How fast it all changed.

[Snowflakey]

Rodeo65 - As I always say - you are amazing. Your grace and strength continues. Both the wife and mother in you shines bright. Although it may not feel like it - you are making a difference each day in your DH and kids lives.

Do make sure you have a power of attorney and Will in place. Many attorneys will come to where ever you are to do this and I highly suggest it to make things easier when your DH passes.

Can't stop thinking about all of you. You are in my prayers. Know many of us care. Thank you for the updates.

 

[jalapeno_pretzel]

I'm so sorry you are going through this.

 

[PollyannaMom]

Catching up on the last several days of posts. I wish I could do more than send little hug pictures, but I'm glad this thread has been giving you a place to talk.

I also wanted to share my experience that Hospice was wonderful with my mom. Please feel confident in your decision to work with them.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Rodeo - I echo what so many others have said - your grace and bravery is something I am in awe of.
Thinking of you often.

 

[Kitty 34]

Catching up on the last several days of posts. I wish I could do more than send little hug pictures, but I'm glad this thread has been giving you a place to talk.

I also wanted to share my experience that Hospice was wonderful with my mom. Please feel confident in your decision to work with them.

I agree with the bolded. I lost a sister-in-law back in 2013. She was in Hospice's care, at a facility. They made her (and her guests/family) very comfortable in those last few days of her life. I remember the last thing she wanted and they went and got them for her were M&Ms. I still really miss her.

Rodeo, as always many s coming your way. I feel your pain.

 

[MamaBelle4]

Continuing to pray for you and your family. I am so sorry you are going through this.

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Thinking of you today. Sending you some of my strength.

 

[lisaviolet]

Rodeo, love sent to your entire family. Hoping that your husband is settled in the care that he wants soon.

 

[sunnyshari]

Rodeo,

Thinking of your family and you and praying for your husband daily. I wish there was a way to help.

 

[rodeo65]

Hospice.

The kids and I met with DH and the hospice intake nurse at 10:30 this morning. He liked the sound of everything but also seemed hesitant. She kept talking to him and finally he told her he was worried about getting to the bathroom. She reassured him that he would not have to wait - they respond quickly to the call button and once he felt ok about that he said he was ready to go. Fortunately they had an open bed.

He was transported at 1pm. By 1:45pm he'd been settled in his very lovely room. He asked for some water and he was brought two cups and the intake nurse who welcomed him asked if he'd like a Popsicle. He did and LOVED it - ate the whole thing. They brought him soup - they make a homemade soup daily. It was vegetable and smelled fantastic He said it was the best soup he'd ever eaten. He ate about half the bowl which was quite a good size, some crackers and cheese.

His meds arrived at 3, so he was about an hour late for the morphine and I could see he was getting uncomfortable but he had his dose and started to settle. He had a Reiki session and they brought him a warm blanket for his stomach which was a little uncomfortable. I'm sure that's because he ate more in that one meal than he had in days. He said he hadn't eaten at all today. I swear I wouldn't feed the dogs the hospital slop he was getting. Speaking of - we can take the doggos to visit! He has a CD player and TV/DVD player in his room, a pullout chair if any of us want a sleepover. There are always food items in the kitchen for residents as well as family and friends. It was truly such an amazing thing to see him so cared for. DD and I had gone over and set up his family pictures and taken his clothes to be all ready when he got there. I just brought her home now so she can carry on with her evening and I'm heading back now.

I so hope he can regain some strength there and have good days/weeks?? ahead. I even have a tiny hope he might regain enough strength for chemo and maybe get a year or more, but I'd be happy with peace and comfort for his remaining time. He is extremely weak right now but hasn't been eating, so maybe...

 

[J'aime Paris]

It sounds like a lovely place!
It's great that your pets can visit! I bet your DH really missed them as well.

Thank you for your continued updates. Your grace under this pressure is inspiring!!

 

[AnnaFloridaLover]

Thanks for the update Rodeo. I'm so relieved that he is set up in a more comfortable situation. And yes, maybe this is what he needs to gather some strength for the chemo. Keep hope alive!

Hospital food is disgraceful. I refer to it as jail food. Anytime a loved one has been hospitalized I always take meals from home for them or bring them take out.

That's amazing that you can bring your doggies to see him!

 

[runwad]

I'm so glad he's there. I'm sure you'll have a great experience with the whole place. It's such a relief not to have to worry about a loved one's care there. No more waiting for someone to get around to his needs, making sure he gets his meds on time, etc. They will be very attentive to his and your whole families every need.

 

[gillep]

I am so glad to hear that he is settled and comfortable, what a relief for all of you. You are doing such an incredible job while faced with such a horrible situation.

 

[Dentam]

I'm so happy to hear he is in a wonderful place now and being cared for so well. My thoughts continue to be with your family.

 

[AlohaNow]

Thinking of you every day my DisFriend.

 

[vicwishes]

Thank you for the update. Thinking of you and sending you strength and love.

 

[anniemae]

What a relief to have him settled in such a nice place.

 

[lisaviolet]

So relieved that he's settled in and doesn't have to endure the hospital.

I smiled about the dogs Rodeo, that's great.

 

[KBoopaloo]

It sounds like your DH and you are in great hands at the hospice facility. I hope he is able to find a level of comfort there that he was not able to find at the hospital. I have your family in my thoughts and prayers and hope that you'll be able to get some quality time with him now.