How late is too late...

[FireDancer]

I'm surrounded on all sides by kids of all ages and in the summer they are out pretty late. The teens behind me have fires in the summer that go until after midnight. I don't care what they do, it is their house and it doesn't bother me. They aren't blowing off fireworks or anything.

 

[denisenh]

i always figured that out of simple common courtesy, 9:00 pm was the cut off for kids playing outside. i don't expect other peoples kids to follow my rule, especialy these days with courtesy being less common.

i have let my kids and their friends use the pool on rare instances after 9pm, like when the weather is to hot for sleeping, but they have to be quiet.

i do have neighbors that are loud and can be annoying to listen to. i put counter measures into use such as a fan, nice music, dishwasher, etc. and it has really helped.

i guess it is a matter of how we were raised.

 

[allison443]

I think regular (day time) noise levels are perfectly fine outside until at least 9:00 and really more likely 10:00. If it gets later than that I can see asking them to please keep the volume level down. I would actually as the KIDS first. It does not sound like they are doing anything wrong--no need to go to the parents =--just ask nicely if they would mind keeping it down after 10 so you can get some sleep.
Your DD will probably get used to the noise quickly and then be able to sleep through it.
As far as what is too late on a school night that varies from kid to kid. Some kids need more sleep than others. Some have to get up earlier than others for school. Some are homeschooled and can sleep in if needed/wanted. I doubt many 14 year olds are asleep before 10 or 11. I think being out playing with friends is much better than inside watching TV or playing on a computer.

I agree, I don't think it's too late. I sympathize with you OP, and maybe you could try saying something...but what if they are out there in they daytime and your dd was napping? Do they have to be quiet then too?

 

[jme829]

My kids (my son especially) tend to be outside until 8-8:30 playing on the weeknights, sometimes later on the weekends (usually I have them come in as soon as it is dark) and then way later in the summer when it is light longer. Alot depends though on who is still out playing. If nobody is out, they may come in earlier, but I have no issues with them playing out until dark if someone is around to play.

They don't have to be to school until 8:45 and I dont' work until 9:45 and we don't have to get up really early, so it is still plenty of time for them to come in and shower and be in bed by 9:30-10:00 (although DS will usually stay up later as he is a night owl like I am).

My kids are huge outside people, they love to be out playing with all the neighbor kids. I would much rather them be out on the jungle gym in the backyard, then sitting on the couch watching TV all night.

 

[hulagirl87]

How late is too late...

...5 minutes after your mom yells to get in the house

this made me laugh!

I agree, I don't think it's too late. I sympathize with you OP, and maybe you could try saying something...but what if they are out there in they daytime and your dd was napping? Do they have to be quiet then too?

She doesn't really nap during the day which is why her night time sleep is so important. If she does nap, it is usually in her swing which is in another part of the house. And it's also that I'm trying to sleep at night too. I'm an extremely light sleeper and any noises are hard for me to ignore

I play a cd of lullabies when she is getting ready for bed. I suppose I could put it on "repeat" so that it continuously plays and she hears that instead of the noise outside

I'm not against the kids having fun, I just wish they weren't so loud

 

[Magic Mom]

this made me laugh!



She doesn't really nap during the day which is why her night time sleep is so important. If she does nap, it is usually in her swing which is in another part of the house. And it's also that I'm trying to sleep at night too. I'm an extremely light sleeper and any noises are hard for me to ignore

I play a cd of lullabies when she is getting ready for bed. I suppose I could put it on "repeat" so that it continuously plays and she hears that instead of the noise outside

I'm not against the kids having fun, I just wish they weren't so loud

Unfortunately, unless you live in a community with a HOA that has a noise rule, that's life in a subdivision. The only way to guarantee that neighbors won't wake you up is to not have close neighbors. I don't think the times you listed are too late t all. It may help if you look at the alternative. It sounds like your neighbors house is the spot for the kids to hang out while being supervised, instead of roaming the street. That's not such a bad thing.

 

[kidzmom3]

I use 10pm as my gauge because most campgrounds/hotels have a 10pm to 7am quiet time.

 

[xanphylus]

I drag my DD9 in around 7, but that's during the school year and she's only 9.... She is in bed by 8:30, unless Little People, Big World is on- we watch that show together, then she is in bed by 9. I don't really know her summer rules, because she goes to her mom's in MI... (I am her step-mom). I know she is up late and is cranky lots.... she is one of those kids that def needs her beauty sleep . But if she were here for the summer, I would even let her stay out until probably 9. I see no real issue with it, as long as she stays in our yard and is mostly quiet. Notice the mostly- she is a 9 year old little girl after all, and they are not very quiet. And even so- she doesn't wake up my DS1!

 

[aprilgail2]

I don't think 9pm for kids to be outside playing is late. Once the weather is warmer we are all outside in the pool some nights past 11pm! After 10 I just ask that they keep the noise down to a dull roar...

 

[Mickey's Minion]

To be playing outside when you are a kid? My neighbor has 2 kids, both teenagers, I think they are 12 and 14. There are some neighborhood kids that come and congregate in their back yard, probably about 5 or 6 kids total. They have a trampoline so everyone likes to come and hang out there. The past couple nights they have been out playing when it is dark out. Sunday night it was til a little after 9 and last night they didn't even start playing until 8:30. DD nursery is right in the back of the house where they are. I wouldn't mind it so much but they are so loud! Laughing and screaming. Not only am I worried that it will wake DD up but I can't sleep with all the noise either. I guess my thing is, why are you playing in the dark and why are you out late when you have school in the morning. It's bad enough that I know this will be going on all summer. For the parents out there, what are your thoughts? Sorry, just had to vent.

My DS13 and neighbors shoot hoops until approx. 9:30 on school nights. They do their homework first and then go immediately outside. Much better than sitting in front of a video game. In the summer, they are outside playing in their own yard till ten or a bit later. Our town's noise ordinance kicks in at 10pm, so I have them put the balls up at that time as the incessant bounce can be annoying. However, in the summer, they will sit on the patio with the fire pit going until long after 10pm (summer only). They will talk and laugh in normal voices.

I think 9:00pm is more than reasonable to have young teens in their backyard. If it goes till 11 or 12, then I think you can ask them to keep it a bit down.

If the talking outside is bothering your baby, I would suggest purchasing a white noise machine.