Help!!! Is my vacation ruined?!

[maxiesmom]

I am shocked at how judging some people can be of another's situation without knowing that person or their situation AT ALL.
To those that seem to think my father is a pedofile, get over yourselves, this is a family board.
To those that actually offered me advice, thank you very much.
Not that I think this is anyones business, but, my father wants to go because he lived in Orlando for 35 years. He has not been back in 10. He wants to go and see his friends and family that are still there. He misses his old buddies and band mates. To be honest, he will probably end up getting in more "trouble" hanging out with his old guy friends than I will at Disney. He will not be sitting by the pool all day, he will be out in Orlando, doing whatever he wants to do. He's not going cause he wants to supervise.
My bf is part of our family, he is over almost every night and treats my mother and father like his own. He respects them too so he was ok when I told him my dad wanted to go with us.
That being said, I hope that some of you can learn to respect one another and not go bashing someone elses family.

You came looking for advice and made it our business, so there is no need for you to get upset and snarky. When you post on a public forum looking for advice, odds are you will not like all of it. Maybe next time you could add some more details so that we knew more of what was what.

 

[LSchrow]

I am shocked at how judging some people can be of another's situation without knowing that person or their situation AT ALL.
To those that seem to think my father is a pedofile, get over yourselves, this is a family board.
To those that actually offered me advice, thank you very much.
Not that I think this is anyones business, but, my father wants to go because he lived in Orlando for 35 years. He has not been back in 10. He wants to go and see his friends and family that are still there. He misses his old buddies and band mates. To be honest, he will probably end up getting in more "trouble" hanging out with his old guy friends than I will at Disney. He will not be sitting by the pool all day, he will be out in Orlando, doing whatever he wants to do. He's not going cause he wants to supervise.
My bf is part of our family, he is over almost every night and treats my mother and father like his own. He respects them too so he was ok when I told him my dad wanted to go with us.
That being said, I hope that some of you can learn to respect one another and not go bashing someone elses family.

YEAHHHHH, willow!!!!
personally, i think you are very lucky to have a dad that loves you so much (sound like he loves your BF too ). and, from what i've read, your dad has every reason to be proud of you (i'm proud of you, & i don't even know you!! ).

whatever you decide about the room (i like the idea of 2 rooms, letting dad pay the extra, & all joining up sometimes to enjoy one's another's company, share the day's activities) sounds best.
it is easy to see that you & your dad respect one another , & a good heart-to-heart is all that's needed. whatever you decide, i hope you have an absolutely wonderful, incredible, magical time with the people that you love (& enjoy) the most!!

 

[NJ2Boardwalk]

I don't get it OP? .Your original post made it seem like your dad wanted to come along because he didn't want you and BF to be "alone". YOU asked if your vacation was ruined?? Did we all read it wrong? Now it sounds like he wants to come - but wants to bunk with you. If he just wants to "come along for the ride" then he should get his own room, have his own fun during the day and maybe you all can meet for dinner on some nights, or maybe he can get a 2 day PP and join you for some fun. Good Luck.

 

[mom2my3kids]

I am shocked at how judging some people can be of another's situation without knowing that person or their situation AT ALL.
To those that seem to think my father is a pedofile, get over yourselves, this is a family board.
To those that actually offered me advice, thank you very much.
Not that I think this is anyones business, but, my father wants to go because he lived in Orlando for 35 years. He has not been back in 10. He wants to go and see his friends and family that are still there. He misses his old buddies and band mates. To be honest, he will probably end up getting in more "trouble" hanging out with his old guy friends than I will at Disney. He will not be sitting by the pool all day, he will be out in Orlando, doing whatever he wants to do. He's not going cause he wants to supervise.
My bf is part of our family, he is over almost every night and treats my mother and father like his own. He respects them too so he was ok when I told him my dad wanted to go with us.
That being said, I hope that some of you can learn to respect one another and not go bashing someone elses family.

