He's gone...

[TwingleMum]

Thanks for your DH's service and your family's sacrifice.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Military or not, it's not a great idea to post your last name, photo, location and the fact that you will be alone with young kids.


OP, I don't think the poster meant to hurt your feelings, I think she is looking out for you AND the soldiers. I can't imagine how difficult this time is/will be for you and your DH is in my prayers. I pray that the time goes quickly for all of you and that he is home safe and sound soon.

I agree. I didn't see anything wrong with the reminder about OPSEC. Safety is always a concern.

We have had issues with crime on post here and several of the robberies occurred in houses where the husband was deployed. It drives me nuts to see cars with the big "1/2 my heart is in Iraq" stickers on the back. Way to advertise you are home alone!

OP - hope your DH is home safely very soon and that the time flies by for you.

 

[PatsGirl]

I also have a Jake (DS21) deployed right now. I am amazed at how often he is able to get in touch via facebook or email. He doesn't give me much information but I do know that he is in northern Iraq and that they are living very basically. I hope that your husband can also stay in touch with you on a regular basis and I will keep him, as I do all our military, in my thoughts and prayers

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I agree. I didn't see anything wrong with the reminder about OPSEC. Safety is always a concern.

We have had issues with crime on post here and several of the robberies occurred in houses where the husband was deployed. It drives me nuts to see cars with the big "1/2 my heart is in Iraq" stickers on the back. Way to advertise you are home alone!

OP - hope your DH is home safely very soon and that the time flies by for you.

Thank you...and I did appreciate the clarification and reminder since the people who gave me my info weren't as thorough.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Thank you...and I did appreciate the clarification and reminder since the people who gave me my info weren't as thorough.

I know you are probably very emotional right now. Understandably so! Just wanted to send a hug and let you know that no one was fussing at you.

We're here if you need to vent. How about start planning an R&R Disney trip - that should keep you pretty occupied.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I know you are probably very emotional right now. Understandably so! Just wanted to send a hug and let you know that no one was fussing at you.

We're here if you need to vent. How about start planning an R&R Disney trip - that should keep you pretty occupied.

I would LOVE to be able to do that...but he probably won't be getting R and R and I have to stash all of the extra pay away for a house once he returns since he'll be getting out and we'll be moving.

I know the poster I was having a tift with was well meaning, I just thought it came off a little harsh. I am over emotionaly right now, so I know that's some of the reason why I reacted the way I did, but also, you know, it's a little embarrassing. I should know these things and didn't. I don't like to look stupid, but I was definately ignorant about it.

 

[jsmith]

every day you wake up is one less you wake up alone-and it will go by faster than you think-my experience is the two weeks BEFORE the flight is always the toughest and you made it through that already

 

[Nancy F]

Keeping you all in my prayers. And may God Bless and keep safe your Brave Man.
Nancy

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Military or not, it's not a great idea to post your last name, photo, location and the fact that you will be alone with young kids.


OP, I don't think the poster meant to hurt your feelings, I think she is looking out for you AND the soldiers. I can't imagine how difficult this time is/will be for you and your DH is in my prayers. I pray that the time goes quickly for all of you and that he is home safe and sound soon.

I agree. I didn't see anything wrong with the reminder about OPSEC. Safety is always a concern.

We have had issues with crime on post here and several of the robberies occurred in houses where the husband was deployed. It drives me nuts to see cars with the big "1/2 my heart is in Iraq" stickers on the back. Way to advertise you are home alone!

OP - hope your DH is home safely very soon and that the time flies by for you.

I know you are probably very emotional right now. Understandably so! Just wanted to send a hug and let you know that no one was fussing at you.

We're here if you need to vent. How about start planning an R&R Disney trip - that should keep you pretty occupied.

Just wanted to Thank You both!

I would LOVE to be able to do that...but he probably won't be getting R and R and I have to stash all of the extra pay away for a house once he returns since he'll be getting out and we'll be moving.

I know the poster I was having a tift with was well meaning, I just thought it came off a little harsh. I am over emotionaly right now, so I know that's some of the reason why I reacted the way I did, but also, you know, it's a little embarrassing. I should know these things and didn't. I don't like to look stupid, but I was definately ignorant about it.

Thank you...and I did appreciate the clarification and reminder since the people who gave me my info weren't as thorough.

I wouldn't call it a tiff!! LOL! Like you said you're emotional right now so you probably read more into it than what was there.

And I can tell you to be prepared for lots of Army wives filling you in on everything under the sun. We stick together. We share the knowledge that we've built up over the years with those who come after us. It's just like if you found a great website with awesome deals....You tell everyone about it. Well as wives if we have info that would be beneficial it's almost our duty to share it. The longer your spouse has been in the more great information you accumulate...everything from not talking about your husbands rank to what is acceptable to wear to balls to protocol for interacting with the Command.

I can tell you that you will learn more from other wives than you do from Command so no reason to be embarrassed or to feel stupid.

Your FRG Leader can be a wonderful resource during this time. She can tell you about training,couseling and upcoming events. And if there's something you don't know she can fill you in...and if she doesn't know the answer she will know exactly who to go to to get the information for you.

