Help me fix my faux pau please :)

[npmommie]

Our niece is getting married next month.........we are not able to go to the wedding as it is 1200 miles away and not feasible at this time.
I was invited to the bridal shower end of september, so for the same reason, I did not attend.
but..........here is the faux pas...........I completely forgot about it and have not sent the present yet.
at this point should I send a shower gift , then in a couple weeks send the wedding gift?
or do I just send an extra large wedding gift?
I was planning to purchase something from their registry for the shower gift ( there are still items on there that were not purchased ) and planning cash for the wedding gift.
or should i just send more cash for the wedding gift than I was planning and skip the registry gift?

I can't believe I forgot, its not like me to do that

 

[NMAmy]

I'd send the shower gift along with a note apologizing for being late and then send the wedding check just before the wedding. I don't think this is a big deal--I'm sure the bride will understand.

 

[mcco5543]

I totally agree with the previous poster.

Just send your lovely shower gift. The couple will be so happy to have something from their registry! Send a heartfelt note along with it saying that you hope they understand that the gift is "fashionably late" and congrats!

Don't go on and on about how sorry you are, just make light of it and express your happiness for them. They'll never even realize you forgot or notice that it's late. Then you can send your wedding gift as planned. It truly is the thought that counts and the fact that you are happy for them and celebrating even in spirit is wonderful and I'm sure they couple feels the same way!

 

[Laura]

In my experience, the bride won't really care if her shower present is late. She'll be happy to get another present. Just do what you feel most comfortable with.

 

[Rora]

In my experience, the bride won't really care if her shower present is late. She'll be happy to get another present. Just do what you feel most comfortable with.

Agreed!!

I'm getting married in April and certainly would understand if you just forgot- heck I forget all the time!! Just send the present and a sweet note.

 

[minniebeth]

I agree with Laura and Rora
I wouldn't even apologize for being late, just send with heartfelt sentiments and then send your wedding card/gift in a timely manner.

 

[Scurvy]

You are not obligated to send a gift to a shower that you do not attend. Frankly, since you are 1200 miles away I suspect they didn't think you'd be attending. This means that your invitation was either intended to let you know that they'd love you to be there (even though they figured you wouldn't be) or it was intended as a gift grab. Assuming that you are close to your niece, it was probably meant as a nice gesture and she didn't expect that you would attend and isn't execting a gift. If you want to send one, you should do so. I don't think you should apologize at all for it being late, though. You could enclose a note saying that you wish you could have made it to the shower, which will make it obvious that it's a shower gift.