As a sister to two teachers (one a former teacher now), SIL to two teachers, and best friend to one teacher I feel I have to say something. Teaching is like a job just like any other, just they are teaching people. Teachers are not there to coddle children, and are not fully responsible for all their learning, they can only do so much. Teaching children is a three way street, the teacher plays a part, the student plays a part and the parent also plays a part. Everyone has to do their job, but teachers are not there to be indispensible to their students who are struggling. They can help when they feel their help might be warranted, but if a student just isn't getting it, probably they need more then the extra time a teacher can spare. They are NOT required to help people after school, and usually don't because it can open a can of worms. If you're helping Johnny, why can't you help Andy too. Also, Alison could use some extra help, her mom says, it can just keep growing until you're basically teaching all of your struggling students after school. There has to be a cut off somewhere. It is possible that this Teacher is also a tutor afterschool herself. A lot are, as tutoring is a very lucrative after-school job for teachers, my brother does some and he makes a LOT of money for a few extra hours of work. Also, most teachers (at least the ones I'm familiar with) usually do recommend those students who are having problems grasping most concepts to seek help other from them. As stated, sometimes the student just isn't "getting" that teacher's style, and another fresh approach might be enough to get it to click. Another misnomer is that some of these extra-curricular activities teachers moderate/supervise are all volunteer, usually they are not. They usually receive a small stipend, usually $500 - $1000 per semester to be the coach/advisor/supervisor, especially when competitions are involved. My best friend who is a highschool history teacher does get this small stipend for being the advisor for Mock Jury. Believe it or not, when my sister was teaching, she got an extra $500 a semester just for being a homeroom teacher. All she had to do was take attendence!! Teaching is one of the most noble professions IMO, but they are not and should not have to be available whenever a student is failing, and shouldn't be expected to put in the extra time if they don't have it. They are people and should be allowed to pick and choose their activities after work just like everybody else. A one-off session after school is one thing, but it seems like the OP's son needs more than that and I think the math teacher was definatly correct in suggesting a more permant solutuion to her problem.