Help me settle a debate please!

[mickeylove2]

Ok, so my friend and I are in disagreement about a subject so I was hoping to get some opinions and views from you guys. Here goes...if you are in a relationship and get a tattoo of that persons name on you body, lets say forearm, where it can be seen almost all of the time, and you split up, at what point, if ever, would you have it removed or covered up? What if you are involved in a relationship with someone new in the future, and they ask you to cover it up? Would you keep it as is because, hey it's a part of your past history and that time in your life helped mold you into the person you have become? I won't tell you what I think on this subject, so be completely honest! Thanks

Oops, forgot to add, when you respond, please let me (us) know if you are a man or woman. Thanks

 

[nmmom95]

I would say it has to go.

 

[WDWisTheBest]

Ok, so my friend and I are in disagreement about a subject so I was hoping to get some opinions and views from you guys. Here goes...if you are in a relationship and get a tattoo of that persons name on you body, lets say forearm, where it can be seen almost all of the time, and you split up, at what point, if ever, would you have it removed or covered up? What if you are involved in a relationship with someone new in the future, and they ask you to cover it up? Would you keep it as is because, hey it's a part of your past history and that time in your life helped mold you into the person you have become? I won't tell you what I think on this subject, so be completely honest! Thanks

Q1: removed right away
Q2: see Q1
Q3: no

I won't comment on getting tattoos.

 

[kwitcherkicken99]

When my buddy got divorced from his wife, he had his tatt with her name covered up. They even got back together for a minute, but it's still gone.

Personally, I'd probably get mine covered up if I had a tatt like that.

 

[Anjelica]

Needs to go....

Dated husband since I was 14 and have been married for almost 12 years. I have a couple of tattoos with one prominently placed on the underside of my forearm (6 inches long by 3.5 inches wide) with my two children's name on it. However, I do NOT have my husbands name anywhere on my body nor do I plan to ever - enough said....

 

[PrincessKsMom]

Wouldn't do it in the first place. I know that wasn't the question, but that's my thinking. The only thing I would ever have tattooed on my body is my daughter's name or something of my mom (if I was going to get a tattoo and as far as names go).

I think it should be removed if requested by a future partner. Hopefully the person is smart enough to have it removed and NOT add a new one of the new person. Obviously it's not a good idea.

 

[Scurvy]

I wouldn't get someone's name tattooed on me, so I can't say for sure what I would do. I do think if I did get a name tattooed, then broke up with someone and got seriously involved with someone new, I would have the tattoo removed or covered. I actually think it's terribly inconsiderate to your new partner to keep someone else's name on your body while you are with them. The new partner shouldn't even have to ask you to remove it. To me, it's like continuing to wear an engagement ring from a previous fiance. The only way I could possibly understand keeping the name is if you hadn't actually broken up with the person and they had died. Even then, I'd probably still have a problem with it if my significant other had someone else's name on them.

ETA - Forgot to add, I'm female.

 

[Sorsha]

1. Wouldn't do it in the first place. Blah.
2. If I had a moment of temporary insanity and did do it, and then the relationship ended, I would have the tattoo changed or removed as soon as it became apparent that there was no hope of reconciliation.
3. I would not want it there as a reminder to ME, just as I would not continue wearing a love token such as a promise ring/necklace/engagement ring or (if I were still in high school) someone's letterman jacket, etc.
4. If I were in a relationship with someone else and he asked me to remove it, A. it would be a moot point because I would have already removed it but if I hadn't yet B. I would have to consider it... it would depend on how serious the new relationship was. I don't tend to let my partner dictate what I do with my body/clothing/jewelry/bodily modifications. I would discuss it and take his feelings into consideration.

ETA: As Scurvy posted, there would be an exception if the person whose name was tattooed onto my body had died, not been broken up with. Then I would probably leave it there, because it would be more as a rememberance, a memorial, and I would expect a new partner to respect that and be secure enough to deal with it. But again, I wouldn't put it there in the first place.

