How many children did you want vs How many did you have?

[candykisses]

I always wanted 6. My husband said 4 and we have 2 wonderful boys 7 years apart. Between my husband's health problems and my age, we ran out of time.

Man plans, God laughs!

 

[onecoolmama]

I am growing my third... and I want 7.

I would like to carry 5 and adopt two.

 

[sweet angel]

I can't get over how many of you have/want 4 or more kids. I can't even imagine. Where do you put them all, afford to feed/clothe them, drive them around? Not to mention birthday/holiday gifts!

I'm apparently just not a kid person...I'm more than happy with my one.

 

[Skywalker]

My husband and I always wanted 3, however we both agreed to stop after the second one. LOL.

 

[WishingOnAStar]

I always wanted 5, really close in age. Dh said 1 or 2! After 2 girls 20 months apart, we were going to wait until the youngest was 1 year before making any further decisions. Well, when she was 7 months old (and EXCLUSIVELY breastfed!), I found out I was 8 weeks pregnant! (I knew it was 'possible' while breastfeeding, but was told by lactation consultant that as long as no other foods were introduced, it would be nearly impossible....hmmm...)
I remember being SO scared to tell dh, and just feeling like things were finally going well, how were we going to do it, etc.... Anyway, ds was born when younges dd was 14 months and we don't know what we would have done without him!

Sometimes, you get what you need!

(the funny thing is that being the type A person that I am, I probably would have researched 'how' to conceive a boy and tried for that!)

We stopped because I just don't see how we'd pay for private school, college, vacations, etc. with any more. My friend just had #9 and I'm so jealous!

(When ds was 3, I did do a surrogacy for my friend, I carried their triplets - genetically all theirs)

Okay, TMI!, I know!

 

[cgcw]

I always wanted 5.

We are lucky to have 2 -- both IVF babies.

I think because I wanted to have a large family is the part of the reason I run a home daycare. I always have a house full of bubbly, happy children (for the most part) to fill the dreams I longed for as a child.

 

[zurgswife]

Wanted 4 have 4....DH wanted 4 to....so everything worked out perfect...

 

[zurgswife]

Originally posted by sweet angel
I can't get over how many of you have/want 4 or more kids. I can't even imagine. Where do you put them all, afford to feed/clothe them, drive them around? Not to mention birthday/holiday gifts!

I'm apparently just not a kid person...I'm more than happy with my one.

If you have to think about all the little day to day stuff you are definatley not ready for more then one...but everybody usually knows there limits....Mine was 4....actually I probably could have gone for 5 but DH wasn't up for it....

 

[Dopey Sharon]

While we were dating and talked about when we got married and started a family, we always talked about having three kids.

We stopped after we had our second...that was enough for us!

We have a girl and a boy, almost two years apart.

 

[Pin Wizard]

Originally posted by tiggerlover
When I was a kid I always dreamed of having 6, just like the Brady bunch.

Ha! I was the same way in high school. Actually, my husband and I never discussed kids while we were dating. Once married, we were back and forth on it with the yes, no, yes, no. Finally seriously decided on yes. Just have one, we didn't have an opportunity to add. Two or three would have been my choice.

 

[RadioNate]

Before kids I wanted 3 and DH wanted 3....we had the first one and realized that we didn't want 3. We are still debating #2 but more so our son will have a sibling than overwhelming desire for a second. We would of course love any child we were blessed with and are also considering adoption for #2.

I'm an only child and even though I have 2 cousins close in age it was quite loney. My son won't have any close cousins as mine aren't even married. And my SIL is 14 years younger than DH and in HS so were hoping she doesn't have a child any time soon.

 

[huey duey & luey]

I had always thought probably 2,but maybe 3 (my dh and I both come from familieis with 3 kids. After years of infertility I would have been thrilled with 1 but was blessed with 3.
Tara

 

[crazyforgoofy]

I wanted six, my husband didn't know what he wanted. We had 4 in 5and a half years! (Can you say every kind of birth control failure known to human kind?) He and HIS MOTHER decided we'd had enough and arranged for his vasectomy.................... We divorced when youngest was 7. Wonder why?

My 4 adult children are incredible, caring, thoughtful, loving people and I raised them with little help from their dad who was busy climbing the corporate ladder. Now that they're grown and wonderful he's told me tons of time what a great job I did and how proud of them he is.

BTW, my (now) husband had 4 of his own, two of whom I'm quite close to so I guess I got the six I hoped for early on. One of his children is lost in addiction and now we're raising Isabella so I agree that you can never know what God has in store for you. We have the paperwork started for adoption so perhaps I'll soon legally be the mother of five with a 21 year gap between the last two!

 

[disneygals]

Dh and I planned for 3 , were blessed with 3. After the third was born, I would've gone for the 4th, but dh was already out numbered with 3 girls!

 

[onecoolmama]

Originally posted by sweet angel
I can't get over how many of you have/want 4 or more kids. I can't even imagine. Where do you put them all, afford to feed/clothe them, drive them around? Not to mention birthday/holiday gifts!

I'm apparently just not a kid person...I'm more than happy with my one.

LOL sweet angel. When I was dating DH (we have been dating since I was 15) I wanted 12 kids. He kept saying he only wanted two. Now, he wants to stop at 5, but he knows I want to adopt. So, we will see.

 

[Purrrrfecta]

Wanted 2 - a boy and a girl
after 5 years trying had my
seven years later I had my

 

[ShuisFan584]

My mom got exactly what she wanted. She wanted 2 girls and that's exactly what she got. My grandmother also got exactly what she wanted. She wanted to have a boy and a girl. She told me about the time she found out she was pregnant with my mom (after she already had my uncle). The doctor told her she was having a girl and my grandmother started arguing with him telling him that it was a boy. She just had a hard time believing that she was getting what she wanted, because she didn't think that would actually happen.

As for me, I don't have any kids yet, not until after I'm married. I do know that I want to have 2 or 3. It doesn't matter to me if they're all girls, all boys or mixed, I just know I want 2 or 3. As for my boyfriend, he wants 2. He keeps saying he wants the first to be a girl. If not, he wants to have at least one girl, which I think is cute, since most guys usually want to have a son.

 

[Pooh93]

Wanted 2 and had 2. We are very blessed with dd's.

 

[becka]

I always thought I would want somewhere between 2-4. DH said he wanted 4.

Well we have 1 and #2 is on the way and I think we are in agreement that 2 will probably be the right number for us. We love kids and we certainly feel we have enough love to give to 4 but as two working parents we just feel that we wouldn't be able to give enough devoted time to more than 2 kids.

 

[BabyTigger99]

I wanted three. Right now we have two, DS4 and DSD11. Don't think #3 will ever happen, though.