Help!!! Is my vacation ruined?!

[mari360]

I'm sorry about your dilema. But i would suggest to get an extra room. And either you take it for yourself or your dad. I do feel the need to ask why is he going if he doens't go to the parks? But that's just me. Another thing is that you might not be able to get all your money back unless you have the insurance.

 

[bunny]

She is not totally an adult if she still lives at home and her dad supports her.

 

[KayLuvsMickey]

Strange

 

[lilyv]

She is not totally an adult if she still lives at home and her dad supports her.

So, does this mean that Dad can watch anything and everything that goes on with a 22 year old woman?

 

[aspramn]

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[Mermaid_Ariel]

She is not totally an adult if she still lives at home and her dad supports her.

There's a difference between rules to abide by in the home and her living an adult lifestyle outside of it - as long as she is working, going to school and being responsible I don't think it makes her any less of an adult because she is still living at home. She's not laying around all day at home being a bum. I think a lot of young adults stay at home while attending college.

Parenting is about preparing your children for a successful adult life. It doesn't mean smothering your children when they're adults. You teach them life lessons and watch them succeed and help them when they make bad decisions. Sometimes the best lessons learned are the hard way.

 

[WildernessBride]

I totally agree. The fact that her father doesn't even plan on going to the parks means that he just wants to make sure no funny business goes on with his daughter and her BF.

I would tell him no or cancel the trip.

I agree, how silly is it to try and prevent "funny business" from going on while on vacation! Even when I was 22, WDW tired me out , walking all day, getting up early, staying out late....no real time for "funny business." Maybe he doesn't realize that "funny business" could go on all of the time when they are at home!!! If her father can't trust a daughter, who at 22 ,is still good with going on family vacations, has a boyfriend that the family knows and who is enrolled at a good college and is not dropping out to go join the circus, then I think it is he who has the problem. When I was younger, berore I married my DH, I wanted to go away for a weekend to the shore with him, they said no, later my sister in law told me why they said no, "Your dad thinks all you guys care about is "funny business." At least in my case, that was not true, but try telling that to a parent. I just wanted to experience some freedom with my friends on a mini vacation at the beach. I just think sometimes that parents are so concerned with "protecting" their children that they can't see their children as individuals and each case is separate and unique. I feel, based on the info at hand, that the OP could handle going away for a vacation with the boyfriend, with out dad.

 

[MELSMICE]

Do rollaway beds exist at disney resorts? We could afford a moderate (make Dad pay for the upgrade!) and get a rollway for a little more per night?

I know you can get a roll away at POR because we've gotten one before.

I've only read page 1 of the replies, but this is so strange. I'm assuming your dad does not trust you or your boyfriend. Does he realize there are many places for the 2 of you to be alone "together" & that you don't need a hotel room.

Personally, I'd cancel the trip, but that's just me.

Good luck in the future. It sounds to me like your dad is going to try to control many aspects of your life.

 

[Karlzmom]

...while the situation appears to be unusual, based on the response here, I find the whole notion a bit refreshing. Before people flame me, I believe its been pointed out more than once that the OP wanted advice as it related to booking an extra person at the last minute. Granted, the whole side issue as the "why" was unnecessary...the issue was that "how."

However, as we all seem to be focusing on the "properness," I feel the need to weigh in. *rolling up my sleeves and ducking slightly I'm impressed that Dad has not simply abdicated his responsibility at age 18. If your value system says its wrong to cohabitate (even for a vacation), then its wrong at 16, 18, 22, or 40. It wasn't that many years ago that the common conscience of society would have found the situation unacceptable, and I find it an interesting window on society not only how "Acceptable" it seems to be, but the level of distaste and (for some posters here) the anger shown here is nothing short of amazing.

The OP clearly is accepting of the situation, although disappointed. She clearly has the best perspective of the "why" and I think the rest of us should resist the urge to offer unrequested advice.

 

[PEANUT1]

I think if you are living at home you have to follow the rules of your parents. You did say that you understand why he is doing this. This leads me to believe there is some stuff going on that you are not mentioning. That being said, I would cancel the trip. After you have moved out of your parents house, then you can vacation with whoever you like.