 

[PaulaSue]

It has to go/be covered up or I would always wonder if they still loved them.

 

[RadioNate]

1. Wouldn't do it in the first place. Blah.
2. If I had a moment of temporary insanity and did do it, and then the relationship ended, I would have the tattoo changed or removed as soon as it became apparent that there was no hope of reconciliation.
3. I would not want it there as a reminder to ME, just as I would not continue wearing a love token such as a promise ring/necklace/engagement ring or (if I were still in high school) someone's letterman jacket, etc.
4. If I were in a relationship with someone else and he asked me to remove it, A. it would be a moot point because I would have already removed it but if I hadn't yet B. I would have to consider it... it would depend on how serious the new relationship was. I don't tend to let my partner dictate what I do with my body/clothing/jewelry/bodily modifications. I would discuss it and take his feelings into consideration.

ETA: As Scurvy posted, there would be an exception if the person whose name was tattooed onto my body had died, not been broken up with. Then I would probably leave it there, because it would be more as a rememberance, a memorial, and I would expect a new partner to respect that and be secure enough to deal with it. But again, I wouldn't put it there in the first place.

This.

 

[punkin]

1. Wouldn't do it in the first place. Blah.
2. If I had a moment of temporary insanity and did do it, and then the relationship ended, I would have the tattoo changed or removed as soon as it became apparent that there was no hope of reconciliation.
3. I would not want it there as a reminder to ME, just as I would not continue wearing a love token such as a promise ring/necklace/engagement ring or (if I were still in high school) someone's letterman jacket, etc.
4. If I were in a relationship with someone else and he asked me to remove it, A. it would be a moot point because I would have already removed it but if I hadn't yet B. I would have to consider it... it would depend on how serious the new relationship was. I don't tend to let my partner dictate what I do with my body/clothing/jewelry/bodily modifications. I would discuss it and take his feelings into consideration.

ETA: As Scurvy posted, there would be an exception if the person whose name was tattooed onto my body had died, not been broken up with. Then I would probably leave it there, because it would be more as a rememberance, a memorial, and I would expect a new partner to respect that and be secure enough to deal with it. But again, I wouldn't put it there in the first place.

Exactly!

First of all, I don't do tattoos, but if I did, the only names going permanently on my body are names of people I can't break up with or divorce...my children, my mother, my sister.

Boyfriends and husbands (much as I love DH) are not "forever" for many people.

 

[krcit]

Years ago I met a guy as I was crossing the street in NYC(those were the days!) Anyway, he was a construction guy and was wearing a t-shirt. I met him for lunch in the park the next day and he was in a tank top. He had 4 different girls names tattooed on his arms with x's through them I finished my lunch, told him it was nice meeting him and practcally ran back to my office So, to answer the original question...I would expect the tattoo to be covered up but not with an x through it and not multiples!!

 

[WDWisTheBest]

Years ago I met a guy as I was crossing the street in NYC(those were the days!) Anyway, he was a construction guy and was wearing a t-shirt. I met him for lunch in the park the next day and he was in a tank top. He had 4 different girls names tattooed on his arms with x's through them I finished my lunch, told him it was nice meeting him and practcally ran back to my office So, to answer the original question...I would expect the tattoo to be covered up but not with an x through it and not multiples!!

This is one of the funniest posts about tatoos and construction workers. Thanks for sharing. Xs through the 4 different girls names, eh?

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Ok, so my friend and I are in disagreement about a subject so I was hoping to get some opinions and views from you guys. Here goes...if you are in a relationship and get a tattoo of that persons name on you body, lets say forearm, where it can be seen almost all of the time, and you split up, at what point, if ever, would you have it removed or covered up? What if you are involved in a relationship with someone new in the future, and they ask you to cover it up? Would you keep it as is because, hey it's a part of your past history and that time in your life helped mold you into the person you have become? I won't tell you what I think on this subject, so be completely honest! Thanks

Oops, forgot to add, when you respond, please let me (us) know if you are a man or woman. Thanks

Woman 45yo.....and there is no "right" or "wrong" answer here so BOTH of you are wrong.

