Help, MIL is on FB and wants to be my friend...

[Creekermom]

Got a dilemma.... MIL is NOW on Facebook... and someone suggested her as a friend... I ignored it.
Now SHE has requested me as a friend.....

My Dilemma is that everything I write will be on HER page... HUM... not that I write anything bad but
I just don't want her in my business....I mean I voice opinions, and little things... we also homeschool and I just think it is just a little to close for comfort...

WHAT DO I DO?

HELP!

 

[clownfish1452]

You could always just add her then delete her at the same people do not get a message telling them you deleted them just that you added them. Then if she askes about it say there must be something wrong with facebook I added you.

Sarah

 

[PrincessKsMom]

My MIL has sent me 3 requests. I just ignore them. I don't want to be friends on facebook. I live in her house. We don't also need to be connected by computer. Time to take a stand and tell her thanks, but no thanks.

 

[ajk912]

You could always just add her then delete her at the same people do not get a message telling them you deleted them just that you added them. Then if she askes about it say there must be something wrong with facebook I added you.

Sarah

I was thinking the same thing!

 

[harleyquinn]

Either add her and delete her or make up some excuse...I stupidly befriended my mom whom I love to death, but she drives me NUTS on FB.

 

[Jenvenza]

That is a tough one. My mom and MIL just got FB pages and they both asked me to be a friend. I didnt want to hurt anyones feelings, so I accepted. Now my mom and dad call me up and ask who this "strange person" is on my FB and how do I know them, ect. I am a 30yo woman with a husband and child, and I have to explain to parents what I am doing and who I talk to on FB! Seriously, I love them to death and knew this would happen. I have threatened to delete them now!

 

[SundancePass]

I am the Mother and MIL who has her own FB page at 62. My DD added me as her friend, but I will NEVER ask to add the DIL or SIL or DS as a "friend" on anything! If they ask me, that's different, but I will never send them a friend request.

It works both ways, everything they post will show up for you too.

While I love my children and their partners with all my heart, I need MY space!

Tell her "no I am not going to add you as a friend". It's that simple.

 

[RadioNate]

That is a tough one. My mom and MIL just got FB pages and they both asked me to be a friend. I didnt want to hurt anyones feelings, so I accepted. Now my mom and dad call me up and ask who this "strange person" is on my FB and how do I know them, ect. I am a 30yo woman with a husband and child, and I have to explain to parents what I am doing and who I talk to on FB! Seriously, I love them to death and knew this would happen. I have threatened to delete them now!

I did the same thing. I'm forever threatening to delete my mom if she keeps asking me questions about it.

My MIL is my friend too.

I didn't know how to get around that one so I just let it be. We don't get along anyway so I really don't care what she thinks.

I have my wall posts sent to private so they don't show up on people's home page. Just the person's that they were sent too.

I also have a 'grown ups' friend list where all my inlaws and parents friends are parked and has restricted access to my page. They can't see all my photos or read every little thing posted but I don't offend by not friending them.

 

[Sandy321]

I did the same thing. I'm forever threatening to delete my mom if she keeps asking me questions about it.

My MIL is my friend too.

I didn't know how to get around that one so I just let it be. We don't get along anyway so I really don't care what she thinks.

I have my wall posts sent to private so they don't show up on people's home page. Just the person's that they were sent too.

I also have a 'grown ups' friend list where all my inlaws and parents friends are parked and has restricted access to my page. They can't see all my photos or read every little thing posted but I don't offend by not friending them.

This is perfect - can you give us the "Facebook for Dummies" instructions on where to find and set the settings? groupings?

When I joined I changed my name so my kids wouldnt know - *duh its linked to email addys!! So I just told them not to add me, and I wont be looking at their pages - lol now they are no longer FB people since graduating college!

 

[saratogadreamin09]

I would just accept here. If your really not writing anything bad then theres really no harm done

 

[Miz Diz]

My mil and I get along very well, but I don't want to be friends with her on fb. She has mentioned being on fb and knows I am on it. Thank goodness she has not asked me to friend her.

Can you just tell her that you rarely get on? If she asks why you didn't friend her, you could say you never saw the request.

 

[MushyMushy]

I talk my friends through this all the time! If you have more than one person you don't want seeing certain things on your page, set up a group for them.

Click on Friends, then All Friends (at top of page).
On the left-hand side, it says Lists. Click on +Create to make a list and name it whatever you want.
Now just click on the friends you want on this list.

Now to hide things from that group, click on Settings, then Privacy Settings (at top of page)
Go through the different sections and do this for everything you don't want that group seeing:
Profile: Click on one of the drop down lists where it says Networks and Friends.
Click on Customize
When the box pops up, it'll say Except These People - now type in the name of that group.

