How do I get over myself? Picture added in first post

[kimblebee]

Due to an ongoing string of bad luck, my upcoming wedding in December has been downgraded big time. It's gone from being a catered dinner with 50 guests in a hall to just family (10 people) in my parents sunroom with no reception afterwards. I'm ok with it because I just want to be married to my guy, I don't need the big party that comes with it.

Last night I was online trying to find rings that we could afford. I found one that I like and would be very happy to wear...but it comes from Walmart. I know that it shouldn't matter but something deep inside me is making me turn up my nose at the idea. I honestly apologize to anyone who has a ring from there, there's really nothing wrong with it. Like I said, I really do like the ring I found and if I didn't know it was from Walmart, I would have purchased it online already.

Is it wrong to buy it and lie when people ask where it came from?


ETA This is the ring I am considering http://www.walmart.ca/en/ip/miadora...erling-silver-engagement-ring-6/1455233528916

 

[Christine]

Is it wrong to buy it and lie when people ask where it came from?

First off, do people really ask these questions? In 30 years of marriage, no one asked me where I got my ring. BTW, I got it at JCPenney.

 

[Gumbo4x4]

My wife has had countless compliments on her ring over the years (less now as the style isn't the current trend), but I don't know if anyone has ever asked where it was from.

As for the wedding, we had a lovely one. But, if we had it to do over, we'd just go to Vegas.

 

[Acklander]

Due to an ongoing string of bad luck, my upcoming wedding in December has been downgraded big time. It's gone from being a catered dinner with 50 guests in a hall to just family (10 people) in my parents sunroom with no reception afterwards. I'm ok with it because I just want to be married to my guy, I don't need the big party that comes with it.

Last night I was online trying to find rings that we could afford. I found one that I like and would be very happy to wear...but it comes from Walmart. I know that it shouldn't matter but something deep inside me is making me turn up my nose at the idea. I honestly apologize to anyone who has a ring from there, there's really nothing wrong with it. Like I said, I really do like the ring I found and if I didn't know it was from Walmart, I would have purchased it online already.

Is it wrong to buy it and lie when people ask where it came from?

I've admired a gazillion engagement and wedding rings on a gazillion people and have never asked anyone where it came from. Do people do that on wedding bands???
Anyway, when I got married 27 years ago, we had a justice of the peace and no rings. I realize that type of wedding isn't for everyone, but I have no regrets. To this day, I still remember the look of wonder and pride on my husbands face as we exchanged our vows. That's what my wedding ceremony was about.
Make your wedding about your love and commitment to each other and don't worry so much about "the stuff"

 

[lakelandgal70]

Here is some advice from an old married lady. The wedding is about the two people getting married. It isn't about the ring, it isn't about the gown, it isn't about where you get married. It is about you and your man. The other stuff isn't important. A wedding does not make the marriage. If the ring bothers you look into cz rings. They look real and no one will know. And if someone asks where you got your ring just say you don't know as your hubby picked it out. No one needs to know this stuff.

 

[clh2]

Due to an ongoing string of bad luck, my upcoming wedding in December has been downgraded big time. It's gone from being a catered dinner with 50 guests in a hall to just family (10 people) in my parents sunroom with no reception afterwards. I'm ok with it because I just want to be married to my guy, I don't need the big party that comes with it.

Last night I was online trying to find rings that we could afford. I found one that I like and would be very happy to wear...but it comes from Walmart. I know that it shouldn't matter but something deep inside me is making me turn up my nose at the idea. I honestly apologize to anyone who has a ring from there, there's really nothing wrong with it. Like I said, I really do like the ring I found and if I didn't know it was from Walmart, I would have purchased it online already.

Is it wrong to buy it and lie when people ask where it came from?

Could you just say you do not know where it came from?

Can I give you a "funny" engagement ring story? OK - that really shouldn't be a question, because I am giving the story anyway. My sister is recently engaged, her ring is beautiful...Really gorgeous. The diamond came from a pawn shop. Her fiancé actually wanted to get an entire ring there, but they compromised that the diamond could come from a pawn shop, but it would be taken to a jeweler so a setting could be picked out. Truth be told, my sister and I were consuming adult beverages, so I don't think she would have spilled those beans if we had been drinking lemonade.

BTW - you are doing what you need to do on your wedding day, are not going into a huge amount of debt to marry the man of your dreams. So - hats off to you. My last year has been a topsy turvy one - in regards to finances, and sometimes plans simply need to be changed based on the circumstances.

 

[BlovesC]

No one has ever asked me where my ring came from. I really wouldn't worry about that.

Also, you don't need a lot of people and a banquet hall to have a reception. Get some finger foods, pick up a small cake from the grocery store, put a CD with your and your hubby's favorite songs on, and have a blast with your family!

 

[clh2]

The ring is beautiful!!!

 

[smitch425]

We got our rings at Sears with my DH's employee discount. :laughing Go for what you love and don't give it another thought! Congrats on the upcoming wedding!

 

[Buckalew11]

I think that ring is very pretty!

