Holiday cancelled :(

[Rach78]

Hi,
Just wanted to echo what others have said and let you know I am sorry to hear the sad circumstances surrounding cancelling your holiday.
Also I can sympathise with your fear of flying as I too am terrified. I also get prescribed vallium but it does little to control my fear. However I find that when I have flown with my children (only once with them to Spain) I did not want them to see me scared and thus worry themselves so I found that I had to appear calm on the outside at least and it actually helped me to keep myself under control. I understand the worry of flying yourself with your daughter but I suppose I would try to see it as a challenge and not want the fear to stop me and the children having my holiday. Trust me I know how hard it would be but I am sure you would make it. I worry about everything to do with flying, even where I sit on the plane, but I try to keep rational thoughts going for example tell myself that it doesn't matter where I sit, I am no more or less safe etc. I registered with a fear of flying website and even repeating facts to myself helps a bit!! Such as you are more likely to be killed by a donkey than on a plane and I don't tend to worry about a donkey getting me so why would I worry about flying!!
Just wish you all the best and really hope it works out for you.
Rach x

 

[Netty]

Sorry to hear this Alison, my sil is also scared of flying, she takes kalms a few days before leading up to the flight, and they work for her

 

[mum2threemonsters]

Im sorry I have no advice RE the booking but I did want to send some hugs re your situation.

I went through a relationship breakdown 4 1/2 years ago and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I had to give up my career as it was an evening job and my husband moved away so I had no childcare. I felt like I was going to lose the house and I had 2 children to support. It felt at the time and probably for a few months like my whole world had fallen apart.

However, eventually I picked myself up and it made me more determined to put myself first, work hard and show him exactly what he had lost. I got a career in finance, which I eventually decided wasnt for me and Im now studying a degree in MH nursing. I live in a gorgeous house, met a really nice guy who believes in me and my children have far more now than I could have ever had with my ex.

It just proves that although things look dim right now and you may have to turn a blind eye to things you are losing you can turn this situation into something positive and improve your own life in the meantime.

You may loes one holiday but Im sure you will have plenty of amaxing holidays in the future and all this will become a distant memory.

Stay strong and think positive and if you ever need anyone to talk to just PM me!

 

[crabbie1]

That's a little difficult to answer without all the info like the month that your user year starts. So, I wouldn't want to mislead or confuse you with examples that aren't relevant.

The best way to understand banking and canceling is to ring up Member Services and ask for some advice.

If you rather not do that or you're still unsure after that phone call and you don't mind placing some of your details on this thread then post some of your contract info, so I or another member can answer.

As you say, you purchased an amount of points last November, were all the points you purchased all within the same user year or were

So to start with, what month does your user-year begin?

What is the amount of points in your annual contract?

What is the total amount of points you have in this current user-year, (your contact points for this year plus any banked points from the previous user-year)?

I presume you've not already used any of those points and your first



reservation would have been in August, were you using all of those points for that reservation?

Have you borrowed any points for that August reservation?

If you rather not post this information on this thread then send me a private message
And while some things in life are set in stone, the fear of flying is not

Have a good day......

Thankyou.my use year is June.They gave us the 180 points for 2011/12 and I banked them in jan 12 as this was my banking month. It says on dvc members page that Ihave to use the banked points by may 13th?
I have 360 points in total of which 346 were being used for the august trip so I would bank the 14 left for next year.
I have just cancelled the august points BUT thanks to my uncle he is paying for my mom to come so can go anytime mid september till nov 8th.
In excitement and looking at best availiblity mid sept-end is best and have managed to provisionally book BLT from 24-28th in a one bed standard view. No studios availible but for the few extra points the standard view one bed is great. There was nothing availible last night so someone must have cancelled

VA have m+m flights from the 14th sept some with both times availible so im hoping by the 28th June they are still availible. Anyway hope this is enough info and thanks again.

If you go in August and fly from Glasgow I'll help you out!

Hope you get something sorted

Thankyou

Hi,
Just wanted to echo what others have said and let you know I am sorry to hear the sad circumstances surrounding cancelling your holiday.
Also I can sympathise with your fear of flying as I too am terrified. I also get prescribed vallium but it does little to control my fear. However I find that when I have flown with my children (only once with them to Spain) I did not want them to see me scared and thus worry themselves so I found that I had to appear calm on the outside at least and it actually helped me to keep myself under control. I understand the worry of flying yourself with your daughter but I suppose I would try to see it as a challenge and not want the fear to stop me and the children having my holiday. Trust me I know how hard it would be but I am sure you would make it. I worry about everything to do with flying, even where I sit on the plane, but I try to keep rational thoughts going for example tell myself that it doesn't matter where I sit, I am no more or less safe etc. I registered with a fear of flying website and even repeating facts to myself helps a bit!! Such as you are more likely to be killed by adonkey than on a plane and I don't tend to worry about a donkey getting me so why would I worry about flying!!
Just wish you all the best and really hope it works out for you.
Rach x

Rachel its not the crashing part as I know its the safest form of travel.I am very claustophobic and despite diazapam I still have panic attacks. It is shear panic and I mean vomiting and continuous shaking. If it was a 2-3 hour flight I would probably cope.VA are very good and when I spoke to them they said that the cabin crew would be aware and they would do there best to acconmodate.Im a nurse for god sake thankyou for your kind wor

Im sorry I have no advice RE the booking but I did want to send some hugs re your situation.

