how do I stop thinking about Babe??

[Dan Murphy]

We never forget family, Lisa, always with us. Our Huskies, Keemo and Tanya, have been gone for many years, we still talk about them, our memories, several times a month I would say. And often in relation to things Doc is doing at the moment, comparisons and such. We always miss those we love, Lisa. 's

 

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[Buckalew11]

I was just telling Nicki (new doggy) this morning how much I missed Bucky. He's been gone about 3 years now and I'll never "get over" him as he was my "first baby". But, I know I can't dwell on my loss becuase one could grieve themselves silly, ya know?! Hugs to you. It hurts to lose anyone you love. And a dog esp. because they love you back so deeply and are so loyal. If you pray, ask God to help you overcome your grief. Not to forget, but just to be comforted. Sometimes I think we feel the way you are felling because we are afraid we WILL forget our other babies. And we WON'T!! And we feel disloyal(unloyal, whatver the word would be) to them because we are loving a new dog.

Hugs, Lisa.

 

[disneynutt1225]

I don't think there's an easy answer for grief - there's no time period that says "ok, you should be done grieving at this point". It hits all of us differently. DFi's lab/retriever died over 3 years ago, and we still get upset when we think of her. Their time with us is so short it's unfair. There's nothing crazy about your emotions right now.

Hopefully you can find someone to talk to and they can help you through your grief. Fact of the matter is, no dog will be a substitute for the one you've lost - they are all unique in their own ways. Toby has some of the qualities Lady had, but he's definitely not her. We love him just as much, but in a different way, for different reasons. Mabel will grow on you more and more as time goes on.

 

[CookieGVB]

Awww...Lisa, I'm so sorry.

I remember most of the pets from the pet calendar I put together last year. The pets that had the most touching stories attached to them were, invariably, the ones who had passed.

People grieve differently...there's no set time limit to "get over" a loss. If you think a counselor would help you out with expressing your feelings, etc., maybe you could do that.

You could always come here, though, and share with friends on the DIS. We don't have a deductible.

 

[Am_I_There_Yet]

I'd probably be the same way. I honestly worry that no dog will ever live up to Chloe. She's my "heart dog" without a doubt.

It sounds to me like you're going through a bout of depression over losing Babe. Grieving takes on a strange course sometimes. Give yourself time to adjust over losing her. So what if it takes years? Take as much time as you need.

I know it'll take me forever to get over Chloe. She's that special to me and it sounds like Babe was that special to you too.