I really think it is comparing apples to oranges. Both are great, but it depends on what you are looking for. My DD 2 and DS 7 loved the BBQ. What they loved was the getting to dance with the characters. It is "VERY" laid back and it really isn't to entertain you. It is just a great chance for the kids to get a type of interaction with the characters that you don't get at the other Character meals. The HDD is a dinner show. I really think that the BBQ suits younger children better. With your children's ages, I would think that the HDD is probably the better choice. We are going to Disney is Aug and will be going to the HDD now that kids are older. Hope you have a great time whichever you choose