 

[hammie59]

I am shocked at how judging some people can be of another's situation without knowing that person or their situation AT ALL.
To those that seem to think my father is a pedofile, get over yourselves, this is a family board.
To those that actually offered me advice, thank you very much.
Not that I think this is anyones business, but, my father wants to go because he lived in Orlando for 35 years. He has not been back in 10. He wants to go and see his friends and family that are still there. He misses his old buddies and band mates. To be honest, he will probably end up getting in more "trouble" hanging out with his old guy friends than I will at Disney. He will not be sitting by the pool all day, he will be out in Orlando, doing whatever he wants to do. He's not going cause he wants to supervise.
My bf is part of our family, he is over almost every night and treats my mother and father like his own. He respects them too so he was ok when I told him my dad wanted to go with us.
That being said, I hope that some of you can learn to respect one another and not go bashing someone elses family.

What you said is true about judging another's family when you don't know them. I think most people we're just trying to be helpful, myself included. But you must remember your original post, and I quote, "So, I have planned a wonderful romantic trip for my DBF and I. This will be our first ALONE! Well, today (1 week from my 45 day window might I add) my father decides that we're not allowed to go alone. WHAT?! Apparently at age 22 I'm not allowed to go on vacation unsupervised. But that's not the point here... How do I do this?"

You totally make it sound like your dad is there to keep tabs on you. So I don't think many were off base given your remarks.

 

[maxiesmom]

So, I have planned a wonderful romantic trip for my DBF and I. This will be our first ALONE! Well, today (1 week from my 45 day window might I add) my father decides that we're not allowed to go alone. WHAT?! Apparently at age 22 I'm not allowed to go on vacation unsupervised. But that's not the point here... How do I do this?

We have a standard room booked at Pop, 2 double beds, and we were only planning on using one. Now that my dad insists on going we will need 3 beds! My bf and I can't sleep in the same bed now and my dad needs his own. .


I am almost in tears. I had the perfect vacation planned and now

OP--This is from your original post. If your dad is just going along to visit a friend, why the drama over the sleeping arraingments? There is something else going on here that you need to deal with. Or maybe you don't want to deal with it and that is why you are changing your story.

 

[Mermaid_Ariel]

I don't get it OP? .Your original post made it seem like your dad wanted to come along because he didn't want you and BF to be "alone". YOU asked if your vacation was ruined?? Did we all read it wrong? Now it sounds like he wants to come - but wants to bunk with you. If he just wants to "come along for the ride" then he should get his own room, have his own fun during the day and maybe you all can meet for dinner on some nights, or maybe he can get a 2 day PP and join you for some fun. Good Luck.

Yeah, I just reread it. She said that now that her Dad would be in the room, they'll need 3 beds because her and the boyfriend wouldn't be able to sleep together anymore. I think the OP doesn't know what she wants or something. I don't know what the reason for her snarkiness is just because she didn't like some of our opinions on the information that was given.

 

[mom2my3kids]

 

[ldo]

we got 2 adjoining rooms--BF and me in SEPARATE beds, and sometimes all in motor coach with me, BF and my brother in back room bunkbeds, parents in other room--I was 21--have a fun trip! Elaine

 

[JAHokie46]

I am shocked at how judging some people can be of another's situation without knowing that person or their situation AT ALL.

No offense, but all we know is what you told us. And what you told us was pretty specific- you're 22, had a romantic vacation planned, and you're father forbade it unless he went with you and you want to get a room for the three of you.

To those that seem to think my father is a pedofile, get over yourselves, this is a family board.

Most of that thought it was weird, not that he is a pedofile. It's just weird being a grown up of legal age and sleeping in the same room with a significant other and one of your parents.

Not that I think this is anyones business, but, my father wants to go because he lived in Orlando for 35 years. He has not been back in 10. He wants to go and see his friends and family that are still there. He misses his old buddies and band mates. To be honest, he will probably end up getting in more "trouble" hanging out with his old guy friends than I will at Disney. He will not be sitting by the pool all day, he will be out in Orlando, doing whatever he wants to do. He's not going cause he wants to supervise.
My bf is part of our family, he is over almost every night and treats my mother and father like his own. He respects them too so he was ok when I told him my dad wanted to go with us.

