Help with DD school

[Mouse House Mama]

the only reason we would consider joining is to be able to meet other parents, and children. They Don't come to your home you only have to send them a copy of the IQ report. The women that we spoke to from Mensa said that now is a great time to get involved so we can meet other parents.

I think you can still meet other parents of children. It doesn't mean that you have to only socialize with kids who are qualified as gifted. There are plenty of playgroups etc. that you can join that would be great for your dd. I agree with MSSANDRA- she is still the same little girl, just enjoy her and do the same as you would have for her.

 

[Pinnie]

Here is a chart I always give to the parents of my students whenever they feel that their BRIGHT child is GIFTED.

http://www.bow.k12.nh.us/BESGifted/brightvs.htm

pinnie

 

[Mouse House Mama]

Here is a chart I always give to the parents of my students whenever they feel that their BRIGHT child is GIFTED.

http://www.bow.k12.nh.us/BESGifted/brightvs.htm

pinnie

That is a great list.

 

[PA Princess]

My DD2 is in EI for speech and just had to go through a round of testing. One of the tests was an IQ test. The lady that did it said that she only tested one other child who scored as high as my DD! Now my DH and I do not know what to do with her. We planned on putting her in a catholic school next year for preschool. But I want to put her somewhere now! The person who tested her said that once she is put in school there will be no stopping her. I just want to find a place that can help her be all she can be! (other then the army) How do I find the right school or program?

I am having a disconnect here. Does your 2 year old read? If not, I would imagine the main way to test a 2 year old would be verbally, and yet your dd is requiring an evaluation (EI?) for speech?

As for what school, I think a good pre-school program at three will be fine...no matter her IQ results. She has the rest of her life to be brilliant, but this is her only shot at childhood

 

[Nicolepa]

I have a child who is off the charts gifted. She taught herself to read at 3. Was reading chapter books by 4 and now at 6 reads (and comprehends) at almost a Jr. High level. She can do multiplication, division, loves computer programming etc. She was tested at 4 and tested off the charts. I don't tell you this to brag. I mention this so that you know I am speaking from experience.

At this point I would put her in a preschool program that you think will give her the best social enviornment. At 2-4 the most important thing is to make sure she has good social skills. Then start schooling her at home. My daughter started doing homework on her own at 2. I had bought a workbook at Costco to do someday. She kept dragging it out and eventually I gave her some crayons and let her have at it. I had a baby and was a bit overwhelmed and it kept her entertained. I never sat down and formally did it with her, she just figured it out. After she finished that workbook I got a bit more formal in what we did. At that age I never made her do homework, she just enjoyed it. She still to this day loves to do homework, either from school, or sheets I print out etc.

The test may or may not be accurate. Other kids may or may not catch up. Only time will tell. I don't see this as a reason wait and see. I don't see any reason why a child can't be a child and still do school work, if they enjoy it. I'm not talking hours of homework. I'm talking 5-15 minutes at a time. I think part of the reason that other kids catch up is that gifted kids are ignored in a regular classroom. In kindergarten her teacher told me in November that she had passed Kindgerarten and she didn't need to work with her (and she didn't). Nothing was done to challenge her the entire year. If I hadn't continued working with her at home she very well may have leveled out in a few years.

 

[rie'smom]

My niece scored beyond the genius quotient on the IQ test. She went to Catholic school from kindergarten through high school. She was accepted on scholarship tp Rhodes College in Memphis where she continued to excel. She's been hired to do business consulting at a top drawer firm in DC. So,my point is that her Catholic school education didn't hamper her at all. Of course,when kids reach this level,it doesn't really matter where they go to schol because once they see something,BAM,they know it. Your daughter will do well wherever she goes to school.

 

[gabbysmom04]

I am having a disconnect here. Does your 2 year old read? If not, I would imagine the main way to test a 2 year old would be verbally, and yet your dd is requiring an evaluation (EI?) for speech?

As for what school, I think a good pre-school program at three will be fine...no matter her IQ results. She has the rest of her life to be brilliant, but this is her only shot at childhood

Lol, I can see how this might look weird. My DD has VPI or Velopharyngeal insufficiency. It causes her to have nasal air emission for sounds where it does not belong. She talks and talks!!! The reason she was being tested is because she is turning 3 and they do testing for the school district. When they were testing her for speech last month I was worried that she could not answer some of the ques. until the woman told me she was already past where they test 7-8 year old kids. Gabby was having so much fun testing that the teacher just kept going with her. The whole time I had thought the testing was for 3yrs.

Pinnie, Thanks for the list!

Nicolepa, thank you for your story. This is what I am afraid might happen to her. Who knows maybe she has the IQ but will never use it the way she can. Only time will tell us that. I just don't want her to get lost and not be given a chance to excel.

I just want to thank everyone for all of their advice. It all makes sense and I am glad everyone took the time to share it!

 

[gabbysmom04]

Glad to hear he's doing well! Aidan was 2 in Dec and is all boy too! He won't need a lip revision til probably next year and we're hoping that will be the last surgery! As for his intestines, he had 1/2 removed when he was a week old and was left with a temp. ostomy for a few months. Had that reconnected and he's been great since! We are very lucky (and blessed) that he is here with us today - I'm sure you can relate! Glad to "meet" you!

Wow sounds like Aidan had a rough time! Dominic had his stomach surgery when he was two days old. We baptised him an hour before they rushed him into surgery! they had told us other things were wrong, and that he would not live. We have had three cleft surgeries so far and are done until Dominic gets a bone graft at 6 or 7. He has some heart issues that we are watching. So that might mean a small procedure next year. Aidan sounds like a blessing! Nice to meet you too!

 

[Keara'sMom]

Just thought I'd throw in my 2 cents both as a school psychologist who evaluates kids in EI and as a mom to a bright little girl...

My understainding is that IQ, per se, isn't stable until kids are about 8 years old. So, while she scored at a certain level now, that might not be her "IQ" later. That said, I'm sure that she'll always be very bright if she's doing that well now!

My dd (who is now 10) was a very precocious toddler/preschooler as well, who taught herself to read at 3 1/2. After that, we enrolled her in a Montessori preschool so that she would be "intellectually stimulated." Frankly, if I had it to do over again, I would have looked for a preschool that centered on playing, developing children's imaginations (which my dd has always had in abundance!), and having fun! So much of children's lives are spent in school that I feel they should enjoy as much time as they can when they're little just having fun, playing, learning to get along well with others, creating, etc.

You know your dd best of anyone and can make decisions for her based on your feelings and impressions. Have fun with her! And all the best to your little boy! Sounds like you've all been through it!!!