How rude is this?

[NikiM20]

We are considering moving now since we feel like we are hostels, I guess we can tell how people think of us.

We are selling our house, if interested let me know

 

[annegal]

and I am waiting to have kids until we are married . .

Bingo! It simply could be folks who are uncomfortable with "living together in sin" -lots of people are very judgemental.... BTW-why are you waiting more than 10 years to get married.

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

I've lived in this house for 10 years and just met my fiance about 4 years ago, we just got engaged about a year ago and were stashing up some cash for our WDW wedding which will be in about a year or so.

 

[momof2inPA]

My neighbors dont like us...DH says me and the other wife have pis*ing contests. I started out nice just ignoring her and things got worse over the 4 yrs we havelived here. The latest thing was (they have a at home business) my dogs barking was aggravating their customers. So I told her that it is illegal to run a business out of your home and technically I could call the cops because her customers were making my dogs bark. Now for the record my dogs go out for 1-2 hours in the morning while I get ready for work, then spend the day inside, then they go outside for about 3 hours in the eveniing. NOT all day. And this is a residential area.

So, your dogs are only outside barking for 5 hours out of the day? I wouldn't like to have you for a neighbor, either. I hope your new house is in the country.

 

[LindsayDunn228]

It's illegal to run a business out of your home? That's the first time I've heard of that one.

 

[agnes!]

It's illegal to run a business out of your home? That's the first time I've heard of that one.

This probably has something to do with local zoning ordinances.

agnes!

 

[agnes!]

I'm having that trouble in church, too. I'm supposedly on the Sunday School Board, but the superintendent (3 months in a row) has "forgotten" to let me know when the meetings are. Last year I had to resign because she kept planning them on days I was out of town and I didn't think it was fair to the church to miss the meetings.

This year, I was elected and told I would have more input into the meeting dates. Now I don't even know when they are. Last week I even asked her husband when it was and he said he didn't know (it was later that same afternoon).

She did tell me when the next one is, so maybe it is just an "oversight".

Is there a church secretary or office manager? I would think that all the church meetings (choir rehearsals, committees, etc) would have to be kept track of on a master schedule, especially if the meetings are in the church building. Maybe you could talk to whoever's in charge of scheduling & get the list of meeting times from them.

If this "forgetting" keeps on happening, somebody has to be in charge of the Sunday School Superintendent. Tell them what's going on & get the info from the Superintendent's superintendent , like the Pastor

Good luck,
agnes!

 

[Becky2005]

It's illegal to run a business out of your home? That's the first time I've heard of that one.

Really? You didn't know it was illegal to have business stuff in a residental zoned area? I know you can run party plan type of business but if it's one where clients are coming & going at lots of different times, the city might have some problems with that (parking issues, increased traffic on a residential road, etc... a whole bunch of other issues that are usually looked at when making zoning decisions).

I know my dad at one time looked into opening a small barber shop in one area of a house we had as it was near some other businesses, it was zoned residential. He *could* have done if if he had gotten all the neighbors to sign off on some form, gone to some zoning meetings to get a variance/zoning change from residential to business, etc...

I don't know all the details but there is a reason they have zones.

 

[lovesmurfs]

Is there a church secretary or office manager? I would think that all the church meetings (choir rehearsals, committees, etc) would have to be kept track of on a master schedule, especially if the meetings are in the church building. Maybe you could talk to whoever's in charge of scheduling & get the list of meeting times from them.

If this "forgetting" keeps on happening, somebody has to be in charge of the Sunday School Superintendent. Tell them what's going on & get the info from the Superintendent's superintendent , like the Pastor

Good luck,
agnes!

Thanks so much. I've already mentioned my concern to the Pastor this morning. The master calendar is only as good as the people planning meetings putting the info on the calendar. There's no secretary....

Communication in any organization is SOOO important. We have a prayer chain which only goes to some of the congregation, and a whole segment of the population (those who aren't home during the day) is lost. I started an email chain, which is successful WHEN people remember to tell me to send something out......

It just bothers me. For three years prior to this, I didn't miss a meeting. Now I feel like some kind of sloth in missing meetings (and what do they say when I don't show up? My guess is that she doesn't say to the group that she didn't tell me). We've had some other issues with the church, but I've been reluctant to switch because the children are involved in the activities (and I'm heavily involved on committees, activities and teaching). I think the time has come -- you'd think with all of the "involvement" I'd know what's going on!

I'm also on another committee (nominations of a sort). We haven't had a meeting since March, and all of a sudden we HAD to meet -- they scheduled it for this Tuesday night, told me yesterday. I said that I had back to school night for my daughter's school and couldn't come, but that I could meet during the 30-minute meet and greet between the service and Sunday School, or after church. We wound up meeting today DURING Sunday School. When I protested that I didn't want to miss SS, the woman in charge said she had plans after church and couldn't stay.

Seem's that Christ didn't get nailed to the cross after all -- he was hung with red tape after a committee meeting.

Sorry to hijack the OP -- Just venting.

 

[momof2inPA]

Thanks so much. I've already mentioned my concern to the Pastor this morning. The master calendar is only as good as the people planning meetings putting the info on the calendar. There's no secretary....

Communication in any organization is SOOO important. We have a prayer chain which only goes to some of the congregation, and a whole segment of the population (those who aren't home during the day) is lost. I started an email chain, which is successful WHEN people remember to tell me to send something out......

