How do I get over being angry at an EX friend?

[Barbossa]

Sounds like she hasn't been a friend for quite some time. Drop her like a hot potato. Don't hang around people who bring you down.

 

[englishteacha]

One of my best friends really, truly hurt me. I've cut this person out of my life but it's tough because sometimes that's the person I most want to talk to about something or the person I just want to hear, you know? However, the hurt is unforgivable, and even now, several months later, I get sad thinking about our lost friendship. It's getting a lot better, now, though. Time heals.

 

[bumbershoot]

"She then took a offense to me saying "bandwagon" (I know, petty) and started to flip saying things like "Hold up chick, I was NEVER an Eagles fan so I'm not on no bandwagon....""

It sounds like she doesn't understand what a bandwagon means...


And her jumping to the old stuff is EXACTLY why I do not EVER talk to my IRL friends about stuff with DH! Heck, I'm still annoyed at how a friend's husband used to treat her, meanwhile they've been married for ages and she's happy, and the stuff he did was no big deal at all. Let alone if a husband had done something really bothersome and beyond!



If you want to be friends with her again, time will help.

If you don't want to, time will help, and at least you had the conversation with her. Though if you don't know WHY she did all that, it might bug you. A friend dropped me, oh, in '97 or so, never told me why, told outright lies to mutual friends about why we weren't friends, and I'm still not totally over it. I never got that "why?" conversation. But I was the last of the female friends from college that she dropped...thought I was safe but I wasn't!

 

[meloneyb21]

"She then took a offense to me saying "bandwagon" (I know, petty) and started to flip saying things like "Hold up chick, I was NEVER an Eagles fan so I'm not on no bandwagon....""

It sounds like she doesn't understand what a bandwagon means...


And her jumping to the old stuff is EXACTLY why I do not EVER talk to my IRL friends about stuff with DH! Heck, I'm still annoyed at how a friend's husband used to treat her, meanwhile they've been married for ages and she's happy, and the stuff he did was no big deal at all. Let alone if a husband had done something really bothersome and beyond!



If you want to be friends with her again, time will help.

If you don't want to, time will help, and at least you had the conversation with her. Though if you don't know WHY she did all that, it might bug you. A friend dropped me, oh, in '97 or so, never told me why, told outright lies to mutual friends about why we weren't friends, and I'm still not totally over it. I never got that "why?" conversation. But I was the last of the female friends from college that she dropped...thought I was safe but I wasn't!

I think that's what it is. I kinda wanna know why she was so quick to throw all that stuff back in my face.

Thanks for all the advice guys . I'll know time heals.

 

["Got Disney"]

Are you maybe angry because you have more to say to her about how she has been acting? Did she get the last word and that has made you angry? Or are you angry because you tryed all these years to make this friendship a friendship that really never was a friendship? maybe you are angry that your friendship is not what it was when you were in middle school? Where is the anger coming from...once you figure that out you can deal with it...

as for the long friendship...when you need to work hard at a friendship to keep it going, its a friendship that one needs to say so long to.

I have done this with a few friends...they were to much work...and a couple were from grammar school....I am 53. It took a long time to say adios but I did.

WE all have different kinds of friends that we put in different categories....best friends, good friends, friends we keep in touch with because we have known them forever, friends we can only call once a month or less because they drive me crazy, find the category she fits in if you dont want to end it...seems she needs to be put in the category of "Friends that can be real B#$%#$S"

you choose. And good luck