Helppp..

[coolshannie]

Ok.. so this is probably a minor issue but I have no idea what to do. So, I go to school every day, ( obviously.) Anyways, If i walk into my history class after school, or at lunch, or EVEN in the hallways and I am kind of down about something, like a grade or something stupid I do, or maybe I just have something on my mind, and I am telling some of my friends, there is ALWAYS this boy that is there. Now this boy sits with us at lunch, and is friends with my friends ect. He is nice, don't get me wrong, but... Anytime I seem to have something on my mind He will put his hands on my shoulders or touch my arm.... or something like that. I REALLY don't want to be mean, like really really really don't want to be mean. But, usually I just squirm away, HOPING he would get the picture. Apparently not. I think he might like me, because normally people don't.... touch me. But this is rather disturbing to me, I barely know the guy and I really don't like him in that way at all, and can't see me liking him that way ever. What should I do? I just want him to respect my space...

Also.. Im not the most assertive person in the world, Im rather shy and don't normally confront people as I am always afraid of hurting somebody's feelings, as I know I wouldn't want somebody doing the same to me. Although my friends tell me I am much to nice.. most of the time.

 

[maelstrom troll]

If you gain the courage to, sock him in the face a few times.

He'll get the message.

 

[PrincessKally]

Well first if he is friends with some of your friends, I would suggest having them find out if he does like you and maybe this is this way of flirting and trying to comfort you.
If you don't like him touching you and being so close, jsut ask for a little space, tell him to please respect your "personal bubble" hahah it usually works, haha, as long as you do the arm gesture of a big bubble around you!
But no just ask him nicely for some space next time, and if you keep asking as he keeps doing it maybe he will get the picture, or even say "I really don't like to be touched so much"

 

[BabyPiglet]

Just politely tell him you need your space.

Or kind of jokingly tell him to back off.

 

[Idol_Fan]

Hmm....thats a hard one that has never happen to me...Maybe try to make a joke out of it? Like "Whoah back up cowboy why is YOUR hand on MY shoulder? Respect my space will ya!" and if you say that its mean to be said in a joking tone with a half smile on your face. But DONT take my advice unless you NEED to because if it has not happen to me i usually suck with advice.

 

[PurpleDucky]

When somebody gets too close to me. I yell 'bubble!!!!' and move away

 

[BabyPiglet]

When somebody gets too close to me. I yell 'bubble!!!!' and move away

I will try that next time someone tried to touch my hair...

They come up from behind me and "boing" my curls. Ergh it gets me so irritated.

 

[coolshannie]

thanks for the advice. Anybody who knows me, knows who I like.. I don't have the courage to ask him out.. Hah, but otherwise EVERYBODY and I mean everybody, knows im really not interested in a boyfriend at the moment. I mean maybe, but I am so consumed with my studies and band that I really don't see time for a boyfriend. This is what I find confusing, he sits with us at lunch, so he HAS to know Im not interested in going out with anybody at the moment, ( I mean I say it constantly.. If the world doesn't know that by now then.. there are issues here. The only reason it is brought up so much is because, when sadie's comes around my friends are always like "Shannie you need to ask somebody!" Even though they aren't asking anybody themselves.. Anyways.. I always say no because I have no interest for the boys at my school as most of them are immature jerks, or I don't see them in that respect, except for a few but.. thats anoter story.)maybe he doesn't like me, but maybe he is a touchy feely kind of person... which I totally am not.

 

[PrincessKally]

When somebody gets too close to me. I yell 'bubble!!!!' and move away

That is indeed the best way to get your space.

 

[PurpleDucky]

That is indeed the best way to get your space.

Seems to work every time

 

[CrazyChik]

If you gain the courage to, sock him in the face a few times.

He'll get the message.

and if you want to do it without getting suspended take the others advice

 

[Sparx]

I will try that next time someone tried to touch my hair...

They come up from behind me and "boing" my curls. Ergh it gets me so irritated.

people do that to me too. I have kinky curly hair. People act like they've never seen curly hair.

Just tell the guy you don't like to be touched.