How to address delicate situation?

[scottishduffy]

First thing I would do is show here a couple of threads in this DIS in which no one agrees about ANYTHING!

And then I would show her this thread where everyone agreed about something.

Yep, that's me, Single-handedly bringing the disboards together in peace and harmony. Nice to know everyone is in agreement here, I was honestly a bit nervous when first posting this.

 

[Mrs.Toad]

You don't need to be subtle to get corndog's requested photos--SIL is not being subtle, so why should you? Just snap a few, then ask Brother if he can get in there with the massaging so you can get a shot of that too. You'll probably get in some trouble when you try to post the pics here though!

I was going to say you should say you want some family photos, ask her to smile and take pictures of her when she's nursing like that. If she objects, smile sweetly and say "what's the big deal? it's completely natural", or "well, it's no big deal in person, why would a photo be any different?". I thought that, or maybe showing her the pics afterwards, would make her realize how much skin she was showing. But now that I've read Camicar's post (yikes, BTW ), I'm afraid it would do no good.

Buy her a Hooter Hider:

http://www.mom4life.com/catalog.php?item=21

Just say - " I saw this and thought you might like it, it's all the rage." She may get the hint. That sucka is so big, it'll cover the most largest of hooters.

First thing I would do is show here a couple of threads in this DIS in which no one agrees about ANYTHING!

And then I would show her this thread where everyone agreed about something.

Nuff said.

Oh yeah,

Blech!

Yup!

 

[mytwotinks]

Could you just smile at her and say, "I think you can put that one away now, he's finished with it." I mean does she have a sense of humor? I hate to think that it could cause you guys not to see them as much, but I think that's the route I would have to take. My dh would be sooooooo uncomfortable with that. I bf and he was 100% supportive. Our friends that bf do it in front of us and I have never even heard him say a word about it. But, the extra one hanging out, he would mention!

Your poor dad! I am picturing how awkward this must be for him. I bet he is looking forward to this kid getting weaned!

 

[JoBird]

Alright, I almost didn't look at this thread, but oh my Lord I am so glad I did!!!!
From the Milking station to the Hooter Hider- it's been one after another that has caused me to giggle just a bit. But this:

"Grandpa? Aren't Suzy's ta-tas holding up well. They're still so firm, even after the breasfteeding. Oh look, it's just like a bullseye. You know...I should have ordered milk with my dinner anyway, would you mind topping off this glass? You're not using that one just now."

took the cake. I laughed so loud and so sudden that I scared my dog and he jumped up and pooted.

Seriously-though- Camicar's story reminds me of a lady I lived two houses down from when I was first married. She had her husband's boss over for dinner one night (what is up with the women and boss stories??) and when she started making mashed potatoes and realized she was out of milk...
out popped the tatas and she used THAT milk for her potatoes- then fed them to him!!!!!! And then,she had the gall to ASK him how he liked the potatoes!!!!!!!!!


To this day- my DH flat out refuses to eat at someone's house he doesn't know really really REALLY well.

OP- there really isn't much to be done in your situation, I'm afraid. She is doing it b/c she revels in the attention that it brings her.

Bless her heart. That's so sad.

Jo

 

[scottishduffy]

Seriously-though- Camicar's story reminds me of a lady I lived two houses down from when I was first married. She had her husband's boss over for dinner one night (what is up with the women and boss stories??) and when she started making mashed potatoes and realized she was out of milk...
out popped the tatas and she used THAT milk for her potatoes- then fed them to him!!!!!! And then,she had the gall to ASK him how he liked the potatoes!!!!!!!!!


Jo

DUDE!!!! That is sick!!

I thought I had it bad, but between you and camicar I have been thoroughly traumatized.

Seriously though, I was making mashed potatoes tonight with dinner and i just don't think I can do it now.

This thread has provided some totally tit-tacular laughs.

MyTwoTinks: My brother and SIL are very serious types. While the rest of us are big jokesters they are much more serious than the rest and it is hard to joke with them since you never know where their line is.

 

[Tikitoi]

I have been debating about how to respond to this post bec of my personal experience in this matter which was so uncomfortable that nearly 20 years later it still gives me the heebie geebies.

Can I say OMG!

 

[Tikitoi]

Seriously-though- Camicar's story reminds me of a lady I lived two houses down from when I was first married. She had her husband's boss over for dinner one night (what is up with the women and boss stories??) and when she started making mashed potatoes and realized she was out of milk...
out popped the tatas and she used THAT milk for her potatoes- then fed them to him!!!!!! And then,she had the gall to ASK him how he liked the potatoes!!!!!!!!!

Now that is truly sick.

 

[TomLovesBecky]

Hmmm I am a HUGE breastfeeding, nursing in public supporter. However, from what you've described, it does seem as if she goes out of her way to expose herself. Maybe that isn't true, I don't know. And quite honestly there should be no problem with any amount of breast showing, that's what they are for. However, I understand the sensibilities of her male relatives and strangers at the mall. I don't know what to tell you except to maybe try not to react, if she is really doing it for shock value then if she doesn't get a reaction maybe she will tone it down a bit??? Otherwise just keep ignoring her anyway, leave if she makes you uncomfortable, she won't breastfeed forever and eventually when she's 60 it will become obvious she's flashing for shock value, lol!

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

I'm supportive of breast feeding, but that would skeev me enough that I would say something, and probably not in a very polite manner. Please keep us updated. Camicar and JoBird- you have scarred me for life!

One thing I get a kick out of is how many euphemisms for breasts I have seen on this thread. I never knew there were so many!

 

[JoBird]

Now that is truly sick.

DUDE!!!! That is sick!!

I thought I had it bad, but between you and camicar I have been thoroughly traumatized.

