How many kids do you have and would you do it again?

[FlightlessDuck]

2. Both are in their twenties. If I had to do it again, we would have had a third somewhere in the 2004-2006 range.

 

[bsmcneil]

For those here who have 2 or 3 (or more, or less) - where are you in your family's life stage and how do you feel now?

I realize this is late - so, maybe it doesn't help (sorry!). I have two. Let me back up:

I grew up an only child and for a while really wanted a sibling. I was close to cousins; so, that helped. That said, pretty early on, I realized it would be very bad (due to family dynamics) if I had a sibling and I was grateful I did not. I had a lot of thoughts about kids/families growing up and into adulthood.

Got married to someone who was an older sister. Person I married wanted 2 (and maybe more - I don't recall). My kids are amazing and for the most part, 2 is great. Here are some of my other reflections and caveats:

• I love my children so incredibly much and I would not want to change things in any direction because they would not be alive/with me.
• That said, I had children with the wrong person.
• By the time child 2 was possible, I think we both realized this would not be a good thing (generally) but we were both putting in the effort (sort of) to maintain a happy family. It was sort of one of those, "having a child will save this marriage" things though that never came into my head or was said.
• 2 seems like a great/ideal number generally. That said, as a single parent now - there are so many times having another set of hands would be invaluable.

 

[Dive Bar Casanova]

Yep, when you go from 2 kids to 3 kids you have to change from man-to-man to a zone defense. Adding #4 & #5 was far easier.

Good take.

 

[georgina]

Mine is ds21, #5, my oldest told me I had a good run.

She just quit her tech job of 7 years. The company went public a few years ago and I know she is flush with cash and stock options, but an uncertain future drives me up a wall. She shocked us when she majored in computer science, so now she wants to figure out the rest of her life, or at least the next step.