No one has asked me where my rings have come from. Rings, plural, because I have the one DH got me that I never wear (shame on me but it sits up very high and I do not like it, lol), I have my mom's simple round solitaire in gold, an anniversary band from DH for 5 years, a CZ 3 stone ring he bought me from who knows where (QVC, maybe?) for our 25th, and a very skinny silver band that belonged to someone in my family but mom cannot remember who, lol, which I wear most of the time.

DH's band was his grandfather's and while he was training for the Ironman race, he was afraid of losing it during the swimming so he put it up and went to Walmart and bought a cheap replacement just in case and that is still the ring he wears.

We have no shame. It is all about our marriage--not the wedding, the ring, where it came from, how big it is, etc. etc. as a PP said.

I'd wear that ring with pride and as a symbol of your love. THAT'S what is all about. Good luck on your upcoming plans. I wish you many happy, wonderful years together.

You get over yourself by CHOOSING to get over yourself.

 

[Luvchefmic]

How do you get over yourself ? I have no idea you make a choice like above poster stated Seems like you are the only one that will have a problem with this It's a pretty ring

My engagement ring 100 years ago was purchased on a whim in an antique shop in CT Don't let the antique fool you it only means it was not new and it was cheap Our wedding rings who even remembers I think some big box type store

I have never asked anyone where their rings came from and no one ever asked me IF you are asked, why lie ?

You found your life partner Nothing else matters Congratulations

 

[apirateslifeforme]

I think that ring is gorgeous and THAT is what most people will comment on...most likely they will not ask where you purchased it.

This is my ring:

It is also a Miadora. I wanted something vintage-looking with black stones, but couldn't find anything at "real" jewelry stores. Also, DH had chosen a silver band with black Celtic knots through it. I fell in love with this one...

...from Overstock.com...

...for $39.

Total strangers compliment it, but not once have I ever been asked where I bought it.

 

[phorsenuf]

When I got married 30+ years ago we went to a JP and got our bands at Service Merchandise for like 40 bucks. Wore that every single day up until 2 years ago when my husband bought me a beautiful new diamond ring. He'd been after me for years to "upgrade" and I always refused. Must have caught me at a weak moment when I agreed to a new one. They actually had to cut it off me.

Nobody ever asked me where the rings came from.

 

[leebee]

I wouldn't hesitate to buy something from Walmart if I loved it or thought it was worth the money. I would hesitate over buying a created stone, though, but that's just me. My ring is 3 garnets with 4 diamond chips, 14K gold, from Macy's; it was $129 on sale. DH's wedding ring is 14K gold with diamond chips, on sale at Penney's for $39. Nobody has ever asked us where we got our rings or what we paid, but we've received plenty of compliments. My original engagement ring (which I lost when I took it off while pregnant- my fingers swelled and I took it off, I think the ring must have fallen out of my pocket) was 14K gold, amethyst and diamond, $55 from an antique/consignment shop.

I guess if Walmart bothers you, you could look plenty of other places for an affordable ring, but honestly, nobody is ever going to ask you where you got your ring, or what you paid for it. IF they do, just smile mysteriously and say, "It was a gift from DH, so I didn't ask!"

 

[Disney4Shaw]

If you like the ring, get it. Who knows, you may even be able to "upgrade" to something different down the road if you want to. I doubt many people would ask you where you got it anyway.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I am with everyone else: almost 20 years of marriage, and I got engaged while teaching Junior High with lots of tween girls oohing and aahing over the ring and no one has EVER asked where it came from. If it is the ring you want, it is in the budget and you are not morally opposed to supporting Wal Mart in general and are just worried about someone thinking it is cheap to have a wedding ring from there, forget the worry and get the ring.

 

[DisneyDreamer2504]

Well, I've had people ask where my ring was from dozens of time. I think it's awkward and unnecessary, bc it's really no ones business, but I have been asked. I've also witnessed friends being asked where theirs is from as well, both from friends and strangers.

My sister works at a high-end boutique jewelry store and has always looked down at my ring bc of where it's from, and especially bc I didn't get it from her store. I just ignore her though, mostly bc DH and I eloped so we couldn't very well order rings through her without letting the secret out!

As numerous posters have stated, where it comes from doesn't matter, it's the sentiment behind it. If you like it, to heck with what others think.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I think that ring is gorgeous and THAT is what most people will comment on...most likely they will not ask where you purchased it.

This is my ring:

It is also a Miadora. I wanted something vintage-looking with black stones, but couldn't find anything at "real" jewelry stores. Also, DH had chosen a silver band with black Celtic knots through it. I fell in love with this one...

...from Overstock.com...

...for $39.

Total strangers compliment it, but not once have I ever been asked where I bought it.

I love your ring

 

[Luvchefmic]

When I got married 30+ years ago we went to a JP and got our bands at Service Merchandise for like 40 bucks. Wore that every single day up until 2 years ago when my husband bought me a beautiful new diamond ring. He'd been after me for years to "upgrade" and I always refused. Must have caught me at a weak moment when I agreed to a new one. They actually had to cut it off me.

Nobody ever asked me where the rings came from.

yeah that's the one In my previous post I said wedding rings we have I couldn't even remember where they came from I said " Some big box type store " I think I just made a point to you OP

 

[lakelandgal70]

OP I love that ring. It has a vintage look and it is very original. Very beautiful.