When I was 20 I went to Disney with my then boyfriend of only 3 months (he is my husband now). I was still living at home. I talked to my parents about it. My dad was not thrilled but he also didn't try to stop me. It was the best trip EVER!!!! If he had suggested what your dad did, I would never have gone. Too weird and awkward. I bet your DB will not like it either.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

 

[Dorisk3]

After reading the original post- I was pretty outraged- but I guess sometimes we make tradeoffs in life in order to make peace or be happy.

The way I see it- she has two options- completly cancel the trip and show her father that his behavior is unacceptable to her. But then as she loves Disney- she is losing out on her trip.

The other option obviously is to let him come along. I am of the same opinion as the posters that say that she should get a connecting room. I don't know how her dad will react to this either however.

As a 39 year old adult that has had some life experience I will say- my ultimate advice would be to find a way to move out of your house and live on your own. At 22 I was fortunate enough to have a job and be living on my own and no one could tell me how to live. Otherwise really you just have to lump it and deal with Daddy issues. Sadly, sometimes parents hold money issues (the old- you're living in my house blah blah blah crap guilt) over their kids heads and until you remove yourself from that situation you're pretty much stuck.

 

[siestakeys04]

I am not sure if there is more to the story that is missing about why you dad must go on this trip with you. When I was about your age 13 years ago my bf now husband was going to my family reunion my aunt paid for my room because bf and I were going on another trip the next week. Then low and behold my mother and little brother decided to crash in my room without paying my aunt and then had the nerve to say my brother and bf could not share a bed so my brother slept on the floor. It was the most horribilist(SP) trip ever. I felt she had no right to do that.

I regret not speaking up for my self then but now it is a totally different story, if it is something she wants to do or say to my kids I totally speak my mind.

Talk to you dad and see why he is doing this and let him know you dont like it. Is there something wrong with your bf???

I know you live with your parents both the level of respect must be given both ways. Its not like you want your bf to move in their house with you.

Hope everything works out.

 

[patink]

What about just taking a twin size air mattress and using it at POP? I checked on the search engine and lots of people have done it. It's crowded at night but they manage to get the air mattress in by moving the table and chairs when the mattress is on the floor (table and chairs in front of the door or table in front of the window and chairs in the bathroom) and then they prop the mattress up in the bathroom or against the wall during the day. It isn't ideal and it would definitely be "cozy" but it's doable. This way you may only need to pay a small nominal fee for the third adult which I think you have to do at any of the WDW resorts. If you want to have a little more room you could take an air mattress to one of the moderate resorts. Just trying to keep you on site and help you find a workable solution.

Not trying to keep on topic or anything, but I have a question about this. I am actually asking for my own information because I suspect with some of the responses Willow1213 has probably stopped checking in.

If they did take an air mattress would they have to put Dad on the dining plan and get him the same park tickets as well as paying the extra so they were all on the same plan? Just wondering... It might still be cheaper than another room or moving to another resort.

Good Luck Willow1213 I hope things work out.

 

[eliza61]

I don't understand why so many people are flaming the dad. We don't know these people's situation. I don't think OP posted her original post to get a bunch of people who don't know her to tell her to move out, or tell her father off. Maybe the dad doesn't trust the boyfriend? Anyone think of that?
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We're not flaming her dad, at least not intentionally. We're simply saying that in this situation and she used the words "romantic vaction with BF" having your dad in the same room is weird. And if dad doesn't trust the boyfriend why for the love of god would he pay to take a vacation with him? If he doesn't trust the guy, does he spend 24/7 chaperoning.

Sorry I think the responses are pretty appropriate. One generally does not take ones parents on romantic trips with their "honeys"
So in answer to the Op, Yes if your dad stays in the room with you I think your "romantic" vacation with bf will be ruined and no a trundle bed will not cut it for an adult. some one is going to have to share a bed (I'm sure your BF will be thrilled with that.)

 

[fortheloveofamouse]

Good luck Op in finding suitable and comfortable lodging for the 3 of you.

You are not alone, there is no way my parents would have let me go on a trip with my husband before we were married. That kind of thing is just not done in our family. I would have known that from the start though and would have booked 2 rooms. Sorry your dad sprung it on you last minute...

 

[mickeyluv'r]

I think you should call Disney. I'm pretty sure they have rollaway beds at most resorts, just not certain about Pop per say. Otherwise, you could bring an inflatable bed. Might be a bit tight in a value room, but I think it could still be done. Upgrading to a moderate room would give you more space and make the room more managable, but you could probably make it work. Worst case scenario, you could put that inflatable mattress in the bathtub.

