"hiding" people on Facebook

[MELSMICE]

I hate it too when people pop on to chat. I wish they had something like the DIS, where you can select the button if you want people to know if you are on or not. See the red button in the left hand corner. If you are on, it is green, if you are off, it is blue, but you can select the privacy button, it will be red always, and no one knows if you are online or off line.

You can - you have to make yourself go "offline". Someone posted previously how you can do it.

I would look for it, but I'm on my way out the door! I haver a very busy day & it's snowing, but i am so blessed that I am fortunate enough to have a nice car, that we just put new tires on & am healthy enough to be able to get around with no problems. I am off to get my hair done from my hairdresser who I absolutely LOVE.....I am so blessed to have found her......she does wonders with my hair, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah!!!!!

 

[bethbuchall]

I hate it too when people pop on to chat. I wish they had something like the DIS, where you can select the button if you want people to know if you are on or not. See the red button in the left hand corner. If you are on, it is green, if you are off, it is blue, but you can select the privacy button, it will be red always, and no one knows if you are online or off line.

I think there is. Click on the chat in the lower right. There will be an "options" tab at the top. Set yourself to offline. I don't know if you need to do that every time that you log in, though. (I've never been asked to chat, so I don't really pay much attention to it.)

 

[bethbuchall]

just don't forget that you did it.

i once "hid" someone from work, and then forgot that I did it.

I spent a week complaining to DH how this obnoxious person had blocked me from their posts, how dare they when they were the annoying ones, etc....

I unfriended them in complete indignation. Afterwards, I realized I had a bunch of people hidden.

oops.

That sounds like something I would do.

 

[MIGrandma]

I have only hidden one person. I actually regret confirming the "friendship" when she sent a friend request. We used to be best friends, then things happened and the friendship pretty much disolved. I guess I thought it would be rude of me not to accept her friend request, but after awhile I did "hide" her as I got so tired of hearing stuff about "her best friend", as that used to be me.

I have been tempted to completely un-friend her, but then I know she would know I did that so I haven't. I just keep her hidden.

 

[ols386]

I'm pretty sure my dd and her husband have me hidden, as they never respond to any of my posts. LOL

But I'm still on their friends list.

Son-IL makes comments sometimes to my ds that I sometimes think are putting him down, and when he makes those remarks I usually post something defending my ds, so I don't think dd and her husband like that.

 

[DWGal210]

This is good to know - I should do that to a few people. I actaully removed a few from my list of friends as ALL of their posts were highly annoying.

 

[pixiechick]

I think there is. Click on the chat in the lower right. There will be an "options" tab at the top. Set yourself to offline. I don't know if you need to do that every time that you log in, though. (I've never been asked to chat, so I don't really pay much attention to it.)

if you are offline, you'll still be offline when you log back in. No need to keep doing it.

And as someone mentioned, you can set up your "friends" into different groups. Then you can be available for chat with some , but not others. Out of a couple of hundred "friends", I only show up available to chat with less than 10.

 

[southern_redhead]

Yes, this is one of the reasons I deactivated my facebook account. I had so many friends who were all constantly happy, and in love with their husband, and thrilled with their kids, and healthy, and....ick. The funny thing was that as long as I posted similar things they would "like" the status and comment but let me put one semi sad/upset status update and it was like I had the plague. You could hear crickets chirp. Well, sorry, my life isn't all sunshine and roses. Every once in a while I get annoyed or have my feelings hurt and I want to VENT it.

 

[Belle0101]

Thanks for the information! I just hid 3 people.

My sister, who posts at least one bible verse a day and gives a mini sermon on it. She also posts how absolutely perfectly wonderful her boyfriend and her children are.

Hello? I know you off FB. You've admitted to shoplifting, your boyfriend cheated on you, you constantly say how much you hate his children, your son chose to live with your ex husband and not either of his bio. parents and your high school age daughter? You might want to check on what she's doing.

Then my cousin because she has to one up everyone. I could win a Nobel Peace Prize and she'd figure out how to one up even that.

And then there's my neighbor. We used to be really good friends, until I offended her. My "crime"? Under my profile I listed my husband, kids and pets. That's it. She, on my wall, asked why I didn't list her because she thought we were BFFs. She was actually mad at me.

Since then she posts how she hung out with her really great neighbor and they had a wonderful time. Only I'm not that neighbor. It's the new people who moved in.

Or she posts how she went here or there with her BFF. Only I'm not that BFF either. It's a lady she knows that she used to complain to me about.

Then there's how she went somewhere with her twin. Her "twin" is a lady with the same first name as hers.

I'd un-friend them but it'd cause too much drama. What they don't know won't hurt them.

 

[starstruck93]

Yes, this is one of the reasons I deactivated my facebook account. I had so many friends who were all constantly happy, and in love with their husband, and thrilled with their kids, and healthy, and....ick. The funny thing was that as long as I posted similar things they would "like" the status and comment but let me put one semi sad/upset status update and it was like I had the plague. You could hear crickets chirp. Well, sorry, my life isn't all sunshine and roses. Every once in a while I get annoyed or have my feelings hurt and I want to VENT it.

: So true! This thread is totally cracking me up; we must have ALL of the same friends! There's a "friend" of mine on FB that's constantly talking about how great her kids and husband are.... she ends every. single. status update with "awesome" It drives me crazy! DH asked me "Why don't you just unfriend her?" My response.... "Because I'm too nosey to do that; I'll just hide her... that way I don't have to see her face everyday but I can still pop over to her page and see how "AWESOME" her life is!"

 

[David80]

I've hidden several people.

One friend posts nothing but stuff from his favorite football team. In the middle of the week he will post that number such and such ran so many yards, and how no one else can do that. I'm not a huge football fan, but don't hate it. I just don't want it shoved in my face nonstop.

