How rude and Selfish Is This?!?!?!?

[disneyfav4ever]

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[FayeW]

I would say, given the climate on this thread and well, all of the OP's other threads as well, that the OP will never tell us who is stealing or how she knows because inevitably, if she was so foolish to actually admit it was her mother, the vultures would start with how she was "an ungrateful daughter, how dare she judge her mother after all she's done for her, after all she gave her LIFE, and a HOME, and it doesn't matter that she pays rent, and all her own bills, and groceries, and prepares all her own meals because she is still UNDER THEIR ROOF and everything she buys belongs to them and if she doesn't like them breaking the law and stealing from charity she should just GROW UP and MOVE OUT and stop being ungrateful!"

It doesn't matter what she posts...all of the OP's posts spiral down to the exact same thing. She could tell us one of her parents murdered somebody and it would be exactly the same.

I never really figured out why people are so caught up in the fact that she is a cashier at a grocery store, or why they have to keep bringing up that she doesn't work at a job using her degree. Maybe she made a bad choice, and the career her degree is for isn't what she's good at. Big deal! She recognized that and went back to her previous employer. She already says she gets paid more there (because she has seniority) than working in her degree field, so it sounds like it was a good move. Lots of people don't use their degrees in their jobs. Hey, lots of people on this board have degrees and don't have jobs at all.

I guess it's just more fun to pick on somebody.

 

[disneyfav4ever]

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[BuzznBelle'smom]

I don't think anybody here would think it was okay for the OP's mother to steal, assuming that's who she's talking about. Sure, there are a lot of people here who think the OP obsesses on food, has a dysfunctional family, and should aim for more independence, but that doesn't make stealing okay.

I find it more interesting that the OP won't say who the thief is, and/or how she is 100% certain. I don't know why this is some kind of top secret information. And if it's so sensitive, why post in the first place?

 

[disneyfav4ever]

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[paigevz]

Because it shouldn't make a difference who the thief is. If it's wrong it's wrong, regardless of who's doing it.

Nevermind, two days later, I forgot she was only venting.

 

[CJBaby]

He knows my mom didn't make it, she wasn't home. I was downstairs making it, he was upstairs. When it was done, and hot, to hot to eat, I did something while I was waiting for it to cool. I went back to the kitchen a little later, and the dish was in the sink. And I said on the other thread, it's not that he ate some of it, it's that he ate all of it that really gets me.

That's a different take on Goldilocks if I've ever heard it.

 

[Jennasis]

Yes, but you asked how it should be HANDLED,

Did she?

 

[paigevz]

No, she most certainly did not. I went back and looked again. My mistake. In that case, sorry, vent away.

 

[WDSearcher]

But when it was my dad breaking the law, and I vented about that, I got flamed.

Well, I missed that thread.

Perhaps you're getting flamed not because of the actual acts you're writing about but because of HOW you're writing about them? It's kind of hard to follow some of your posts, and you're pretty elusive about certain facts.

Maybe try to be a bit clearer with facts and decide whether you just want to vent or whether you're asking for advice. If you just want to vent, state that up front and most people will just leave it alone. If you ask for advice or say "how should I handle this" or "what would you do" then people are going to give you their opinions. And they're probably going to ask for more info so that they can better determine a course of action.

 

[Cool-Beans]

Did she?

No, she didn't. She asked how rude and shelfish it was.

I guess we need a scale. Is this on a 1-10, with 1 being Mother Teresa and 10 being Hitler?

 

[pixie dust 112]

I never really figured out why people are so caught up in the fact that she is a cashier at a grocery store, or why they have to keep bringing up that she doesn't work at a job using her degree. Maybe she made a bad choice, and the career her degree is for isn't what she's good at. Big deal! She recognized that and went back to her previous employer. She already says she gets paid more there (because she has seniority) than working in her degree field, so it sounds like it was a good move. Lots of people don't use their degrees in their jobs. Hey, lots of people on this board have degrees and don't have jobs at all.

