom only need $1000.00..Perhaps you could borrow the other 1000. and treat your mom. Than you and dad could work out a payment plan. Just a thought. I sure hope things work out for you. Also remember THIS TO SHALL PASS and the things that you are feeling today won't neccessarily be there tommorrow.

Good Luck.

Laura

 

[C.Ann]

If your Mom will agree to it - and she really WANTS to go - she could tell your Dad that in exchange for the "gift" of this vacation, HE gets a year on non-gift buying for your Mom! No Valentine's Day, Easter, Mother's Day, Birthday, Anniversary, or Christmas gifts for an ENTIRE year.. Most men I know would JUMP at a chance like that!! LOL

 

[BeckWhy]

NancyIL: Well my mom wants to go to Vegas. And seriously, there is nothing for me to do there.

MOMTOMOOTOO: Well after this week I won't have a job anymore. I was thinking about taking all my money I have saved up and use that to pay for someone else to go, but then I won't be able to pay my insurance. But I think based on what you said, about making a payment plan, I can use some of the money I hae saved up for my insurance and use it right away, and then when my insurance is due, have my dad pay for it instead. I'll talk to my mom about that. Thanks!

C.Ann: LOL! That would work, except my dad doesn't buy my mom anything anways. Maybe I'll try it. Maybe my dad isn't that smart and will fall for it (considering all the good gifts come from me)! HAHAHA!

 

[caitycaity]

and plus my mom is worried that they are minors and if something happens their parents will sue me.

why are moms always so worried about that?

this has absolutely nothing to do with your trip, but i got myself involved in something when i was living abroad and my mom thought the same thing (the minor involved's parents would sue me).

they didn't btw...not that they would have had a suit anyways... LOL

 

[jipsy]

Umm out of curiosity your signature says you are going in 19 days. Are you talking about another trip this summer besides this one?

 

[BeckWhy]

caitycaity: well the girls I would bring are my best friends. and their parents love me (I'm like the model child, I go to their houses and wash their dishes). I doubt they would sue me anyways. (The reason my mom is worried is because my little sister was left in the hands of a women and my sister was killed during that time.)

jipsy: Yeah I know it says that. I don't know how to get rid of that. That was my original trip I had planned which I canceled because I did't want to leave my boyfriend, plus I bought a car, and I wanted to buy another one (RX-7 for all those car lovers out there). Plus I have to get my wisdom teeth pulled around the date we would have left, and I really don't want to go there when I'm in pain.

 

[ducklite]

Since you've asked...

I think you need to reassess your priorities in life.

Borrowing to pay for NEEDS as opposed to WANTS is a bad habit to get in to, especially this early in life.

As far as your friends parents not allowing them to go, I can't blame them. And regardless of the model citizen you are, if something happened, you will probably get sued. In all honesty your parents homeowners insurance would pay some or all of it because you live in their home, thus involving them as well.

Not to mention that you are going to be losing a job in a short time, plus want to buy a new car...

I'm not trying to bash you here, but with the thought process you are displaying, you don't seem to be very mature...which nice or not nice, that might have bearing on everyone's decidion to not back your vacation plans.

BTW--there are plenty of places to go that you do'nt need a car to get around. Boston MA is one taht comes right to mind--the tourist areas are safe, great mass transit system, lots of things to see and do, and can be done on a budget of 1/3 what a trip to WDW costs.

Bottom line is your priorities should be finding a new job, having enough money for your current bills without boroowing, and then enough for vacations on top of that, and if you were really smart about it, enough saved to get you by in an emergency. After all of that, then plan on a vacation, without having to have someone else pay for it.

You're an adult, you need to start thinking like one in order to be respected as one.

If you feel you need a vacation, maybe you and your boyfriend could spend a weekend at a bed and breakfast. A relaxing weekend can be as much of a vacation mentally as a week at WDW...if not more so ...and it will cost a lot less.

Anne

 

[ilovefh]

BeckWhy I wanted to respond since I am about your age. (22) I'm still in college (took two yrs off) and have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (he's finishing school).

