HELP! Girl calling 5th Grade DS!!

[TinkerBelle2992]

dont worry about it. when i was in 5th grade ( im now in 7th ) a bunch ov ppl said they were "going out" ( thats wat we referred 2 it as ) and the closet thing 2 a date ne1 ever did was both families went out 2 dinner. lyk other disers have said, its just a title. the most it ever meant was they liked each other. i wouldnt worry about it.

 

[ginna74]

my daughter is 11 and boy do I hear the stories about who is whos bf anf gf and she did THIS??? or THAT?????? and he is soooo cute and she stole my BF or she tried to steal him and he likes me more and moooooooooooooooooom he doesn't like me anymore. My 7 year gets phone calls from his GF lol

it is all normal

 

[CarolA]

My Brownies told me they have boyfriends so I quizzed them (I mean they are in 2nd grade?) Well it took every bit of will power I had not to start laughing. Half the time they couldn't remember their "boyfriends" name. I asked them if they would let the boyfriend hold thier hand and they said that was GROSS. I asked what they did with the boyfriend... played at recess? Nope, only played with thier girl friends, had play dates? Nope etc....

I decided to ignore this problem until they get a little older. Now my 5th grade troop I monitor. Boyfriends are OK, kissing is probably going to result in a discussion LOL!

 

[chrissyk]

Around here, "going out" at that age consists of calling the person your boyfriend/girlfriend and then IGNORING them at school

The boy next door at our old house was in grade 6 this fall. Over the summer, he kept telling us how he was going to be "going out" with someone when he got to 6th grade. We all teased him a lot about that, because he couldn't specifically tell us WHO he would be "going out" with...just that he was going to be "going out" LMAO! It's a popularity thing, I think. Believe me...if any girl tried to so much as hold his hand, he would have totally freaked out for fear of cooties

 

[HisEllyNelly]

LOL, boy you just brought back some memories. I had a "boyfriend" in 5th grade. Actually we were boyfriend and girlfriend for almost 2 years. It was a title, nothing more. I think we went to the library once and then out for icecream...but that was the extent of it. This was back in the early 80's. The funny thing is I am still in touch with the guy.He is an actor living out in California with his partner and quite happy. He always was a sweet guy, and I have the nicest memories of my first "boyfriend".

 

[skiwee1]

I wouldn't worry about it. We have boyfriends and girlfriends in 3rd grade! That was over 30 years ago! LOL! We didn't go on dates or anything. We didn't even hold hands. It was all in the name of having a boyfriend. My now 21 y/o DD and 16 y/o DS had them in elementary school too. No biggie.

 

[disneygals]

My oldest dd is in 7th grade and started with the "boyfriend" stuff last year. I told her she was not allowed to call a boy (or a girl for that matter) more than one time per day. I don't get upset with phone calls or care how long she talks on the phone, but I know other parents do and want her to respect that.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I started going through that with my oldest son when he was about 5th/6th grade. Those girls can be REALLY persistent.

It was basically the same thing -- a girl calling here 2 or 3 times a night and then friends of the girl calling to pass on messages or do the "she likes you, do you like her" thing.

The problem was, he actually had very little interest in girls then. The girls just seem so much more mature than the boys at that age. The result was, he really didn't treat them very nicely. He would be rude on the phone..hang up on them, etc etc etc. We had to have several discussions on how he didn't have to be a boyfriend, but he did have to treat girls nicely and with respect no matter what. I also said that I was always more than willing to be his excuse "I"m sorry, but my Mom says I can't talk on the phone tonight. I'll see you in school tomorrow."

Now that he is in High School, I worry much more.