I guess it's just more fun to pick on somebody.

Well said! Thank you!

 

[pixie dust 112]

No, I choose to ignore them. If they have nothing better to do then talk about people on the DIS behind their backs, that's their waste of life, not mine.

Good Attitude!

 

[paigevz]

No, she didn't. She asked how rude and shelfish it was.

I guess we need a scale. Is this on a 1-10, with 1 being Mother Teresa and 10 being Hitler?

That's one big scale.

 

[WDSearcher]

No, she didn't. She asked how rude and selfish it was.

OK then ... to answer the question ... yes.

It is rude (defined as "discourteous and impolite") to take something that wasn't meant for you. It is also selfish (definted as "caring only for oneself") to take things that you like without regard to the people who both gave the food and who should receive the food.

The question has been answered.

 

[MrsPete]

I know someone who collects food to take to a donation bank. She gets it from people she knows, and makes one run to the bank with several bags at a time, so the people don't each have to go themselves.

I thought that this was great, since I know some of the people have an easy time getting it to her instead of taking it to the bank, and that's only if they would take it to the bank in the first place.

Well, I found out that this person, when she gets food, goes through the bags before taking them to the donation bank, and takes out things that she and her family like!

I can't believe someone would do something like this.

I believe God has a sense of humor about things like this . . . "So you want food from the Food Bank, do you? Well, We can arrange things so that you'll NEED it."

Actually, I did something remotely like this not too long ago -- but I don't feel a bit bad about what I did. I had a whole trunkful of groceries that'd been donated by a group of which I'm a part. I was supposed to take the food to the Food Bank. In the couple of days before I could find time to drive over there, my brother's house burned down. Literally burned to the ground, he had NOTHING except the pajamas on his back. No shoes, no keys to his car, no ID to prove that the money in the bank was his, not even a pair of shoes for his feet. I gave the food to him -- and I told the group that I'd done it. I don't think that was out of line. People donated to the needy, and he was (and still is, actually) quite needy. He almost cried when I opened up that trunk and handed him bags full of chicken noodle soup, vegetables, and pancake mix. I told him that it was donated -- I didn't try to pass it off as ME being kind to him.

 

[BuzznBelle'smom]

Okay, here's my problem with your "if it's wrong, it's wrong" thing. Is there any theory that you have under which it might be OKAY or RIGHT to steal food intended for the food bank? Is there a moral dilemma--is your mother, oops, I mean, the person taking the canned goods so desperate for food that this is the only way that she can obtain some? If that were the case, I would probably not say anything--I would figure she was saving herself a trip to the food bank to get stuff to feed her family. If the person in question doesn't have a dire need, and is just, say, skimming off the solid white tuna while leaving the Spam, then heck yeah, it's wrong and the person should be called on it.

Were you just trying to see if people agree with you so you could remain self-righteous in your silence? I'm truly not understanding your issue here--if it's wrong, and you believe that it's wrong, why aren't you taking some action? Or, if you can't bring yourself to do anything, why start a thread? I must be missing something...

 

[shirleyb]

Because it shouldn't make a difference who the thief is. If it's wrong it's wrong, regardless of who's doing it.

That's right, so why won't you share who's doing it?

 

[BelleBoo&AmisMum]

I can't believe I read the whole thing thread.

Your family has some really really really messed up ideas around food, so which one of your parents is it? I'm leaning towards dad.

 

[basas]

I know someone who collects food to take to a donation bank. She gets it from people she knows, and makes one run to the bank with several bags at a time, so the people don't each have to go themselves.

I thought that this was great, since I know some of the people have an easy time getting it to her instead of taking it to the bank, and that's only if they would take it to the bank in the first place.

Well, I found out that this person, when she gets food, goes through the bags before taking them to the donation bank, and takes out things that she and her family like!

I can't believe someone would do something like this.