Help my Dh died.(Updated again post #218)

[KSG'sDisneyMem]

I am so very sorry for your loss. You have so much to think about right now. Only you can know for sure if you can handle taking the trip. Getting the family to do something fun and interactive will be great but the timing is so soon after your loss. I agree with previous posts to sit down and consider what your husband would truly want you to do? Would he want you to have more time to grieve and process or would he want you to get out there and see the World with your girls? Talk to him in your own way when you are alone and can just think. You must have so much on your mind right now, and I would imagine, many people around you too. Take a little time just for you if you can. Whatever decision you make, it will be the right one for your family. God Bless you and your children in your time of need.

 

[kimmylaj]

just wanted to say how sorry i am , i can't begin to imagine what you are going thru
my mom, myself and my 2 kids took a trip to disney shortly after my grandma passed away (2 months) we decided to go even though it was hard. we had never been to disney without my grandma. it was our 1st christmas trip and we kept saying wouldnt grandma love this or that. it was sad but we did enjoy ourselves. i think to give yourself and your girls some time before you go would be what i would do but you know your family best. the one thing we did find was plenty of pennies from heaven while we were there, we knew grandma(aka gege) was watching over us.

 

[tybrilinja]

I am so sorry for this tragic loss to you and your family. I will keep you in my prayers and hope you find the strength to get through this, one day at a time.

 

[princessjv]

I am truly sorry for you and your children's loss. Only you will know your children and what they need. My guess is that your DH would want you to keep going on with life as you both had planned. Given that the trip is soon, you may want to talk it over with your children about moving it to a few months from now. If you decide to keep it as is and go at your planned time, it may just be a bit of needed magic.

My thoughts are with you...

 

[bellebud]

I can't imagine what you're going through right now. I'm so very sorry for you and your family!!

 

[littleteapot]

Praying for you today

 

[Keara'sMom]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.

 

[DisOrBust]

Thank you all and for the PMs. I hope this experience is never shared by any of you. As time has passed I realize there is no way I can go. I can't even walk out of my house let alone a trip. The kids understand even the 5yo.

Here is Dean's death notice if anyone is interested.

http://www.legacy.com/JSOnline/DeathNotices.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonID=116430603

thanks Again!
Sue

 

[The Marsons]

Jusy wanted to say how sorry i am, hugs, prayers and my thoughts are with you and your family right now

 

[emh1129]

Thinking of you and your family..

 

[RadioFanatic]

I am so sorry for your loss - pls know you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[mommy2paris]

Sending prayers & hugs your way.

 

[hugabearjo]

Hugs to you and your family. His obit was done very well. It made me cry and I know that he must have been a very special person. I would have been blessed to know him. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Keep your chin up, you will figure out what to do with the trip. You will know what is right for you and the girls.

Take care,
Jo

 

[mrsltg]

Thank you all and for the PMs. I hope this experience is never shared by any of you. As time has passed I realize there is no way I can go. I can't even walk out of my house let alone a trip. The kids understand even the 5yo.

Here is Dean's death notice if anyone is interested.

http://www.legacy.com/JSOnline/DeathNotices.asp?Page=LifeStory&PersonID=116430603

thanks Again!
Sue

This feeling is very common. When I lost my son I felt like I would never see the sun shine again - and I didn't for a long time. However, you will notice as time passes some things will hurt a little less until you do finally begin your new normal. A week from now is a little quick to expect the new normal but months from now you may decide to rebook your trip. There is no right time and no one right way. Grieving is a life long process and you move through it, you don't get over it.

You're in my prayers. God bless you.

 

[Jakesmom504]

He sounds like a wonderful man...I am so sorry you have to go through this. You and your family are in my prayers.

 

[Paparazzimama]

I'm so blown away by this - my prayers are definitely with you and your girls right now.

 

[Disney Mommy 3]

Oh My! I am praying for you and your girls!! I totally think you made the right decision--I think it may have been too painful at this point. Also, when in grief days go by in a fog it seems and you have trouble keeping up with what day it is. Let alone, travel plans. I will continue to pray for you and your little girls--he sounds like a wonderful daddy/husband. We are sending prayers of comfort and peace to your family.

 

[bethy]

Just take one day, hour, minute at a time sweetie. Someday when the time is right you and your girls will visit the World again. That is a lovely obituary. What a lovely man. Bless you.

 

[skjj2009]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.

 

[misslilysmama]

You and your family are in my prayers.