I plan and take as many vacations as I can afford. Afford is the key word. You're an adult now and soon you will be out on your own. Now is the time you need to develop your priorities. Vacations for me, are high up on my priority list...below making sure all my bills are paid and above a nice new car. I actually just got back from a vacation in WDW. I paid for everything on my credit card (for the airline miles, gotta love free flights!) but the money to pay off the credit cards in full was in the bank before I went, so they were paid the day after I returned.

And I must be honest. Unless there were extenuating circumstances (i.e. he was sick etc) I would not pass up a week of vacation because I didn't want to leave my boyfriend! He'd still be there when I returned and if he wouldn't....well he's not much of a boyfriend, not one I'd want to be with for long anyway!

It's one of those things you will learn as you get older, you cannot have/do everything you want. It might come down to a new car or vacation...which is a choice you have to make. I chose a corolla over the suv I wanted so I would be able to save for other things like vacation. It's also the same thing with my boyfriend. I'd love for him to come see me every month and to go see him every month, but instead we save our money and instead of him visiting me at home, or me visiting him at home we go on vacation! (This yr he came here in for New Yrs., WDW in May, here in July, Thanksgiving there, and WDW for Xmas)

So basically what this post is trying to say is you cannot always have/do the things you want and you should not get used to borrowing money for something that isn't necessary. Being in debt...to anyone or any company is no fun!!!

 

[Beckles]

Originally posted by C.Ann
If your Mom will agree to it - and she really WANTS to go - she could tell your Dad that in exchange for the "gift" of this vacation, HE gets a year on non-gift buying for your Mom! No Valentine's Day, Easter, Mother's Day, Birthday, Anniversary, or Christmas gifts for an ENTIRE year.. Most men I know would JUMP at a chance like that!! LOL

This man would think that's a trick ...

 

[Lewisc]

It sounds like your Mom thinks she's been to Disney enough and it isn't worth the money to her or your father. It's also possible finances are tighter than you realize.

I think you should look at going to a place that you can go by yourself (Club Med maybe).

An alternative ask your mother for some alternate vacation suggestions. A few nights in NYC? Hotel (4* PL for about $100), tickets to Lion King, zoo. Lake George?

 

[ducklite]

Originally posted by Lewisc
A few nights in NYC? Hotel (4* PL for about $100), tickets to Lion King, zoo. Lake George?

A four star hotel in NYC for $100 a night? That's the funniest thing I've heard all day!!!

Lake George is an interesting option, as well as Lake Placid.

Anne

 

[gepetto]

Originally posted by ducklite
A four star hotel in NYC for $100 a night? That's the funniest thing I've heard all day!!!



Anne

Why?

Lewis is correct you can get a 4* hotel in NYC for under $100 through Priceline.

 

[ducklite]

OK, I"ll bite--Four star by who's ranking? Can I get some property examples? If they *truly* are four star by AAA or Mobil standards, then I'm impressed

Anne

 

[MOMTOMOOTOO]

We got the new Westin @ Times Square for $89.00 And I don't know if Mobil or AAA rates them it as 4 star, but it was fabulous. The best view from the 45th floor, unbelievable. However, all the $$ we saved went to Shula's which is onsite.

Also, for our annual Christmas trip, I got the LE Parker Meridan for slightly over 100. Again not sure of the AAA or Mobil, but this is my favorite hotel in the city, and we've paid rack rate several times.

Ok enough about my NYC priceline bargains.

Laura

 

[Lewisc]

Anne---biddingfortravel.com gives you the hotels that have come up with PL.

I've personally gotten (around $100/ night) NY Hilton, Mariott Marquis, Mansfield and Millenium Hotel. Mansfield has since been re-rated a 3* hotel.

PL tends to over rate a little some of their 4* hotels may be closer to 3* but those are all good properties for the price.

 

[ducklite]

Lewis--that's what I was worried about...

MomToo--thanks for the examples

Anne