How rude is this?

[Tiinkerbelle]

I have no idea why she was in charge, she is fairly new to the neighbor hood. I don't think in a 1 month time frame she can become best friends with everyone and get them to turn against us. I've lived here for almost 10 years now, and THOUGHT we had a good connection with everyone.

Oh the high school years are really coming back to get me .

 

[Minnie824]

Sounds like a 'cul de sac clique'. We have one of those, that we do not partake in. They seem to have to do everything together every free min, and we really want to spend time together as a family. We don't get 'invited' to all of the 'block events' and the first time it bugged me. We thought it was pretty rude as well. Now, I dont care, as long as they don't bug me. Good luck w/your neighbors. I wouldn't move because of it though.

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

We should've stayed in our old house Just around the corner of this development, 10 years ago this was all just farm land for horses now all the free land is turning into houses . Anyways, back then we were always included in things, very friendly kid-safe zone. This is not the right place to raise a child I'm sure of that, much to stuck up.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds like a 'cul de sac clique'.

Yep...our last couple of homes had some serious "Cliques"...yuk.

First house was rednecks with bonfires and drunken stabbings.
Next house was former HS pom-pons & cheerleaders. Good grief they all tried to outdecorate their houses CHEAPLY.
It was a competition of who could get the best stuff for the best price.

This house, I told DH NO CULD-E-SAC! I am much happier!

 

[kimmikayb]

Ok, I know. Your junk is better then their junk and they didn't want you to out sell them?? OR you are so much prettier then all the neighbors they didn't want you outside where their husbands would give you google eyes? Or they are just a bunch of stuck up snobs. Really, I hope it was just a misunderstanding.

 

[Becky2005]

Bummer! I was hoping it was an oversight with a case of everyone else thought you knew.

I wasn't invited to my MOM's 50th surprise birthday party!! *Everyone* thought someone else told me about it but no one did. I had even talked to my dad a couple days before the party (he thought I knew so didn't say anything). I thought it a bit odd for no party but not overly so. My mom called me later after the party and if that was why I gave her all her stuff on her actual birthday, so it would be a surprise. I was and had to ask her what party?

So, then everyone was asking everyone else -- didn't you tell her? No, I thought YOU told her?

So, I know it happens but the fact that they are evasive when you ask, seems off to me. In my case, everyone was trying to figure out how come I didn't know. with dealing with the neighbors.

 

[lovesmurfs]

I'm having that trouble in church, too. I'm supposedly on the Sunday School Board, but the superintendent (3 months in a row) has "forgotten" to let me know when the meetings are. Last year I had to resign because she kept planning them on days I was out of town and I didn't think it was fair to the church to miss the meetings.

This year, I was elected and told I would have more input into the meeting dates. Now I don't even know when they are. Last week I even asked her husband when it was and he said he didn't know (it was later that same afternoon).

She did tell me when the next one is, so maybe it is just an "oversight".

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

I just spoke with my fiance Andy and he didn't know anything about it, apparently this looks like I was left out on purpose, for what reason is left unknown.

 

[wheeler1]

Hi Tinkerbelle,

I'm wondering if you're friendly with any of your neighbors? If so, then why didnt any of them fill you in? Did the entire neighborhood consent to keep this from you???

Oh, this soooo, wouldnt sit with me! I would have marched right on over to your place to let you know what the plans were and would have informed miss "queen bee", what I did.

Oh how I hate this kind of thing......I would never ever ever ever survive in one of "these" neighborhoods!!!

Keep your chin up! Its lousy any way you slice it.....But I would look differently at ALL my neighbors if I were in your shoes....

 

[Nancy]

I just spoke with them, they totally avoided the subject, and with a hesistant voice said, "This kind of just happened". I spoke with my neighbor who said she'd call me, she told me this has been planned for about a month and they apparently just don't like me , they made it clear to everyone not to tell us.
I've always wondered why we never got the news of the yearly BBQ for the past 5 years that we always manage to "miss". They have a bounce house, carnival games, and a big tent where they BBQ chicken, meats, ect.

Well if that is true it is pretty lousy of all those other "friendly" neighbors not to let you know what is going on. If I was told to not let someone know about a block sale of neighborhood BBQ I would still let them know if I was their friend.