I went through a relationship breakdown 4 1/2 years ago and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. I had to give up my career as it was an evening job and my husband moved away so I had no childcare. I felt like I was going to lose the house and I had 2 children to support. It felt at the time and probably for a few months like my whole world had fallen apart

However, eventually I picked myself up and it made me more determined to put myself first, work hard and show him exactly what he had lost. I got a career in finance, which I eventually decided wasnt for me and Im now studying a degree in MH nursing. I live in a gorgeous house, met a really nice guy who believes in me and my children have far more now than I could have ever had with my ex

It just proves that although things look dim right now and you may have to turn a blind eye to things you are losing you can turn this situation into something positive and improve your own life in the meantime.

You may loes one holiday but Im sure you will have plenty of amaxing holidays in the future and all this will become a distant memory.

Stay strong and think positive and if you ever need anyone to talk to just PM
me!

Thankyou soooooooo much . I feel like my heart has been ripped out but am not going to let it beat me. There comes a time when enough is enough. I have my DD to think about and I start my new job as a disrtict nurse on monday. Good luck on completeing your MH nursing. DD has been through a lot this year and lost one of her school friends 2 weeks agnly aged 8. Funeral is friday so I have to be strong for her.she deserves this holiday and the dates Iv prov booked means we wil be there for my bday:woohoo reading about your ex has given me some light that maybe I will meet someone kind as well. Anyway thankyou for the advice. Fingers crossed it still works out and we can go.All I need now is for virgin to take there M+m flights off before the 28th june.AND I have to rearrange all restuarant reservations. Prob not much left now:sad2


Thankyou all for your support this board is truly amazing

 

[Elise79]

Thankyou.my use year is June.They gave us the 180 points for 2011/12 and I banked them in jan 12 as this was my banking month. It says on dvc members page that Ihave to use the banked points by may 13th?
I have 360 points in total of which 346 were being used for the august trip so I would bank the 14 left for next year.
I have just cancelled the august points BUT thanks to my uncle he is paying for my mom to come so can go anytime mid september till nov 8th.
In excitement and looking at best availiblity mid sept-end is best and have managed to provisionally book BLT from 24-28th in a one bed standard view. No studios availible but for the few extra points the standard view one bed is great. There was nothing availible last night so someone must have cancelled

Sorry about everything you've got going on

However the good news is you have until 31 May 2013 to use the banked points and until 31 January to bank any current year points your not going to use so you have plenty of time to sort something out

Let me know if you need any more help

 

[joolz1910]

One of my closest friends went through a painful break-up 9 years ago. Her DH left just before Christmas when their daughter was 3. She was broken for a long time and only really lived for her DD. Then, about 4 years later, she met a lovely man and fell head over heels in love. They got married and now have a 3 year old daughter. She is blissfully happy. It must seem so bleak at the moment, but I have seen many friends rebuild a better life for themselves after this sort of heartache. I really hope things start looking up for you soon.x

 

[laura_<3]

Hugs for you and your daughter

 

[Samaya]

However the good news is you have until 31 May 2013 to use the banked points and until 31 January to bank any current year points your not going to use so you have plenty of time to sort something out

Elise79 has already answered your question on the banked points, which is great news and what a lovely uncle to pay for you mother to go, good on him.

The only other thing I can suggest, if there's limited availability or none where you would rather stay then think about using the wait-list.

Also, over the 28th and 29th September Disney will be holding the Twilight Zone Tower of Terror 10-Miler Weekend and Disney Villains Hollywood Bash, so that's one extra reason why it might be difficult to find availability over those nights.

http://espnwwos.disney.go.com/events/rundisney/tower-of-terror-10-miler/

Best wishes.

 

[crabbie1]

Elise79 has already answered your question on the banked points, which is great news and what a lovely uncle to pay for you mother to go, good on him.

The only other thing I can suggest, if there's limited availability or none where you would rather stay then think about using the wait-list.

Also, over the 28th and 29th September Disney will be holding the Twilight Zone Tower of Terror 10-Miler Weekend and Disney Villains Hollywood Bash, so that's one extra reason why it might be difficult to find availability over those nights.

http://espnwwos.disney.go.com/events/rundisney/tower-of-terror-10-miler/

Best wishes.

Well I have provisionally booked and changed and changed again but now got 19-23 AKL one bedroom Jambo(as always stayed kidani with ex) BUT I am waitlisting WLV one bed or studio. 23 have Studio at BLT then a one bedroom for 3 nights then 7 nights okw as thats the time I had problems with. Also the 21st for some reason though.
Anyway just holding out for flights till end of the month.Fingers crossed.Got AP and TIW card just seaworld to buy.

 

[Littlelegs19]

Sending more and

 

[Samaya]

Well I have provisionally booked and changed and changed again but now got 19-23 AKL one bedroom Jambo(as always stayed kidani with ex) BUT I am waitlisting WLV one bed or studio. 23 have Studio at BLT then a one bedroom for 3 nights then 7 nights okw as thats the time I had problems with. Also the 21st for some reason though.
Anyway just holding out for flights till end of the month.Fingers crossed.Got AP and TIW card just seaworld to buy.

Good luck with the waitlist and keep checking online to see if a BLT 1-bed comes available for the night of the 23rd or any other combination and good luck with those flights.