It just bothers me. For three years prior to this, I didn't miss a meeting. Now I feel like some kind of sloth in missing meetings (and what do they say when I don't show up? My guess is that she doesn't say to the group that she didn't tell me). We've had some other issues with the church, but I've been reluctant to switch because the children are involved in the activities (and I'm heavily involved on committees, activities and teaching). I think the time has come -- you'd think with all of the "involvement" I'd know what's going on!

I'm also on another committee (nominations of a sort). We haven't had a meeting since March, and all of a sudden we HAD to meet -- they scheduled it for this Tuesday night, told me yesterday. I said that I had back to school night for my daughter's school and couldn't come, but that I could meet during the 30-minute meet and greet between the service and Sunday School, or after church. We wound up meeting today DURING Sunday School. When I protested that I didn't want to miss SS, the woman in charge said she had plans after church and couldn't stay.

Seem's that Christ didn't get nailed to the cross after all -- he was hung with red tape after a committee meeting.

Sorry to hijack the OP -- Just venting.

To be fair, if you are so busy and heavily involved, they can't be expected to schedule around you all the time. You know what I mean?

 

[lovesmurfs]

To be fair, if you are so busy and heavily involved, they can't be expected to schedule around you all the time. You know what I mean?

You've got a great point. I'm really not asking them to schedule around me --in fact, I told them to hold it Tuesday without me (but one of the other members' wives is having surgery and had forgotten). I'm sorry if I've come across this way. Our family IS very busy, and we're married to the calendar in our dining room. If it doesn't make the calendar, it's not scheduled. But once I commit, I don't miss it.

For the SS Board, I'd just like to be made aware of the meeting. The three years prior, the meeting was the 2nd Wednesday of the month. In May, I just put the meetings for the whole year on our calendar. These past two years, they've been haphazardly thrown together and scheduled at the last minute (however, since I'm not willing to step up to the plate and take charge, I should just put up or shut up).

For the committee that met today, three days is not enough notice (Saturday evening until Tuesday) for a committee that hasn't met since March.

 

[NikiM20]

So, your dogs are only outside barking for 5 hours out of the day? I wouldn't like to have you for a neighbor, either. I hope your new house is in the country.

They dont bark for 5 hours, they only bark when people come up

 

[annegal]

I've lived in this house for 10 years and just met my fiance about 4 years ago, we just got engaged about a year ago and were stashing up some cash for our WDW wedding which will be in about a year or so.

So you live together-right?

I did so myself, but in a family oriented neighborhood, some people can be judgemental- and that could be the reason(??)

 

[momof2inPA]

They dont bark for 5 hours, they only bark when people come up

So, your neighbors just have to live with your dogs barking at their guests for five hours every day? I think they need to be kept inside.

 

[NikiM20]

So, your neighbors just have to live with your dogs barking at their guests for five hours every day? I think they need to be kept inside.

Well its not your decision, and i didnt ask what you thought. theyre not guests they are customers of theirs driving in and out of my neighborhood everyday at all hours of the day and night. I dont know why you hate animals so much but every time someone mentions an animal you get all high and mighty.

And if i have to live with their "customers" they have to live with my dogs

 

[NikiM20]

Oh and BTW it is not illegal to have dogs barking, it is illegal to run a business in a residential neighborhood
FWIW they have been outside for 2 hours and I have yet to hear them bark, my other neighbors also have dogs and no complaints from them

 

[famofsix]

The new neighbors may not approve of you living with a man and not being married. I know some people would have a huge problem with that, but would never tell you.

Who knows why some people don't like us? Don't let them bring you down.

Lori

Maybe people have a problem with that but it's a garage sale for Pete's sake?????? Sounds like you try to be a good neighbor OP, I think you should brush it off and meanwhile tag all your garage sale stuff now for next year. You'll have twice as much and probably get the most business. I wouldn't worry about it. People get uptight about the weirdest things. My neighbor was mad at another neighbor for putting a pile of sticks on the property line for the town truck to pick up. She installed a little picket fence two feet high (just the corner of the fence...two sections, mind you) on the spot that the sticks were on.
Petty, petty, petty.
Life goes on, don't worry about it. Get your real friends over and have your own BBQ.

 

[famofsix]

You've got a great point. I'm really not asking them to schedule around me --in fact, I told them to hold it Tuesday without me (but one of the other members' wives is having surgery and had forgotten). I'm sorry if I've come across this way. Our family IS very busy, and we're married to the calendar in our dining room. If it doesn't make the calendar, it's not scheduled. But once I commit, I don't miss it.

For the SS Board, I'd just like to be made aware of the meeting. The three years prior, the meeting was the 2nd Wednesday of the month. In May, I just put the meetings for the whole year on our calendar. These past two years, they've been haphazardly thrown together and scheduled at the last minute (however, since I'm not willing to step up to the plate and take charge, I should just put up or shut up).

For the committee that met today, three days is not enough notice (Saturday evening until Tuesday) for a committee that hasn't met since March.

Honestly, I would find another church with people that appreciate my gifts and talents even though it would be hard.

 

[castleview]

Wow! I sure appreciate my neighbors after reading this thread. OP, this woman may have a problem with you because you're young, single, hot and not bogged down with kids. That's how I would regard it.

 

[disykat]

Honestly, I would find another church with people that appreciate my gifts and talents even though it would be hard.

I had a problem with meetings of one board because I was sort of a nonvoting adjunct member. I was supposed to be invited to general meetings and the head of the committee continually forgot. When I figured out he just wasn't going to remember, I asked another board member to keep me clued in.

I can't imagine leaving a church because one person doesn't notify effectively.