how do you respond

[MamaBelle4]

How do I respond? I say "come on in".
But as a kid my parents friends were always dropping by unannounced.
My friends as a teen always came by unannounced.
My wife's up bringing was the same, her parents friends dropping by unannounced.
Same with her friends.
So I guess it just depends how you grew up. But I do understand that it is less common and less accepted than it used to be.

I grew up the exact same way. Our house was an open door. You never knew who was there but someone always was. I recognize that by doing that, my parents gave a lot of our friends stability and comfort when they needed it.

My home is not like that. I need at least an hour's notice before anyone comes over. I WANT to be like that, but I just am not wired that way. I enjoy our privacy and "quiet" evenings with just the family. I love having guests, but really only if I can prepare for them, mentally and my physical space too.

 

[tvguy]

I grew up the exact same way. Our house was an open door. You never knew who was there but someone always was. I recognize that by doing that, my parents gave a lot of our friends stability and comfort when they needed it.

My home is not like that. I need at least an hour's notice before anyone comes over. I WANT to be like that, but I just am not wired that way. I enjoy our privacy and "quiet" evenings with just the family. I love having guests, but really only if I can prepare for them, mentally and my physical space too.

Yeah, my wife wasn't a fan as a kid. Her stepfather was a bartender and also had a bar at home. People from the bar would stop by on his days off to drink for free! And he had a well stocked bar at home. My MIL died 4 1/2 years after he did. There were almost 100 bottles in the bar still. Most were opened. Most we poured down the sink.

 

[luvmarypoppins]

Everyone mostly keeps to themselves here.
I don’t open the door if I am home by myself especially since there was a murder 3 houses away and the perpetrators still have not been caught.

 

[disneychrista]

If someone I know comes over and I wasn't expecting it, it isn't a big deal to me.

If someone I don't know comes over I often don't even answer the door.

 

[brockash]

How do you respond when someone comes over regardless of the relationship with out notice

I freak out like almost panic attack especially if my roommate is not home

Do you welcome it or freak out like me

I don't answer the door.

 

[sasywtch]

I'm assuming you are talking about people you know knocking on the door to visit. My adult kids live close by and may stop in to get something or ask about something. My grandson is now driving and he has been known to just drop by. My 79 year old brother in law stopped by last weekend. I was surprised he found my house by himself (he's been here before with his son). My sister died in 2009, he's lonely and was out in the area dropping something off at a friends. I have zero problems with them dropping by but if I was leaving in a bit, I'd let them know and talk for a little while. Neighbors on both sides of me talk outside a lot, ones across the street maybe a few times a week.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

If it is somebody I know, I will answer. I would prefer some notice, but I do not get too upset if they show up unannounced.

If it is somebody I don't know, I can pretty much guarantee you that they are trying to sell me something or convert me to their religion so I am not going to answer.

Ring doorbell can be so handy.

 

[CdnCarrie]

We had Christmas carollers come knock Sunday night. Guess most of you would turn them away.

 

[MamaBelle4]

We had Christmas carollers come knock Sunday night. Guess most of you would turn them away.

Yeah, I definitely would to be honest.

I live in a rural area and we've lived here for 14 years. We don't get trick or treaters or anything.

So if a group of Christmas Carollers turned up randomly on a November evening, I definitely wouldn't be answering the door.

 

[Uncle Coaster]

If it’s somebody I knew I would prefer if they just dropped in unannounced. If it was convenient I would be happy to visit for awhile.

If they gave me notice I would feel obligated to “entertain” and I think that’s more pressure on the host.

 

[kymom99]

Seems like you could reduce your anxiety by either getting a step stool or fixing the ring.

I look out the window before answering but will typically answer unless it’s obviously a salesperson.

 

[Wendy1985]

Seems like you could reduce your anxiety by either getting a step stool or fixing the ring.

I look out the window before answering but will typically answer unless it’s obviously a salesperson.

I am fixing the ring

 

[Weedy]

Just for a laugh

 

[tvguy]

I look out the window before answering but will typically answer unless it’s obviously a salesperson.

I can't remember that last time I had a salesperson at my door. Certainly before the pandemic. Of course, the fact that the head of our Sheriff's Department's Neighborhood Watch program has repeatedly said that legitimate businesses don't do door to door sales in this Internet age.

 

[dez1978]

I don't answer the door ever, unless I am expecting someone/something

 

[kymom99]

I can't remember that last time I had a salesperson at my door. Certainly before the pandemic. Of course, the fact that the head of our Sheriff's Department's Neighborhood Watch program has repeatedly said that legitimate businesses don't do door to door sales in this Internet age.

We get window salesman, yard service, ChemLawn, whatever

 

[kymom99]

Just for a laugh

That’s hysterical, but so true

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

That’s hysterical, but so true

lol and that was 10 years ago that clip was uploaded talking about how it felt 20 years prior to that on how we feel when the doorbell rings.

 

[Pooh2]

We often have neighbors stop in for a visit and always welcome them.
If it's a stranger, my husband will answer since he works from home and send them on their way.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

We have a no soliciting sign up and once you see it if you knock you're in violation of the city ordinance. Does not apply to political stuff though. Every now and then we get Jehovah's Witness but not too too often. We just don't open the door really

We've had our neighbors once or twice come to our house to let us know we forgot the garage door is open because they know we don't leave it on purpose although one neighbor also has my husband's cell number and tell us via there as well. I did have one time where the city knocked on my door (and I did not look ready for company lol) asking me to move my car that was parked on the street. I had to tell them it's not my car it's the neighbors across the street. We all got notices to not park on the street from this date to this date from this time to that time because they were repaving the streets throughout the neighborhood, milling the road down and paving it. Those neighbors the boyfriend of the daughter lived with them and would park their car in front of our house all the time, drove all the other neighbors batty since they wouldn't use their driveway.

But random friends, family or neighbors do not otherwise come over unannounced for social visits. If they did there's be a polite way of me telling them to let me know in advance the next time. We also wouldn't come over unannounced. A call beforehand is done and if you're not wanting company easy enough to let them know you're busy that way.