How much to spend for wedding gift???

[mom of princessx2]

Unusual situation on a wedding invitation we received. My dh was handed a wedding invitation from a co-worker at work in a blank envelope. The wedding was for a co-workers daughter. The wedding was 3 days from when the invitation was received, so of course we couldn't go on such short notice. Not sure if we would have attended anyhow as we don't really know the family and my dh isn't close with this co-worker. Also, this wasn't a small wedding. The had formal invitations with receptions directions and all, just not addressed to us.

So, what would you give for a gift in this situation?? They are not registered anywhere so that is off the table.

 

[wdwfan16]

Unusual situation on a wedding invitation we received. My dh was handed a wedding invitation from a co-worker at work in a blank envelope. The wedding was for a co-workers daughter. The wedding was 3 days from when the invitation was received, so of course we couldn't go on such short notice. Not sure if we would have attended anyhow as we don't really know the family and my dh isn't close with this co-worker. Also, this wasn't a small wedding. The had formal invitations with receptions directions and all, just not addressed to us.

So, what would you give for a gift in this situation?? They are not registered anywhere so that is off the table.

Under the situation you listed I would not give a gift. If your DH works closely with the co-worker or the co-worker could become his boss, then I would buy an inexpensive gift that I got on sale.

 

[lisabarr]

Looks like you guy's didn't even make the "B" list.... more like the "C" or "D". I would send a card and my best wishes....no way would I send a gift!

 

[neatokimmo]

I don't know if I would buy anything. You really weren't invited, that was more of a cover your butt type of invitation.

 

[Avonlady1001]

Honestly, I wouldn't give anything. Sounds like you were either an afterthought, or on the B or C list...they were just trying to fill some seats. Since you don't know the family & were invited to this wedding 3 days before the event, I say you are off the hook for a gift.

If (and that's a BIG if) I felt obligated b/c my DH would have to see this co-worker every day, I would do like a $25 gift card to a home type store like Bed Bath & Beyond in a card, with the bride & groom's name on it, of course.

 

[golfgal]

I wouldn't send a gift. It sounds like she didn't want to take the time to address envelopes or money for stamps for co-workers.

 

[SaraJayne]

You aren't obligated to get anything. I wouldn't.

 

[Hollywoodhaha]

Sounds to me like they are just giving an invite to get money or a gift.

 

[mom of princessx2]

I wouldn't send a gift. It sounds like she didn't want to take the time to address envelopes or money for stamps for co-workers.

I agree. Dh said he handed them out to about 6 or 7 people that day and kept saying, my wife is making me do this.

 

[mom of princessx2]

Sounds to me like they are just giving an invite to get money or a gift.

That is what I am starting to think.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

If it were me the only thing they might get from me was a firm handshake. How insulting to be invited like that! I would not even send a card. If they couldn't be bothered properly inviting you like everyone else then I wouldn't be bothered doing anything for them.

 

[mumom95]

Sounds like they had to pay for a specific number of people for the reception, have had a lot of no replies, so are now just trying to fill the seats.

If you can't go, and since they aren't a close friend, I don't think you need to send a gift.

 

[RadioNate]

I agree. Dh said he handed them out to about 6 or 7 people that day and kept saying, my wife is making me do this.

ahh the seat filler invitation. I think the co-worker knew it was tacky.

They didn't get their minimum guarantee and were inviting anyone they could think of since they had to pay anyway.

I don't think a gift is expected or required.

If you were nice and this guy has a chance of being your boss some day I might get a cheap card and maybe a $20 gift card to a home store (like someone suggested) or a local restaurant.

But I don't think they are looking for a gift per say. And I don't think it would reflect badly on you not to give one.

 

[BeachGirlFLA]

I agree. Dh said he handed them out to about 6 or 7 people that day and kept saying, my wife is making me do this.

That's pretty rude. I wouldn't give anything.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I would get some cheapish candlesticks or something like that. The bride may not even know (and might be very embarrassed) her father handed out an invitation in such a way, so I wouldn't take it out on her, but I wouldn't buy an expensive gift for someone I don't even know whose wedding I was "sort of" invited to.

 

[luvmy3]

I wouldn't give a gift.

 

[DisneyBlonde]

Sounds to me like they are just giving an invite to get money or a gift.

I agree.

 

[okeydokey]

Since the bride has absolutely no idea who you are, I wouldn't worry about it. What are the other co-workers doing?

 

[DVC Sadie]

I would not send a gift at all but I might be temtpted to hand my co-worker a $20.00 gift card (without an envelope) and tell them to please give this to the bride and groom.

 

[mom of princessx2]

What are the other co-workers doing?

I wondered that as well but dh doesn't think it is appropriate to ask others what or if they gave. I guess he doesn't want to put anyone on the spot if they didn't give.