HELP! I've been asked to be a Maid of Honor......

[Desiree]

What do I do and where do I begin? My good friend, Lori asked me yesterday to be her MOH for her wedding. She just got engaged the night before last. I've never even been a bridesmaid before! I'm very humbled and honored that she asked me but I have no clue where to begin and what are the things I'm responsible for.

HELP!!!!!


Des

 

[debster812]

Desiree,

Congratulations!!! What a nice honor.

My SIL just got married, and her sister (other SIL) was MOH. She found all sorts of cool stuff all over the internet. I will get some of her websites.

I know you have to keep the bride calm, organize any other bridesmaids (you're kind of in charge), you will probably throw her a shower, among other things.

Good Luck!!! and have FUN!

 

[catsrule]

I had a shower for the bride. Also went with her to look at Bride's dresses and bridesmaid's dresses.

 

[Mom2Em]

Congratulations... that is quite an honor!!

I am seconding the advice to surf the internet... it is full of the different information you need!!

 

[crazyme5kids]

The first thing you should do is talk to her. Some brides expect alot from the maid of honor. Sometimes it includes expenses you might not be ready or able to handle. For example I've know brides that have expected very fancy showers that were a small fortune, the maid of honor and bridesmaids have been expected to pay for it on top of buying a big gift. It can lead too hard feelings for those not in a position to do this, yet they feel obligated to do so. I have know other brides that only wanted the maid of honor to be that special person on a special day. Be open and honest about what you can and can do.

 

[LuvTigger]

Congratulations!

I've been fortunate enough to be MOH for two of my friends, and bridesmaid for another.

Good advice offered from everyone here. It really depends on your friend and what's acceptable/traditional to them and in your area.

Because I'm an organizer by nature, I helped my friends throughout the actual planning of the wedding. I don't think that's a requirement of the MOH, but you might at least want to offer your support in the planning stages, offer to go with her to look for reception places, etc.

Also, I've planned bridal showers for my friends. Many of my friends have more than one shower, like a work shower, and sometimes a separate family shower than with the friends. You're probably going to have to feel things out as you go along. If you're close to her family, you could probably talk to her mother and see if she wants to do a family and friend shower. I also threw one co-ed shower where the groom and other men were there. I've done formal and informal showers, it all depends on the friend and the circumstances.

Just keep us posted with the details and the time frames and I'm sure all of your DIS friends will come up with ideas and suggestions for you!

 

[Kallison]

I've been a Maid and Matron of Honor.

1. Shop for bridesmaid dresses, tell her everything she picks out is fine and you will be HAPPY to wear it, even if this entails a bow on your butt that is bigger than your head! I'll never forget my SIL's wedding all the maids were complaining about the dress she picked out for us to wear making her feel bad. When she left the room I said "Hey didn't she wear all the dresses you picked out for your weddings, now you tell her you like it or ELSE!"

2. Organize the wedding shower, you should get financial help from all the maids. It doesn't have to be a bank account buster. I also had all the maids pitch in for one nice shower gift.

3. Remind her about stuff like matching panty hose for the dresses, same color nail polish, same necklaces, shoes, etc. I offered to buy the hose for everyone, and had all sizes and several packages in case of runs. You can return what you don't use. Remember stuff like the good luck penny in the shoe, something old, something new. My MOH made my garter belt which I thought was really nice.

4. Plan a girl's night out to coincide with the bachelor party night.

5. Have a good sense of humor, keep her calm and relaxed on the wedding day.

6. Come up with tasteful, heartfelt slightly humorous wedding toast.

7. Don't tell her the groom is a big fat loser and go haha I told you so when they get divorced 10 years later.

If you are still best friend's after all this then Congratulations!

 

[wendym]

Agree with all the above but the most important thing is just be there for her and help her enjoy it.
Wendy

 

[Fire14]

www.theknot.com
Another is www.weddingchannel.com

Hope these help you out some.

 

[helenabear]

I agree with Fire14, those are some wonderful websites to check out. You've been given some great advice but I think the best is to talk to her and see what she expects of you and to just be there if she needs you