How much do you give for a wedding gift? inspired by Pooh_Friend#1's thread

[tidoublegger]

I'm going to a wedding on Saturday...a casual friend/co-worker. I'm curious, how much do you give for a wedding gift? Does it differ if it's friends vs family or if you're in the wedding party?

 

[dvcfamily41801]

We just went to a wedding in May and gave $200.00. It was for a couple that my husband works with and we have gotten together with a few times.

 

[EsmeraldaX]

I usually don't give cash. I prefer to give gifts. Depending on who it's for I would spend anywhere from $25 (co-worker I only see at work) to $100 (close friend) between $100-$200 for a family member.

 

[leahannpen]

Boy, I don't remember what we've done in the past! And it hasn't even been that long.

I believe, when one of us (DH or myself) has been in the wedding, we've given $100. Otherwise $50. I guess the somewhat rule of thumb around here is, you atleast want to cover the dinner cost. I have 2 weddings coming up soon, so I better brush up on my wedding etiquette. LOL!!

If they aren't great friends or just casual, maybe just a gift from the store they registered at?? Then you don't have a monetary value staring them in the face?? Just an idea.

Good luck !!

 

[ducklite]

My best friends daughter is getting married this Saturday. We're giving them $200.

Anne

 

[Lewski709]

Yep, it matters how close you are to the person, your age, the area you live in, the type of wedding and your income level, IMO.

I give between $25 - 50. Never been in a wedding party, but I would tend to give $50 or more to that person. 200.00 is very high.

 

[minniecarousel]

Just curious - I'd like some opinions. My best friend's daughter is getting married in October and I bought her some of her dinnerware from her registry. It was on sale for half price at Macy's. I spent $160 - but it's really $320 worth of stuff. I figured we'd spend at least $200 on a wedding gift. Should I buy a few more pieces? (I spent just over $100 for a shower gift.) DH thinks we're done - I'm not so sure.

(oops - didn't mean to hi-jack your thread - for a co-worker, I'd spend between $50 - $100.)

 

[crz4mm2]

Julie, that is enough!

I spend between 20-100 bucks depending on who it is and how close I am to the bride and groom(I usually buy gifts from the registry). I think 200 is a lot.

 

[LisaSt]

minimum we give is 50.00 max is 150.00

 

[JessetheCowgirl]

Probably around $50 gift, more if close friend/family

 

[mtemm]

I usually give around $100 or so. dh's aunt is getting married this september and I know he wants to do $200 or so.

 

[Kimberle]

$75 on shower gift

$200+ for wedding, cash

 

[Felicia]

I agree with Kimberle, $200+ at weddings. We are going to a wedding in late September and are putting $250 in the envelope. Trust me, that is on the 'low' end here. The wedding is for a family friend and their sister was married 2 years ago and she said most people gave $300 per couple.

Most people in our area do try to 'cover the cost of the dinner'. Some reception halls cost a fortune from $150/per person. When I was married in 1990, the cost was $85 per person and that was a lot then!

 

[Aimeedyan]

I always bring a gift (people don't give money here) and it averages about $30 for a casual friend, $50 for close friend, probably.

Not much in comparison to the NE people, but this was very much what we also received, even more than some... so as a fairly recent bride, I know that I give average for my area/group of people.

=)

 

[luvmarypoppins]

For dh best friend we were giving them $1,000, but she (new wife) was so rude to me and treated me like a piece of garbage, so with dh approval we yanked the checked out of the envelope and gave them 600. We live far away and usually dont go to the showers so when my cousins kids get married in a year or two I will give like $300. at least. Depends on who is invited, formal or not, co worker or relative etc. A aquaintance gave us an invitation to the church service but not the reception, needless to say we didnt go and they got nothing. I thought it was rude and in bad taste, like they were just looking for a gift. I still talk to her today but dont mention it etc. Give what your heart and pocketbook says is right for you.

 

[C.Ann]

First thing to consider is what we can afford.. Then the amount varies according to how close we are to the person..

I don't think people should spend more than they can comfortably afford, but I know many who do simply because they're afraid of what "others might think".. Kind of silly in my estimation..

 

[Aimeedyan]

Originally posted by luvmarypoppins
For dh best friend we were giving them $1,000, but she (new wife) was so rude to me and treated me like a piece of garbage, so with dh approval we yanked the checked out of the envelope and gave them 600. We live far away and usually dont go to the showers so when my cousins kids get married in a year or two I will give like $300. at least. Depends on who is invited, formal or not, co worker or relative etc. A aquaintance gave us an invitation to the church service but not the reception, needless to say we didnt go and they got nothing. I thought it was rude and in bad taste, like they were just looking for a gift. I still talk to her today but dont mention it etc. Give what your heart and pocketbook says is right for you.

Can I be your friend?!

Gee, we were THRILLED when my granddad gave us $100. That was WAY more than anyone else gave... Things are so diff at diff places, aren't they?

 

[JVL1018]

We give $175 or $200 depending on how close we are to the couple.

 

[tidoublegger]

Thanks for the replies~ what a huge range....from $25-$1000!!! I'm going to check out their registry list this morning then decide...Thanks again!

 

[RadioNate]

We usually give about $200. When we were poor we gave around $100. When I got married the only people who gave less than $100 were our friends who were just out of or still in college. Our peers who couldn't afford much bought gift rather than cash. I'd say they were in the $25-50 range.