I organize our yearly block sale. I make out flyers and 1 gets delivered to every house. I don't care who puts stuff out, why would I want to stop someone from selling their stuff (I don't like my neighbor all that much but I still tell her)

 

[momof2inPA]

Wow. The neighbor and the church thing are ridiculous.

OP- Do you do something that could bother all the neighbors? Do you have mean dogs or cats that pee all over the neighborhood? Do your kids bully all the other kids? Does your fiance hit on all the wives? Don't you (heaven forbid) mow the lawn every week? Do you set your trash cans out too early or pull them in too late in the day?

 

[disykat]

Man, that's just weird. I can see socializing without a neighbor if you don't like them ( very rude if everyone else is invited, but I can at least understand what motivated it) but why on earth would it matter if someone you didn't like had a garage sale the same day as you? What could possibly be the motivation for that? Just plain meanness? It makes more traffic, more money, less inconvenience of having extra traffic in the neighborhood - if everyone does it on the same day.

I don't get it!

 

[Tinijocaro]

We had a block party this year, and I sent my kids around with the flyers and they forgot one house. Those people got all in a snit when they heard about it and left town for the night. They never asked me about it, or thought to question why I would leave them out on purpose. I have no gripe with them- it was an accident. I sent them a very nice apology the next day and haven't heard anything. Oh well- maybe you were accidentally overlooked too.

Jackie

 

[Tiinkerbelle]

Wow. The neighbor and the church thing are ridiculous.

OP- Do you do something that could bother all the neighbors? Do you have mean dogs or cats that pee all over the neighborhood? Do your kids bully all the other kids? Does your fiance hit on all the wives? Don't you (heaven forbid) mow the lawn every week? Do you set your trash cans out too early or pull them in too late in the day?

Nope, we keep our dog inside or in the backyard, she hardly barks. Our cat is also an indoor cat, never goes outside. No my husband doesn't hit on any of the wives, and I am waiting to have kids until we are married . We do mow the lawn every saturday, and put the trash cans out on the days they are suppost to, but I don't think that would cause them to do that . I'm not sure why they had to do this, it's just beyond words for me.

 

[OceanAnnie]

That's just a strange situation (and the church situation is too).

Why would your neighbors go along with it? The first thing I'd do is find out if they know more than they mentioned about this long term oversight.

Are you part of an association? Really strange.

 

[Keli]

This just sounds so odd to me. Why would they all keep it a secret from you, no matter what the queen bee wanted? That would upset me as much as anything.

 

[gypsydoodlebug]

Sounds like a 'cul de sac clique'. We have one of those, that we do not partake in. They seem to have to do everything together every free min, and we really want to spend time together as a family. We don't get 'invited' to all of the 'block events' and the first time it bugged me. We thought it was pretty rude as well. Now, I dont care, as long as they don't bug me. Good luck w/your neighbors. I wouldn't move because of it though.

OMG. Do you live in my neighborhood? We have the "Desperate Housewives." They walk every morning at 6:45 while I'm getting DD ready to go to daycare and ME ready for work. They also pull their grills into their driveways confused3) and throw footballs from one driveway to another. There's four of them who are really tight.

OP, I walked out onto my front porch to let the dog out Monday, and found the 14 houses on my small cul-de-sac having a barbeque. Nobody told us -- and we WERE invited last year to the annual Cul-de-Cue. It sucks, and it hurts.

 

[pirateofthecarolinas]

The new neighbors may not approve of you living with a man and not being married. I know some people would have a huge problem with that, but would never tell you.

Who knows why some people don't like us? Don't let them bring you down.

Lori

 

[XYSRUS]

This is a horrible way for adults to act. Who cares who goes in on a garage sale? I know your feelings must be hurt but just stay away from creepy people like that. And they wonder why kids today are the same way. I would make it a point not to talk to them...and the "friendly neighbor " would get a piece of my mind too. EEE gads!

 

[NikiM20]

My neighbors dont like us...DH says me and the other wife have pis*ing contests. I started out nice just ignoring her and things got worse over the 4 yrs we havelived here. The latest thing was (they have a at home business) my dogs barking was aggravating their customers. So I told her that it is illegal to run a business out of your home and technically I could call the cops because her customers were making my dogs bark. Now for the record my dogs go out for 1-2 hours in the morning while I get ready for work, then spend the day inside, then they go outside for about 3 hours in the eveniing. NOT all day. And this is a residential area.

OP have fun with it!!! You are in no way connected to these people.
Now we are moving next door to the inlaws