How did you know it was the "right" time to "try"?

[kdibattista]

Sorry if this is too much information (or kinda personal) but DH and I are very much looking forward to starting a family. We have been married for 4 years. We planned to start later this year (once I graduate and have a job) but I've been getting really, really eager to start trying. It doesn't help that my best friend is pregnant and we started shopping for baby stuff. If it were up to DH we would have 3 kids already .

Anyway, I feel like it's always something holding us back... should we just take the plunge? Did you have a right time to try and did it work out that way?

Thanks... as always

 

[onecoolmama]

My best friend in Philly told me once..There is never a good time to have kids. It is just something you do.

I completely agree with this. It is just right for you..but there is always going to be something. Need a car or a house or trying to get a career...honestly there is never a "good" time.


My kids came at all different times in my life...but they have all been a huge blessing and I am thankful that we did have them. I really think things have a way of working out when it comes to families.


Good luck with your decisions!

 

[Aimeedyan]

We don't have children, but these are the things we are waiting for before starting a family, if it helps any:

- me graduated from school and working FT in the position I am seeking upon graduation
- bought a house
- in a city that we think we'll stay at for awhile
- enough savings to pay for intial expenses of baby (out of pocket medical, basic supplies, etc)

My dad always says that if you wait until you can afford kids, you'l never have them... we realize that, but do want to be a bit settled...

I wonder if we'll ever get to that point and think the same as you, that we're missing something... I think it comes from being scared, you know? I know I'll be scared at that point, once you start a family, you can't go back and change your mind! There's something permanent in it, but also truly exciting as well.

I wish you and your DH the very best in your attempts It's an exciting time in a marriage, no doubt!!!!!!! I really do look forward to that time for us, as well.

 

[AZKathy]

We waited for four years after we got married; both of us had good jobs, fun toys (boating) and then we both got the "family bug". Unfortunately, with me being close to 30, we had big problems getting pregnant. One of our neighbors were the same age and knew of our problems, so they decided to start a little earlier than planned just in case it took long it had for us...POOF! They got pregnant the first try! I guess it just depends on how you feel and what you are ready for. Remember, it will change your life as you know it now! <a href='http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008' target='_blank'><img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/10/10_14_3.gif' border=0></a> Good luck with your decision!

 

[Boo]

It's never going to be the perfect, ideal situation. You'll never have enough money, enough spare time, enough mental preparation, etc. It's kind of like the Nike slogan- just do it. Then once your children arrive, you wonder- this is so amazing, what in the world made us think we had to have everything perfect for their arrival, it's the blessing of children's arrival that made our lives feel complete. Good luck and hope you are granted many blessings!

 

[Nutsy]

Well I was taking my temperature daily for a year or so & that was supposed to alert me to the best time to try, however, it never worked for me.

We even went through IVF & that failed. In the end we gave up after being married for almost 3 yrs & by chance we got lucky & timed it right & it all worked out. BTW it was our 3rd Wedding anniversary when the"right time" happend to be.

Good luck. I know how frustrating this can be & how depressing

{{HUGS}}

 

[liznboys]

As long as you're both ready to go for it, and you can afford to have a baby, I say it's the right time! Good luck!!!

 

[kdibattista]

Thanks everyone!!!

Believe me... I know it will never be the absolute right time but I just feel like we need to be a little more prepared. But then again, I also have the concern that we may not be successful right away and wonder why we waited so long. I don't know... I am going to talk to DH tonight although I know what he is going to say

Thanks again!!!