He's gone...

[Soldier's*Sweeties]

I'm so sorry for your heart breaking. I certainly understand. I've done 3 deployments and rumor has getting to #4 before year's end.

A couple suggestions for you:

Contact your ACS and talk to the deployment/program manager. I know the people at Hood and they are on top of their A game and have this down to a science. There is so much information for you from there about events in town and on your post.

Do you have daddy dolls for your children? Order up a couple for the kids. It will make you both feel better.

Have you heard of Military Family Life Consultant(MFLCs)? They are GREAT counselors that take no name or write down anything and all confidential. If you find that you need some where to vent or that your children are having adjustment issues, the MFLCs are the way to go.

Make sure the unit knows who you are and that your FRG leader and the FRSA has your information including all phone numbers and email and an emergency number like your families' number.

Take it a day at a time. Every day you wake up is another day done. You'll hit your stride in about 45 days or so. Embrace what you are feeling. THere are days you want to cry or kick the crap out of something, feel it and then get over it and go on because that is all you can do.

My last piece of advice: dig your toes in, curl your fists and say "I am an army wife and we are some tuff broads and if the chick down the street can do this so can I"

If you ever have any questions or issues don't hesitate to PM me. I do army family issues for a living. Good luck and you can do this.

Thank you so much!

 

[beaucoup]

Good luck to your DH. I'm in the same boat right now. I don't even tell people online who he works for most of the time.

The way I look at it when I post anything online or on Facebook is if I wouldn't put all that info on a billboard in front of my house forever or paint it on my car, I don't post it online.

Pretty scary what a simple google search can turn up. Caches. Same name on different message boards. Pictures. And my Facebook page is so locked up for privacy. Even there I don't allow all my friends to see everything.

Gotta be safe. You and your children. Military or not.

Good luck.


If you want or need to talk to people online, you might want to try a military spouse message board where they are private & not open to public reading. But even there, they follow OPSEC rules & enforce them. PM me if you need the name of a message board. At least you'll be talking to people who understand & can offer real advice.

 

[irishbosoxfan]

I'm so sorry for your heart breaking. I certainly understand. I've done 3 deployments and rumor has getting to #4 before year's end.

A couple suggestions for you:

Contact your ACS and talk to the deployment/program manager. I know the people at Hood and they are on top of their A game and have this down to a science. There is so much information for you from there about events in town and on your post.

Do you have daddy dolls for your children? Order up a couple for the kids. It will make you both feel better.

Have you heard of Military Family Life Consultant(MFLCs)? They are GREAT counselors that take no name or write down anything and all confidential. If you find that you need some where to vent or that your children are having adjustment issues, the MFLCs are the way to go.

Make sure the unit knows who you are and that your FRG leader and the FRSA has your information including all phone numbers and email and an emergency number like your families' number.

Take it a day at a time. Every day you wake up is another day done. You'll hit your stride in about 45 days or so. Embrace what you are feeling. THere are days you want to cry or kick the crap out of something, feel it and then get over it and go on because that is all you can do.

My last piece of advice: dig your toes in, curl your fists and say "I am an army wife and we are some tuff broads and if the chick down the street can do this so can I"

If you ever have any questions or issues don't hesitate to PM me. I do army family issues for a living. Good luck and you can do this.

Warning going off topic!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey Tina!!

Haven't seen you for a bit! Last time we ran into each other we were waiting for the same promotion results! So was your DH one of the lucky ones to get picked up?

Sorry to hear about #4--DH was home 3 weeks when they came at him for #3!

Ok back on topic!!

My kids got the dolls the first time DH left and they still talk about them! LOL! They call it their "Voodoo Daddy"

 

[ginna74]

Oh I had fun making bumper magnets online for my fridge and car proclaiming how proud I was of hubby and every time I opened the fridge I saw them and I thought of him. When he came home for his visit we ordered a sign a made up a couple too and when he left we put one on the door and hung the other 2 also. So we always felt him around. The Frg person was calling me at least once a month and I was getting emails all the time so I was in the know from them. I think at the begining was the worst but after that it just flew by.