Another former coworker plays every stupid facebook game there is. At first I blocked farmville, mafia wars, and like 5 others, but she kept playing more. Finally I just blocked her.

Another friend posts annoying small status that are very vegue, and just beg for attention like, "wonders why?" or "some people need to know when." Then all her other friends chime in asking whats wrong, etc.

Lastly a friend posts her daily life in status updates. "Off to another boring work day" "out of work, time for dinner" "Read a book and now time for a shower" "Its late, time for bed." There are never any more specific details to make it interesting, nor any change. The words "work, dinner and bed" are in almost every one of her status.

 

[Pastamom]

This is too funny!!!

I was just listening to the radio about this and they talked about types of facebook friends - the polition, the religious nut, the sports fan, the "my life is wonderful/so busy, etc

Facebook has become the "Christmas Letter" that continues all year.

I like to hear when people are doing interesting things or when something funny/unique has happened, but I have 1 "friend" who posts how she cuddled with her cats for 10 minutes today - who cares. She posts constantly about waiting for a tv show...her political views...how wonderful her DH is. I found it funny that when I posted about my DH needing surgery or DS getting pneumonia - nothing was posted.

Also SIL will post the "cryptic" messages, or post on there that I need to call her ASAP (I guess her phone doesn''t call out). She also tends to misread other people posts (I'm assuming) and posts that she thinks are funny then deletes them a little later - I guess she doesn't realize the OP has gotten a copy of the comment already....Unfortunatley I can't hide her - since she sometimes asks me later about her posts/comments.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

Another friend posts annoying small status that are very vegue, and just beg for attention like, "wonders why?" or "some people need to know when." Then all her other friends chime in asking whats wrong, etc.

Oh, I hate that! I always want to respond, "Need attention much?"

 

[Mermaid02]

This is too funny!!!

I was just listening to the radio about this and they talked about types of facebook friends - the polition, the religious nut, the sports fan, the "my life is wonderful/so busy, etc
Facebook has become the "Christmas Letter" that continues all year.

I like to hear when people are doing interesting things or when something funny/unique has happened, but I have 1 "friend" who posts how she cuddled with her cats for 10 minutes today - who cares. She posts constantly about waiting for a tv show...her political views...how wonderful her DH is. I found it funny that when I posted about my DH needing surgery or DS getting pneumonia - nothing was posted.

Also SIL will post the "cryptic" messages, or post on there that I need to call her ASAP (I guess her phone doesn''t call out). She also tends to misread other people posts (I'm assuming) and posts that she thinks are funny then deletes them a little later - I guess she doesn't realize the OP has gotten a copy of the comment already....Unfortunatley I can't hide her - since she sometimes asks me later about her posts/comments.

I think I'll post about this!

 

[Pastamom]

I think I'll post about this!

Too bad they won't realize it's about them

 

[David80]

I forgot to mention the bad speller. It was a friends younger female friend who added me. She typed like a mentally handicap 12 year old on AOL. Would was wud. Ask was x. Delete was delt. You was u. Work was wk. Supper or any evening food was sup. Twice I commented I couldn't understand her gibberish, which her friends replied with "LOL" because they probably agreed. She kept it up, and I finally went on a 3 paragraph rant about how stupid she sounds. She deleted me. Problem solved.

 

[ols386]

I forgot to mention the bad speller. It was a friends younger female friend who added me. She typed like a mentally handicap 12 year old on AOL. Would was wud. Ask was x. Delete was delt. You was u. Work was wk. Supper or any evening food was sup. Twice I commented I couldn't understand her gibberish, which her friends replied with "LOL" because they probably agreed. She kept it up, and I finally went on a 3 paragraph rant about how stupid she sounds. She deleted me. Problem solved.

Really, you went on a 3 paragraph rant saying that she sounded stupid? I can understand your frustration, but how do you think that made you sound?

 

[Miniefan]

I know exactly what you guys mean... I have a friend who posts every night what she cooked for dinner it usually goes something like this....
Homemade beef and black bean chili topped with aged cheddar served with fresh green salad and green chili jalapeno cheddar cornbread. YUM! and then there are about 15 posts praising her culinary abilities or saying yum Im coming over for dinner or sounds good can I get the recipe . PUKE I get tired of reading it in my feed so I hid posts from her.

I also went onto my my privacy settings and hid my posts and disabled a few people from seeing my posts, photos, or commenting on my photos. I still kept them as friends but they can't be nosey rosey's anymore, if they don't like it then they can delete me and we'll both be happy. I just didn't want to be the dumper.

Kim

 

[angie@dvcstore]

just don't forget that you did it.

i once "hid" someone from work, and then forgot that I did it.

I spent a week complaining to DH how this obnoxious person had blocked me from their posts, how dare they when they were the annoying ones, etc....

I unfriended them in complete indignation. Afterwards, I realized I had a bunch of people hidden.

oops.

That's funny

 

[BoogasMom]

My son hid a friend because the kid and his girlfriend constantly post "news" items that are basically personal notes about how much each loves the other. My son got tried of these "I (heart) you so much (heart)(heart)(heart)!!!" posts cluttering his front page instead of them using e-mail that he hid the kid.

Now THIS is what gets on my nerves more than anything else. I also get annoyed when people post very vague statements like, "Really? Seriously?" and then nothing else.....if you take the time to post something like that, I think you are just fishing for attention and to see how many people you can get to respond to your statements. The scripture quotes and the political statements don't bother me at all.

I did have to block a friend on facebook once because of using the F word too much and posting crass jokes. For goodness sakes, my sons could be standing right behind me when I scroll down the screen....I just couldn't take it anymore.