Help with addressing a card!

[rparmfamily]

I know this is thrilling stuff, but I need advice on addressing a card. My SIL is getting married (J.Jones) next week to Dr M. Smith. (PhD)

We are not attending the wedding, as it's in Europe. So we are sending a card. They have already left for Europe and won't get the card until the end of July when they return.

How do I address it? J. Jones and Dr M. Smith? Dr and Mrs M. Smith? (they aren't technically married yet?)

Thanks!

 

[rainy~daze]

since they will be married by the time they return and I am assuming(?) it is a wedding card, I would address it to Dr and Mrs.

 

[antmaril]

As stated, if they will be married by the time they receive the card, then Dr. and Mrs. M. Smith

 

[rparmfamily]

Thanks guys!

That's what DH was saying, just address it to their married name since by the time they get it they will be married.

 

[WDWAurora]

Actually, I don't think PhDs use Dr. as a prefix for personal correspondence. I may be mistaken, but that's what I thought it was.

 

[snykymom]

Actually, I don't think PhDs use Dr. as a prefix for personal correspondence. I may be mistaken, but that's what I thought it was.

I believe that in Europe they do. In fact, in England, surgeons are called "Mr." (I don't know if the female equivalent is "Ms" or still "Miss" and "Mrs"), not Dr.

 

[WDWAurora]

I believe that in Europe they do. In fact, in England, surgeons are called "Mr." (I don't know if the female equivalent is "Ms" or still "Miss" and "Mrs"), not Dr.

I believe you're right. I think the PhDs go by Dr. and the medical drs go by Mr, in both professional and private life.

I believe the OP would need to use the American version, though.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

The wedding is in Europe, but is that where the couple will live?

Miss Manners tells us that PhD's do not properly go by the title Doctor.

 

[KristaTX]

Even if he was a medical doctor in the U.S., and assuming she is changing her last name to his, I'd address it as "Mr. and Mrs. Smith". Actually, I might forgo the titles altogether and say "John and Jane Smith". He's going to be family. There was a thread about that subject recently, and most people said they don't address family members or personal friends as "Dr.", "Rev.", etc. http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=2193758

 

[rparmfamily]

Thanks for the input!!

My BIL-to-be is European but now lives here, though is not a citizen, is here because he's a professor at a major US university.

Maybe I'll just address it Jane and Micheal Smith.

(can I just insert eyerolling here as my IL's taught my kids to refer to him as "Dr Smith" when we visit? This was before the engagement though so now he'll be called Uncle Michael according to me LOL)

 

[koima]

Is she planning on changing her name? Some people don't and that would change how to address it.

If she is, I'd go with Dr. and Mrs. Smith if you want to be formal, or Jane and Michael Smith if you're informal.

 

[shortbun]

Is Ms. Jones changing her name?

 

[rparmfamily]

I have no clue if my SIL is changing her name, ugg. They are already in Europe for the wedding, and my IL's leave in the morning (too late to call now.) I'll just wait until this weekend and mail it after I ask my IL's if SIL is changing her name.