help too many kids not enough bedrooms!!

Sorry to throw this into the mix, and I know this wasn't the question you asked, but the Court is not going to look kindly on your boyfriend moving in with you. Courts frown on any parent co-habitating with the opposite sex without being married. It is grounds for losing custody of your children.

Make sure you (and your boyfriend especially) know this and have considered this consequence should you two move in together. If their mother wants to make a stink about it, she can and and probably will have the children taken from their father.

This varies WILDLY from place to place and judge to judge. BTDT and wasted a lot of money pursuing something that wasn't worth it in the first place - the judge was unwilling to modify our custody arrangement because of my ex moving in with his then-girlfriend. Basically I was told that where he chose to live was none of my business unless I could prove it posed a danger to my son. (And I have to add, just because I don't like coming off as the controlling ex, that there were extenuating circumstances - the gf had lost custody of her own kids after a CPS investigation).
 
OP, I think we need more information. You said you have one "Spare" bedroom. Do you have another room that can be converted? Can you make one of the bedrooms you have in your home into 2? Even if one of the kids has to share bedroom space with an office, it might be preferable to putting them together..

this was my question too.....do you have a 2 bedroom appartment or something bigger but only have one "extra" room. I also like the idea of converting the dining room to a bedroom if need be, or even putting a loft in the main living area for the boy to sleep in and somehow sectioning that area off with curtains so he has privacy :thumbsup2
 
Sorry to throw this into the mix, and I know this wasn't the question you asked, but the Court is not going to look kindly on your boyfriend moving in with you. Courts frown on any parent co-habitating with the opposite sex without being married. It is grounds for losing custody of your children.

Make sure you (and your boyfriend especially) know this and have considered this consequence should you two move in together. If their mother wants to make a stink about it, she can and and probably will have the children taken from their father.
Only if there is a Moral clause in the CO.
 
OP - You will have to find an alternative - the kids cannot share a bedroom - you could easily end up in court over this. There can be legal issues as well with moving in together so consider this carefully.

HOWEVER.....

The "morality police" here on the Dis needs to seriously get a life :idea: Unless you've BTDT you have absolutely no idea why choices are made. I'd put up a long engagement/relationship up against a marriage any day. With the rate of divorce these days all long term healthy relationships should be highly thought of not looked down at with your noses in the air :snooty:
 

if you dont have a porch or garage to convert to room maybe its time to sale the house, put money in bank, and start renting with him paying 1/2 the rent, when you get maried you can house shop.

or if you have the property to build on another room have him pay for it.
 
Getting back to the original question that was posted, I thought about my nephew. He has his own room, but his parents let him set up a small tent in his room that he "camps" in every night. He is also 9 yo. He basically does not use any of the rest of his room and prefers his little tent which is full of his favorite things. I am sure the day will come when he outgrows this, but until then, he is happy.

Perhaps something like this would work in your situation. You could give the remainder of the room to the older sister while letting the 10 yo have his camp. Just a thought ....... Clearly a temporary solution until you can move to a larger dwelling.
 














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