You can remove or cover a tatoo in the tattoo relationship or out of the tattoo relationship. It is your body and no one else has a say over it.

A future SO can ask for you to cover or remove the tattoo however again it is YOUR body so you can make the decision and the person who you are with has to live with your decision or move along.

 

[krcit]

This is one of the funniest posts about tatoos and construction workers. Thanks for sharing. Xs through the 4 different girls names, eh?

It really was hilarious. You would think he would have learned after the first time I worked for a labor union so I liked tattoss and construction workers, just not those kind!!

 

[mickeylove2]

Woman 45yo.....and there is no "right" or "wrong" answer here so BOTH of you are wrong.

You can remove or cover a tatoo in the tattoo relationship or out of the tattoo relationship. It is your body and no one else has a say over it.

A future SO can ask for you to cover or remove the tattoo however again it is YOUR body so you can make the decision and the person who you are with has to live with your decision or move along.

Thanks everyone for their opinions. Neither 1 of us says there is a right or wrong answer , we both just have different opinions and I asked for others' opinions for my own sanity lol. 1 of us has a name on our arm that is an ex and the new SO is really bugged about it and feels it's a little inconsiderate and feels self conscience about it, whether or not there are still feelings there etc. And the response from said person is that no there are no feelings there anymore but that person is a part of their past and a tattoo is meant to be forever so why should they cover it up?

The other 1 feels the same way as the SO, and doesn't "get" the reasoning behind the fact that they are split up and moved on, why not cover it up???

Of course the SO nor anyone else can force the person to cover up the tat, just curious about others' opinions on the subject that's all.

 

[pixiewings71]

Well I wouldn't get a name tattooed on myself for starters, except maybe my kids (I was considering using their intials in a tattoo) so this wouldn't happen to me but, if I met someone who had a ex's name tattooed on them I would expect it to be covered up. I love tats but not names, unless they are kids. I've known too many people who have wives names tattooed on and then they split up, sort of a turn off for other women to see that.

 

[snowywhite89]

I am a women and I would never want to see another women's name on the arm of a man/husband who I am making love to. It would have to go. Better yet don't get the tattoo in the first place.

 

[NHdisneylover]

I wouldn't get someone's name tattooed on me, so I can't say for sure what I would do. I do think if I did get a name tattooed, then broke up with someone and got seriously involved with someone new, I would have the tattoo removed or covered. I actually think it's terribly inconsiderate to your new partner to keep someone else's name on your body while you are with them. The new partner shouldn't even have to ask you to remove it. To me, it's like continuing to wear an engagement ring from a previous fiance. The only way I could possibly understand keeping the name is if you hadn't actually broken up with the person and they had died. Even then, I'd probably still have a problem with it if my significant other had someone else's name on them.

I agree with ALL of this post but especially the bolded.
I am a woman in my mid 30s, but I asked my husband and he has the same answer.

 

[cm8]

Ok, so my friend and I are in disagreement about a subject so I was hoping to get some opinions and views from you guys. Here goes...if you are in a relationship and get a tattoo of that persons name on you body, lets say forearm, where it can be seen almost all of the time, and you split up, at what point, if ever, would you have it removed or covered up? What if you are involved in a relationship with someone new in the future, and they ask you to cover it up? Would you keep it as is because, hey it's a part of your past history and that time in your life helped mold you into the person you have become? I won't tell you what I think on this subject, so be completely honest! Thanks

Oops, forgot to add, when you respond, please let me (us) know if you are a man or woman. Thanks

Q1: Once we have split the tat would be removed.
Q2:I would cover it up if asked...no one wants to be reminded of
an ex
Q3: Female