Seriously though, I was making mashed potatoes tonight with dinner and i just don't think I can do it now.

.

LOL--- how do YOU like your taters????????

Okay- I have to throw this in there- that lady's daughter was named Tatum. And I swear, every single blessed time my DH saw this lady, he would ask her how Tater was doing.

He, too, was also traumatized--- and could never remember the kids name.

hahahahaha
Jo

 

[L107ANGEL]

Alright, I almost didn't look at this thread, but oh my Lord I am so glad I did!!!!
From the Milking station to the Hooter Hider- it's been one after another that has caused me to giggle just a bit. But this: took the cake. I laughed so loud and so sudden that I scared my dog and he jumped up and pooted.

Seriously-though- Camicar's story reminds me of a lady I lived two houses down from when I was first married. She had her husband's boss over for dinner one night (what is up with the women and boss stories??) and when she started making mashed potatoes and realized she was out of milk...
out popped the tatas and she used THAT milk for her potatoes- then fed them to him!!!!!! And then,she had the gall to ASK him how he liked the potatoes!!!!!!!!!


To this day- my DH flat out refuses to eat at someone's house he doesn't know really really REALLY well.

OP- there really isn't much to be done in your situation, I'm afraid. She is doing it b/c she revels in the attention that it brings her.

Bless her heart. That's so sad.

Jo

I need therapy now!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Nik's Mom]

OMG! This thread is both shocking and hilarious! Some of you have some crazy breast-feeding stories.

To the op, I think your sister-in-law is just clamouring for attention here. Next time she does it, I'd just get up and leave. I was a breast-feeding mom, and have had to breast feed in public before. But I always made sure that my breast was not exposed. And believe me, if I could discreetly breast-feed with these big ****s, anyone can!

 

[Nancyg56]

Words that immediately come to mind:

Rude
Inconsiderate
Selfish
Show-off
Ignorant
Exhibitionist
Self-centered


I'm all for breast feeding if that is what one chooses, but one can also be discreet about it - rather than putting on a side show..

You said all I was thinking and so well I would add YUCHHHHHHH!

Just say, "Time to go!" as soon as the milk supply comes out. And then get up and leave. Enough of that and someone is bound to get the hint. (Throw in an, "oh gross!" or "not again" with and eyeroll for good measure!)

If you cannot be honest and tell her that breastfeeding is a part of life. Letting the girls fall free for Jr to use as a play mobile for all to enjoy is not then this would work.

Nuff said.

Oh yeah,

Blech!

This woman is using nursing her child as an excuse to let her inhibitions loose....literally. I am a blunt person when I am placed in an uncomfortable position so I would tell her that this is not acceptable public nursing techniques and if she wants to expose herself she might consider doing so when she is alone with her DH. I would have had to pry poor DH up off the floor and given him CPR if my DD had given this kind of show in public.

 

[ERMama]

if she wants to put on a show, dont give her an audience. if she doesnt get the joking hints i would straight up leave and tell her that although you are okay with breastfeeding, showing both her breasts makes you feel very ackward.

i think fake complements about her breasts would make her show them more.
maybe a little, oh, is that a bruise on your breast? oh wait, maybe its just the beginning of a stretch mark.

 

[mickeysgal]

and when she started making mashed potatoes and realized she was out of milk...
out popped the tatas and she used THAT milk for her potatoes- then fed them to him!!!!!! And then,she had the gall to ASK him how he liked the potatoes!!!!!!!!!


Jo

Did he actually eat those potatoes??

You've got to be kidding me. Please tell me you're just joking.

I nominate this for DIS post of the year.

 

[I loveStitchnippyjon]

My SIL's firstborn was known in the family as "the baby without a face" because I swear she breastfed him 24 hours a day! He never, ever cried because he always had his mouth full. In fact, on his Christening day SIL and BIL were standing up at the Church altar and their son whimpered. She whipped up her blouse and started feeding him during the ceremony!
The poor priest didn't know where to look. He stumbled through the rest of the ceremony and we in the pews pretended not to know her.

 

[Hillbeans]

This thread is hysterical.....I love the Hooter Hider, then the talk of DBro massaging the breasts at the swimming club.....
I am seriously cracking up - I 2nd the nomination for thread of the year!

 

[rie'smom]

My question is what will she expose when the baby outgrows b'feeding?

 

[scottishduffy]

I am seriously cracking up - I 2nd the nomination for thread of the year!

Wow.... as OP of a possible thread of the year I would like to thank the Academy. Umm. *blush* I would like to thank all the fans a Posters on this thread for their contribution. I would like to thank my brother for his obsession with my SIL's newly super-sized breasts and his commitment to massaging her ****s to get the milk down. I'll thank DNephew for being a hungry baby and SIL for her total lack of shame and her undying pride in her bodily functions. THANKS!!!

(Is my emmy shaped like a giant nipple?)

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

I have been debating about how to respond to this post bec of my personal experience in this matter which was so uncomfortable that nearly 20 years later it still gives me the heebie geebies.

We all then went to google and did our own research and discovered to our surprise a whole lotta people with the same fetish which often manifests itself in exhibitionism.

Ok, I bolded the parts of the story that weren't making sense to me. Google was founded in 1998, kinda hard to google something 20 years ago.

To the OP, she sounds pretty wacked in the head to me. I bf my first for longer than most, but I can tell you without a doubt that only one of the girls was ever out at a time and it was sure as heck covered up!

We took my step-dad to the science center recently, he's never had kids of his own and is a little skeeved by some things. During the planet show the woman next to him whipped out one of the girls and then got the kid settled in. The kid was looking around, yanking the nipple along with it and kicking my step-dad. He was trying to keep it together and finally he tried really really hard to take a nap, there was no place for him to run.