As for your package - you can down grade your tickets to one day tickets for now - so everyone is on the same package - then upgrade your ticket and DBF's ticket to however many days you want AFTER your get to WDW. Maybe you can talk dad into going to a park one day - or - you could save his ticket. If he doesn't use it, it won't expire. The overall price won't be affected much - Dad will just have to cough up the bucks for the ticket - and maybe the penalty fee, (like $100) if there is one (only charged if the overall cost of vacation goes down, but may not happen here - you might find a way to avoid it by getting all in your party 'two day' or three day tickets, and then adding more days to your tickets.Even if dad's goes unused - at least you're getting SOMETHING for that money.) Disney should be okay with adding another person to your ressie.

Sometimes when you put things in a solid financial sense toa parent like that - they cave.

 

[lilyv]

We're not flaming her dad, at least not intentionally. We're simply saying that in this situation and she used the words "romantic vaction with BF" having your dad in the same room is weird. And if dad doesn't trust the boyfriend why for the love of god would he pay to take a vacation with him? If he doesn't trust the guy, does he spend 24/7 chaperoning.

Sorry I think the responses are pretty appropriate. One generally does not take ones parents on romantic trips with their "honeys"

And, I'll go out on a limb, most normal parents don't insist they must share a hotel room so they can observe their 22 year old adult daughter and her boyfriend.

 

[eliza61]

And, I'll go out on a limb, most normal parents don't insist they must share a hotel room so they can observe their 22 year old adult daughter and her boyfriend.

That's almost as bad as waking up and finding your parents having nookey in the bed next to yours nightmares for life!

 

[Mouseaholic!!!]

I agree, how silly is it to try and prevent "funny business" from going on while on vacation! Even when I was 22, WDW tired me out , walking all day, getting up early, staying out late....no real time for "funny business." Maybe he doesn't realize that "funny business" could go on all of the time when they are at home!!! If her father can't trust a daughter, who at 22 ,is still good with going on family vacations, has a boyfriend that the family knows and who is enrolled at a good college and is not dropping out to go join the circus, then I think it is he who has the problem. When I was younger, berore I married my DH, I wanted to go away for a weekend to the shore with him, they said no, later my sister in law told me why they said no, "Your dad thinks all you guys care about is "funny business." At least in my case, that was not true, but try telling that to a parent. I just wanted to experience some freedom with my friends on a mini vacation at the beach. I just think sometimes that parents are so concerned with "protecting" their children that they can't see their children as individuals and each case is separate and unique. I feel, based on the info at hand, that the OP could handle going away for a vacation with the boyfriend, with out dad.

Ok, there was PLENTY of funny business when my BF (now husband) and I went to WDW before we were married. WDW IS very romantic!

I do question, however, the control issues here - even if she IS living at home.

Besides......was the holiday in the planning stages for a while. Why is Dad jumping in now?

It seems to be time for a heart-to-heart talk with Dad.

 

[tiger4me2]

I know this is something a lot of people don't agree with, but the OP is trying to respect her fathers wishes, and I agree with her. I'd rather replan my trip to include him. Maybe, and I've seen this with my dad, he sees her growing up and is trying to hold onto his daughter as long as he can. Men don't always handle their little girls growing up very well, and do the best they can. I give the OP credit for being so sensative to her dads obvious feelings about the issue. Maybe that's a part of the problem with so many marriages falling apart these days. Not being able to have "relations" at Disney is certainly not a reason to break off a relationship, not a real, lasting one based on more than the physical. Lets get some perspective. It just shocks me that so many think she should treat her dad so poorly or cancel her trip.

I happen to agree with Kvogel. I know the OP is 22 but she lives at home. She understand her father more than we do. Believe me your parents will not be around forever. My parents were super strict but I lived with it until I got married. I am in my 50's now & my parents passed away & boy do I ever miss them. Sometimes you just got to give a little. And if the BF been along he know how her father is & should respect it. Otherwise the father should get a room to himself. I wouldn't cancel my trip, I am sure there is a soluction to the room situation. They can't get a king size bed & a pullout as who will sleep together in the king size bed? Father & daughter? Now that is strange lol. Just go with two rooms. Have fun & listen to what you think & how you feel. To me to say treat your Dad so poorly & cancel the trip to "show" him is not the answer.