You were the one that made it our business with a pretty clear post that you were very sad/upset, that your vacation is ruined, etc for the specific reason that your father said you weren't allowed without him. If he wants to go and has plans to do things in Orlando other than WDW, why can't he get his own room? Either because you'd like to save some $, or because he wants to supervise. If it's simply b/c he'd like the pleasure of your company, then he's not respecting the fact that this is a romantic getaway for the two of you.

That being said, I hope that some of you can learn to respect one another and not go bashing someone elses family.

The only details we had to go on were what you provided- you sounded devastated that your father simply forbade you to go without him, and that your intent is for all threee of you to stay in the same room. For darn near most of us, that does NOT sound like a romantic getaway. For most of us, that sounds like a father controlling his 22-yo daughter. And what 22-yo wants to sleepin the same room as their significant other and parent? For many of us, we'd just cancel the trip.

Personally, I'd expect a better understanding of the responses you've gotten and a better ability to look at the situation more objectively from someone from such a highly ranked university. But that's just me.

If that's the type of vacation you want, hope you enjoy it.

 

[CyranoJones]

Regardless of the seeming change in story, I'd be having one serious discussion with my husband if he tried suggesting that he stay in the same room with my daughter and her boyfriend when she was 22.

 

[soonerlpn]

If your Dad is going there to see his old buddies he should get his own room off site. Or maybe stay with one of his friends...

 

[Mermaid_Ariel]

No offense, but all we know is what you told us. And what you told us was pretty specific- you're 22, had a romantic vacation planned, and you're father forbade it unless he went with you and you want to get a room for the three of you.


Most of that thought it was weird, not that he is a pedofile. It's just weird being a grown up of legal age and sleeping in the same room with a significant other and one of your parents.


You were the one that made it our business with a pretty clear post that you were very sad/upset, that your vacation is ruined, etc for the specific reason that your father said you weren't allowed without him. If he wants to go and has plans to do things in Orlando other than WDW, why can't he get his own room? Either because you'd like to save some $, or because he wants to supervise. If it's simply b/c he'd like the pleasure of your company, then he's not respecting the fact that this is a romantic getaway for the two of you.



The only details we had to go on were what you provided- you sounded devastated that your father simply forbade you to go without him, and that your intent is for all threee of you to stay in the same room. For darn near most of us, that does NOT sound like a romantic getaway. For most of us, that sounds like a father controlling his 22-yo daughter. And what 22-yo wants to sleepin the same room as their significant other and parent? For many of us, we'd just cancel the trip.

Personally, I'd expect a better understanding of the responses you've gotten and a better ability to look at the situation more objectively from someone from such a highly ranked university. But that's just me.

If that's the type of vacation you want, hope you enjoy it.

Well said!! And I 100% agree!!

 

[Disneylvr]

He's not going cause he wants to supervise.

Then why did you say "my father decides that we're not allowed to go alone. WHAT?! Apparently at age 22 I'm not allowed to go on vacation unsupervised" in your original post? It sounds like you have resolved the situation. And while dad is visiting friends in Orlando go back the room for some afternoon delight if the mood strikes. Enjoy your vacation!!!

 

[maxiesmom]

I forsee a locked thread in the near future. Mom2my3kids, pass me some of that

 

[keylimepie]

FWIW, I suggest next time you plan a trip with you and your bf, you just dont tell dad until you are walking out the door!

 

[Mermaid_Ariel]

Hi Everyone! My name is Abby. I am a 21 year old student at Georgia Tech. My major is Business Management with a certificate in Information Technology. I am on the boards to find some great ideas for my first official "adult" vacation with my boyfriend in August. I hope toy get to know some people and get some great tips and budget ideas here!

http://www.disboards.com/showthread.php?t=709093&page=19

I think the intent of the trip is pretty clear here, too.

 

[Frankiesmom]

can someone pass the popcorn?

 

[LoraJ]

Can he stay with some of his friends?

 

[JAHokie46]

I forsee a locked thread in the near future. Mom2my3kids, pass me some of that

Agree. I'm pretty new here so I don't know much about how quickly/why threads get locked here, but sounds like it's heading that way.