 

[LuLuO]

OP Big (((hugs))) to you and many good thoughts and prayers for your DH. Thank you for your service and sacrifice.

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Just wanted to Thank You both!






I wouldn't call it a tiff!! LOL! Like you said you're emotional right now so you probably read more into it than what was there.

And I can tell you to be prepared for lots of Army wives filling you in on everything under the sun. We stick together. We share the knowledge that we've built up over the years with those who come after us. It's just like if you found a great website with awesome deals....You tell everyone about it. Well as wives if we have info that would be beneficial it's almost our duty to share it. The longer your spouse has been in the more great information you accumulate...everything from not talking about your husbands rank to what is acceptable to wear to balls to protocol for interacting with the Command.

I can tell you that you will learn more from other wives than you do from Command so no reason to be embarrassed or to feel stupid.

Your FRG Leader can be a wonderful resource during this time. She can tell you about training,couseling and upcoming events. And if there's something you don't know she can fill you in...and if she doesn't know the answer she will know exactly who to go to to get the information for you.

Yeah...our FRG leader is new and she has ne clue..she didn't even want to do it.

 

[Rora]

 

[lustergirl]

I also have a Jake (DS21) deployed right now. I am amazed at how often he is able to get in touch via facebook or email. He doesn't give me much information but I do know that he is in northern Iraq and that they are living very basically. I hope that your husband can also stay in touch with you on a regular basis and I will keep him, as I do all our military, in my thoughts and prayers

My son is a marine reservist- he just came home early last month from a deployment in Afghanistan. He stayed in touch via email every couple of days-it was awesome to see him safe and alive.

 

[princessbride6205]

Cassie - big hugs to you! Thank you for everything you do and to your husband.

 

[ginna74]

It will go super quick!!! I loved getting together boxes to send to him! There are even cheap boxes at the post office. When you are done filling them up no matter the weight it is only 12.99 I think!!!! Yes there are rules you have to go by and if they are broken your soldier can get into a lot of trouble and his unit can be put in danger. My hubby really never told me anything, not for lack of me trying. I do think that was for the best and his superior told everyone they couldn't too. I had my phone glued to me and was taking more pictures then I usually do of my son. The time went by quicker then I thought it would.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Yeah...our FRG leader is new and she has ne clue..she didn't even want to do it.

Unfortunately I see that a lot We have a couple who like the title but do none of the work.

If you need any information just send me a pm. As long as it's not Post specific I can help you out.

Also contact ACS and ask to speak to their Mobilization and Deployment Program Manager. This person can get you on her email list if you aren't already and send you information not only about what's going on around Post but information specific to deployed families (deployed family dinners,events local sports teams may be holding in honor of deployed families etc)

 

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

Unfortunately I see that a lot We have a couple who like the title but do none of the work.

If you need any information just send me a pm. As long as it's not Post specific I can help you out.

Also contact ACS and ask to speak to their Mobilization and Deployment Program Manager. This person can get you on her email list if you aren't already and send you information not only about what's going on around Post but information specific to deployed families (deployed family dinners,events local sports teams may be holding in honor of deployed families etc)

Thanks! I appreciate it. Sorry I was snappy yesterday

 

[irishbosoxfan]

Thanks! I appreciate it. Sorry I was snappy yesterday

Not a problem. Like I said...I get it. DH just got home from his second deployment. Right now you're torn between missing him and wanting to do nothing but cry but knowing that it does the kids no good to see their mom fall apart because dad isn't there.

It'll get better and easier as you put whatever plan you have into action. Just remember to keep your chin up.

 

[ccgirl]

***Just finished putting up my yellow ribbon...so proud of him!

Awww...brought tears to my eyes. I'm very proud of him too. And, of you also. As I know you sill get through this. How awesome for you children their dad is a real life hero! Sending hugs your way.

 

[lovemygoofy]

I'm so sorry for your heart breaking. I certainly understand. I've done 3 deployments and rumor has getting to #4 before year's end.

A couple suggestions for you:

Contact your ACS and talk to the deployment/program manager. I know the people at Hood and they are on top of their A game and have this down to a science. There is so much information for you from there about events in town and on your post.

Do you have daddy dolls for your children? Order up a couple for the kids. It will make you both feel better.

Have you heard of Military Family Life Consultant(MFLCs)? They are GREAT counselors that take no name or write down anything and all confidential. If you find that you need some where to vent or that your children are having adjustment issues, the MFLCs are the way to go.

Make sure the unit knows who you are and that your FRG leader and the FRSA has your information including all phone numbers and email and an emergency number like your families' number.

Take it a day at a time. Every day you wake up is another day done. You'll hit your stride in about 45 days or so. Embrace what you are feeling. THere are days you want to cry or kick the crap out of something, feel it and then get over it and go on because that is all you can do.

My last piece of advice: dig your toes in, curl your fists and say "I am an army wife and we are some tuff broads and if the chick down the street can do this so can I"

If you ever have any questions or issues don't hesitate to PM me. I do army family issues for a living. Good luck and you can do this.