Do that for your wall posts, comments, friends, things like that. Now that group won't see these things you've hidden from them.

You can also use this group to look like you are offline all the time on chat.

Hope this helps!

 

[Plantlady]

I talk my friends through this all the time! If you have more than one person you don't want seeing certain things on your page, set up a group for them.

Click on Friends, then All Friends (at top of page).
On the left-hand side, it says Lists. Click on +Create to make a list and name it whatever you want.
Now just click on the friends you want on this list.

Now to hide things from that group, click on Settings, then Privacy Settings (at top of page)
Go through the different sections and do this for everything you don't want that group seeing:
Profile: Click on one of the drop down lists where it says Networks and Friends.
Click on Customize
When the box pops up, it'll say Except These People - now type in the name of that group.

Do that for your wall posts, comments, friends, things like that. Now that group won't see these things you've hidden from them.

You can also use this group to look like you are offline all the time on chat.

Hope this helps!

This is what I was going to suggest as well. You can also "hide" her.. so you never see her.

 

[Binnie]

My MIL and I do not get along, and I don't want the drama. I blocked her. She can't see that I even exist, supposedly. I like that.

 

[DeluxePrincess]

I've had to create 2 accounts for this very reason. One account is used for parents, inlaws, nieces, nephews, etc. I only post like family pictures and Disney things for them to see. My "real" account is for friends. I've fixed it so that if you are not my friend, you can't see how many friends I have or who they are. If I know a family member is on Facebook, I send the request to them with my "family" account. Nobody has asked about my other account and if they do, I will just say I don't use it much.

 

[LisaNJ25]

Either add her and delete her or make up some excuse...I stupidly befriended my mom whom I love to death, but she drives me NUTS on FB.

same here but know my mom has got me addicted to farm town. She calls me to harvest her crops.

 

[RadioNate]

I talk my friends through this all the time! If you have more than one person you don't want seeing certain things on your page, set up a group for them.

Click on Friends, then All Friends (at top of page).
On the left-hand side, it says Lists. Click on +Create to make a list and name it whatever you want.
Now just click on the friends you want on this list.

Now to hide things from that group, click on Settings, then Privacy Settings (at top of page)
Go through the different sections and do this for everything you don't want that group seeing:
Profile: Click on one of the drop down lists where it says Networks and Friends.
Click on Customize
When the box pops up, it'll say Except These People - now type in the name of that group.

Do that for your wall posts, comments, friends, things like that. Now that group won't see these things you've hidden from them.

You can also use this group to look like you are offline all the time on chat.

Hope this helps!

what she said....

I just have a group for them. No need to mess with 2 accounts etc.

I am also a 34 year old woman and sometime lately I just stopped caring what those people thought of me. I am who I am and there is no sense in hiding that....

 

[dismom2]

I talk my friends through this all the time! If you have more than one person you don't want seeing certain things on your page, set up a group for them.

Click on Friends, then All Friends (at top of page).
On the left-hand side, it says Lists. Click on +Create to make a list and name it whatever you want.
Now just click on the friends you want on this list.

Now to hide things from that group, click on Settings, then Privacy Settings (at top of page)
Go through the different sections and do this for everything you don't want that group seeing:
Profile: Click on one of the drop down lists where it says Networks and Friends.
Click on Customize
When the box pops up, it'll say Except These People - now type in the name of that group.

Do that for your wall posts, comments, friends, things like that. Now that group won't see these things you've hidden from them.

You can also use this group to look like you are offline all the time on chat.

Hope this helps!

Doesn't it also give the option that says, "only these friends", or "only certain friends"? That is where I added who I want to see my wall or get status updates (going on memory here, I think that's what it says for both of those). BUT, it also says, "except these people". Can you do one or the other, or do you have to fill in both spots? Is it better to check "friends only" then fill in the "except these people", or just check "only some friends" and leave the "except these people" part blank? That is what confuses me. Anyone know?

 

[dec5girl]

I have a little joke called "Problems the pioneers never had"...........

 

[MushyMushy]

Doesn't it also give the option that says, "only these friends", or "only certain friends"? That is where I added who I want to see my wall or get status updates (going on memory here, I think that's what it says for both of those). BUT, it also says, "except these people". Can you do one or the other, or do you have to fill in both spots? Is it better to check "friends only" then fill in the "except these people", or just check "only some friends" and leave the "except these people" part blank? That is what confuses me. Anyone know?

There are a few settings that will allow you to pick and choose certain friends who can see things. I do that for things like photos -- like if I have embarrassing photos of me and my friends, I'll just set it up for just them to see that particular album. LOL

Personally, if there were just a few people I didn't want seeing certain things (like some family members), I'd do the "except these people." But if there were just a few people I DO want seeing certain things, I'd do the "only certain friends."

Does that make sense?