Help with a ridiculous situation? (long, sorry)

[RickinNYC]

I would love to know why in God's name would your husband even concoct a lie about you being pregnant? There is some back story that isn't being said here. What was his motivation? And peer pressure is truly not an acceptable answer unless your husband has some absoutely deep seated, very serious issues.

 

[pattyT]

Well all I can think of is all those HORRIFIC situations where the women astart with a little bitty white lie about being prego -
and it results in them killing a nine month prego woman and stealing the baby

I for one Hope that the two of you are NEVER really blessed with a pregnancy.

I am sorry that was a little too harsh (sometimes I forget my own no posteing before coffe rule )
But honestly that is the first news story that popped into my head when I read the op

and it just infuriates me because I know so many people who truely deserve to be parents and they have to work so hard and spend thousands (and more imporatntly a TON of heartache and spent emotions) to either get invitro or adopt...

 

[lil mermaid]

Now I don't know what he's going to do. Either we're going to have to fake a really tragic event or who knows what. These people are all really nice and I wouldn't be surprised if they throw a shower or buy gifts or something. The company seems to put a lot of emphasis on being like a "family."
Any ideas on how to get out of this? I don't really want to expose my husband as a liar, but I don't have a bun in the oven.
The things these men get into!

Tell the truth, that is how you get out of it.

Edited because what I really think will surely get me in trouble...

 

[mickeysgal]

I am sorry that was a little too harsh (sometimes I forget my own no posteing before coffe rule )
But honestly that is the first news story that popped into my head when I read the op

I don't think what you said was too harsh. Its the first thing that I thought of also. I'm sure others thought this too.

 

[RickinNYC]

........ I don't really want to expose my husband as a liar, but I don't have a bun in the oven.
The things these men get into!

Sorry, but I had to make mention of your last sentence. It's not "things these men get into", but rather your husband specifically. He dug this hole, he needs to dig himself out.

Hope things work out and you guys find a solution.

 

[Tinkerbell_Girl]

Whoa! I just happened to stumble upon this thread and I am speechless!

 

[Michie]

Sorry, but I had to make mention of your last sentence. It's not "things these men get into", but rather your husband specifically. He dug this hole, he needs to dig himself out.

Hope things work out and you guys find a solution.

I agree with Rick. My DH would never in a million years do something this dishonest or stupid. I don't know of any other men that would do that either. Or women that would go along with such ignorance.

 

[Poohgirl]

WOW! (opens mouth to speak and nothing comes out, decides to pull up a chair and insert Popcorn smilie if it wasn't MIA)

 

[Keli]

To the OP: I have a feeling you didn't realize all the ramifications of the situation your dh has gotten into. You really do need to find a way to come clean, and as soon as possible. You need to do it yourself if your dh refuses to. In the next week I would take care of this. And before then I'd get to the bottom of this whole story with dh. There certainly seems to be a whole lot more here than meets the eye. Coming clean is your only solution. Letting this situation continue will only lead to bad things. I'm telling you, you need to take care of this right away. You will seriously regret it if you don't.

 

[Melrosgirl]

LOL Three's Company episode!

I think your dh needs to hurry and tell his boss over at the Regal Beagle before Mr. Furley finds out!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't think what you said was too harsh. Its the first thing that I thought of also. I'm sure others thought this too.

Yep, that was my first thought, too.

 

[luvindisneyworld]

OMG,I cannot believe what I am reading .
If you go along with this to keep your DH from losing his job then if I were you I would be telling him to be looking for another job before he loses this one.Because it is not going to get better as time goes on,it will only get worse.So if he thinks he might stand a chance of losing the job now just wait till April or May and theres no baby and then everyone finds out that you were not ever pregnant.
I know if I were his boss I would definatly not want someone like that working for me.

I cannot believe that you really are going to go along with this,and then wanting to say that you lost the baby.All I can say is that I would never ever lie about losing a baby.I have lost 3 babies in the past and nothing hurts any worse than that.So if sometime you do end up pregnant,it might just be taken away and then you will see how it really feels.

Stand up and tell the truth and dont be a LIAR like your DH.But if you continue in it with him then you two deserve whatever happens.

Misty

 

[minniecarousel]

Well - we'll never hear the rest of this story, because I'm sure that the OP isn't going to come back here.

What a strange thing to lie about. To the OP - I hope you both figure out some things to make you better human beings.

 

[Michie]

I keep coming back to this thread to make sure it wasn't just a dream, a bad dream

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Seems to me your Dh is setting up a way to get some time off from work.

"wife is having an ultrasound today, and I would really like to be there"

Oh, and how about the "tragedy"? That should be good for a few days off.

Sorry, I don't know your DH, but yes, something is messed up beyond this being ridiculous. I don't know any normal man who would let a "joke" or a rumor or a misunderstanding go so far as to have you ACT like you are pregnant. Unless he has an reason for it. Is your DH's work srtict with time off? Would it make sense that he do this for that?

 

[Disney1fan2002]

Sorry, but I had to make mention of your last sentence. It's not "things these men get into", but rather your husband specifically. He dug this hole, he needs to dig himself out.

Hope things work out and you guys find a solution.

I so agree that "men" should not be generalized here. This is ONE fruitcake who happens to be a man.

 

[tiggersmom2]

Some are worried the OP's husband would lose his job for coming clean. I don't agree. All the hubby would have to say is "my wife was having some "female troubles" that led us to believe she was pregnant.....she isn't."

Simple as that.

 

[poohandwendy]

I agree TM2, it really is that simple. There is no need to go into it any further and noone would expect him too. Even if someone did happen to ask for more details, he could just say "I don't really understand the details myself" ...and then change the subject.

 

[allie&mattsmom]

You've been trying to get pregnant and now you are lying about being pregnant? Frankly, I'd run, not walk, run to a counselor asap. DH & I went through many years of infertility, miscarriages, false alarms - in other words, lots of tears & heartache. It can take it's toll. I think you both need help. Good luck.

 

[diznygirl]

She should have told the boss that she's not pregnant because he's impedant!

That'll teach him!